First cousins with the same middle names, wrong?

[Momgonepostal]

OK...tell me honestly. Am I wrong for letting this bug me?

My sister wants to use the name Claire for a middle name for her new baby. That's my oldest daughter's middle name as well. It's not a family name, so it's not like we're both honoring Grandma. We picked the name because we liked it. I suggested that she might want to choose something else since it had already been used in the family. She thinks my daughter would find it flattering. Am I being petty?

[madmom]

1. My husband, his son from 1st marriage..

and our son together all have the same middle name,my son gave his daughter the same middle name as his sister. None were family names. I would feel honored.

[deadparrot]

2. My mom and her sister have the same middle name,

and my middle name (Elizabeth) is my mom's first name.

Honestly? I don't think about it very much. When I ask my mom about her and her sister's shared middle name, she just smiled, rolled her eyes, and said offhandedly, "Your grandmother was very unoriginal." I honestly don't think that they give it a second thought, either. :)

[Kali]

3. Its not petty if its going to bug you for the rest of your life!

The kids won't care - might even bring them close, sharing a name. But if it bugs you now, its liable to bug you even more later. Of course it may bug your sister if you say you aren't comfortable with it - don't let it come between you. See if you can come to terms with it. Nothing wrong with it really, even if its not a "family" name now, it could sure become one, especially after being shared by two cousins - you might be starting a new tradition.

[Left Is Write]

4. My daughter's middle name is the same as my sister's middle name.

And my other daughter's middle name is the same as my mother's middle name.

Honestly, if one of my siblings wanted to use the same middle name as one of my children, or one of their first names as a middle name, I probably wouldn't think twice about it.

[yellowdogintexas]

5. middle name? I wouldn't sweat that. It could get confusing if

they had the same FIRST name. Both the girls go by their first names?
Your daughter will most likely think it is pretty cool that her new baby cousin has the same middle name.

My uncle's wife was named Mary Carlisle Moseley and her first cousin was named Mary Harding (don;t know her last name). All their lives they went by their middle names, Harding and Carlisle ..the Mary was their common grandmother and the middle names were from other parts of the family.

btw Claire is the BEST name, (and I should know, I R 1) but I was named for my grandmother. And it is becoming more popular, especially as a middle name, I have notice.

on a lighter note, my mother threatend all of us with a severe afterlife visitation if wa (1) named any of our kids Dorothy or (2) gave any of our kids the same first name. This was because she had enough trouble calling US by our right names; she didn't want grandchildren with the same names. So there went Sarah as a name for our daughter ( I wouldn't have used it anyway, too confusing), but my daughter's middle name was almost Anne, which is my mother's middle name, my sister's middle name and Sarah's middle name. We went with Suzanne instead, it sounded better.

[Beware the Beast Man]

6. No, my sisters did it.

Both gave their daughters the middle name Elizabeth, which is our mother's name. I plan on skipping the middle name thing and just using Elizabeth as her first name.