So, I had a big argument with my 19th century sexist co-worker

nytemare

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Thu Dec-30-04 06:18 PM
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So, I had a big argument with my 19th century sexist co-worker

We are one of those "wait to work" places, we have to wait for the people to bring work to us. We were watching the new "Manchurian Candidate". A scene with Meryl Streep came on, where she was trying to push her son as the VP candidate, and basically handing the rest of the political big-wigs their balls when my Christian, testosterone filled co-worker blurts out, with energy, mind you, that "SEE, now THAT is why a WOMAN will NEVER be elected PRESIDENT, because they ALL do THAT!"

Ok, I am a woman, I am a veteran, I served in Iraq the first time around, I played Women's Pro Football, and I work now and always have in a male-dominated career field. I like to defy convention. Also, this guy is sort of a do-do, and I, normally being measured in the top 2% of IQ, WAS REALLY PISSED OFF AT THIS COMMENT. I, even being a woman, have seen more and done more than anybody working there. SO, after a female co-worker and I debated a bit with him on it, saying that ALL women are not like that, and him saying, well, in my experience, they are, I told him no one made him get married. Then I calmed down a bit, and just said to him, "hey, you know really I found that comment pretty insulting." His eyes got real big, he pointed at me and said something to the effect of "Well, let me tell you, that is MY OPINION and if YOU DON'T like it I DON'T GIVE A SHIT!"

OHHHHHHHHH let me tell you, then it was on. I am not a dime dropper type, after that original comment I could have just been quiet and went and initiated a hostile work/sexual harrassment case, but I would rather just tell somebody to their face that there is an issue, I find as a human being that is a more effective way to deal with people than to do some kind of bullshit behind their back. So I, being a consciencious adult, decided I will just tell it to him, and leave it at that.

He said that "you can't tell a woman she is wrong, you can't reason with a woman." A little projection going on here? I said, "so all women are in the same boat." and again he said "yes, from what I've seen." I brought up that our current president cannot pronounce the word "nuclear", but still he persisted in his belief of a lack of emotional control in women. I tell him again that all women are not the same and that the comment is prejudicial, and I have to walk away because I feel like I am going to slap his Uncle Fester bald ass head.

I was standing outside the door, and I hear them still going on, talking about me, and I walk back in, I said, "why don't you talk about me where I can hear it, so I can respond, or is it always just he who talks the loudest wins the argument? And being so inferior and all I could take the math test for you so you can pass it this time!" So he walks away, walks up the hallway, and then comes back and attempts a half assed apology, I said I would not accept a forced apology, the time to apologize would have been when I originally commented that he was insulting, and that rather than go behind his back and drop a dime(like he so frequently does) I thought it more prudent to tell it to him. Then I just walk away up the hallway, and he said, "god, you're acting like a little kid!" and I walked BACK up the hallway, and said "WHO is acting like a kid here, I tell you that I thought something you said was insulting, and you tell me to shove it, who is the child??" Then he keeps saying, "you're acting like a kid, like a kid, Boss, stop her, you're acting like a kid." It was like kids going to their parents, "tell billy to stop poking me, billy is poking me, tell him to stop!!"
So my supervisor says, both of you need to stop, just settle down. I was pretty much aggravated the whole night by this idiot generalization. I have realized in life and from my travels that EVERY group has it's good and bad, every religion, every race, each sex, each organization, each political party, this is just a human reality. He seems to not realize this. He is headstrong and you cannot tell him is wrong, or even get him to look at things through somebody else's eyes in a calm manner.

I have a feeling though, that my head supervisor will hear about this from him, because he is a dime dropper, and I will be prepared if that is the case. I am just happy I will be transferred from there on the 12th of Jan.

Thanks for listening to the ramble...LOL.