question to the girls

[ffm172]

do you write crazy letters and emails to your bf / hubby at 3 in the morning when you miss them like crazy and can't sleep. And when PMS is hitting on you also?
Why are we doing that?

[xmas74]

1. I have no one to write them to!

[ffm172]

2. in that way you are lucky

I did last night. My bf just called me to tell me I have nothing to worry about whatsoever. But he was pleased that opened to him as I did in that email.

[xmas74]

3. Not that lucky for me.

Besides, you will see him this weekend, right? Think of all naughty things that you plan on doing to him and you will be fine.

[ffm172]

4. yes I will see him Friday

and believe me, it will get naughty .... :evilgrin:

but sometimes I could bite my ass to even write such emails. I know he loves me and I don't need to worry. I am just insecure once in a while because I never had such a man before in my life.

I hope you find a new man soon. And a very good one.

[xmas74]

5. someday I will be ready to look

but not right now. Still nursing old wounds from the last one.

[ffm172]

6. understandable

but sometimes the right one shows up at the moment you expect it the last

[xmas74]

7. That would be nice.

Instead of going out looking they find me.

[ffm172]

10. that happened to me

he showed up when I wasn't looking. In January/February I decided for myself I am happy right now being a single and just want to have my fun. What happens? In May he pops up, we meet and hit it off right away.

[xmas74]

12. I'm just happy being a mom.

I want a relationship when I get lonely. Sometimes I wish I had one every time a friend has a new baby (it's hard not to want another baby, especially when you hold them and they smell so good). Then I just give up and figure that it won't happen and I need to make the best of my life w/o depending on a man to fulfill me.

[ffm172]

14. no question that one should be content to be alone

and you have your daughter but it is a nice feeling to have one that loves you and vice versa

[supernova]

8. PMS and relationships

I don't have a relationship and haven't since I left my marriage 9.5 years ago. It was the best decision I've ever made.

But, for some wierd reason, when I'm PMSing is when I miss a relationship (a good and decent one) the most. Who knows? :shrug:

[ffm172]

9. aren't hormons a horrible things

last time I had PMS my bf couldn't come due to work even though we thought we could see each other (we have a weekend relationship at the moment). When he told me on the phone I started crying. He was pretty shocked and so was I. Never happened to me before.

[xmas74]

11. Replied back to pm.

Time to log off for a while. Gotta get the monster baby ready and off to school. Talk to you later!

[ffm172]

13. ok, talk to you later

read you pm

[SarahB]

15. Not anymore.

They weren't appreciated unless he was in the mood for them. I mean that in terms of more than one he in my not so wonderful experiences.

Until I'm convinced otherwise, my only use for men will be killing bugs high on the ceiling where I can't reach and for sex. Call me bitter. Call me realistic. :shrug:

[ffm172]

17. fortunatly my bf appriciated what I wrote

it was more self critic about myself and how I hate that if effects him. He called me at lunch time telling me not to worry.

But it is a bitter feeling to write something from the heart and the other end is not appreciating it.

[WinterStorm]

21. Sex

Whats that?

[Amaya]

24. " my only use for men will be killing bugs high on the ceiling

where I can't reach and for sex. "

I'm with ya on that! ;)

[VelmaD]

36. Two suggestions...

buy a step-ladder...and toys. ;)

[SarahB]

43. Got 'em both.

May I render them all obsolete now, Mistress Velma? :D

[VelmaD]

49. Sure. Go for it.

Leaves more of them for me. Plus I'm sure the "other team" will be glad to have you on board. ;)

[SarahB]

53. Oh, I don't think I've given up on anything yet.

There's just too many interesting offers on the table right now. :D

[Freebird12004]

16. They become part of every thought.

Love makes us want to share everything with our beloved.

Some of the most telling emails I've ever written were between 3:33 and 4:44, in the still of the night while the world around me lay sleeping.

[ffm172]

18. hello freebird

how ae you today :hi:

I could tell him thousand things why I love him every day, sometimes I need to hold myself back because otherwise it is getting too mushy ... lol

[Freebird12004]

28. Good Morning ffm

When I was in-love with * D * I sent him long emails about everything. Now that I'm not involved with anyone, I still don't get anymore sleep because I find myself composing drafts in my semi-slumbering mind.

and on the brighter side of my life :hi: Today is sunny. The forecast is showing temperatures of 40 degrees for 4 of the next 7 days ... so I'm smiling !

The Harley V-Rod Lovin house-mate promises to finish the quill work on the Trike because it needs to be clear-coated this week.

[ffm172]

I had troubles last night to fall asleep

I logged off from DU a bit before 1am. Wrote that email to my bf around 2.45am and finally went to sleep around 3.30am. Had to get up at 6.30am, so I had only 3 hours of sleep.

How did your doc's appt go?

[Freebird12004]

33. I put the appointment off until this Thursday.

I'm concerned but not worried. I promise not to; run any marathons, shovel snow or rip anyone's arm off so I can beat them over the head with it ... until after a stress test says it's OK to return to my normal crazy ways.

Watch it ... on only 3 hours of sleep you could morph into someone like me.:scared:

[ffm172]

34. would that be so bad?

to morph into someone like you?

[Freebird12004]

39. The world would be a better place.

if there were more people like me.

People do say smiles are contagious and love is the answer.

I believe a little bit of kindness can go a very long way.

[ffm172]

42. there are two sayings I live by

1: a day without laughing is a lost day
2: don't do to other people what you don't want to be done to yourself.

[Freebird12004]

50. Lessons in Living Life 101

should be taught in every school because sometimes it isn't at home.

Both of your sayings are good guidelines to live by.

The Golden Rule seems to have been forgotten by too many people.

[ffm172]

52. yes, sometimes it wouldn't be bad to get taught those things in school

[ComerPerro]

20. Then my girlfriend must really love me, because

she shares every single thought with me, all the time. Nonstop.

The other day we were driving home from Topeka, and she asked "What do you want to listen to?"

I replied "It doesn't matter. I won't be able to hear it anyway."

:evilgrin:

We joke around a lot, and are usually pretty open.

[ffm172]

22. lol

joking around is always good. Me and bf do that also. He likes to tease me a lot.
And sharing everything that goes to her mind? - yes she really loves you

[Freebird12004]

31. sounds wonderful ... if you can hear it

over her lovely voice .... Ain't Love Grand! The quiet would be deafening if she weren't there.

[Bertha Venation]

19. I used to write such things to Mrs. V., before I moved to the east coast

to be with her.

Of course, in those days, she arrived at work at 6:00 AM, so more often than not, if I couldn't sleep for missing her, I'd get to chat with her.

There's nostalgia, but I can't say I MISS those days. I'm much gladder to be with her. :loveya:

[ffm172]

23. I believe you

I rather would be living together with my bf also. But at least this year is not possible. But I sure look forward to the day we move together.

[Bertha Venation]

25. Where is he?

I see you're in Frankfurt.

[ffm172]

26. he is in Stuttgart

about 2 hrs drive away. Not that much but due to his work we barely see each other.

[Bertha Venation]

27. well, here's a hug for you

:hug:

I hope to visit Germany one day. Among other things, I want to open a phone book and find pages and pages and pages with my last name in them! Hehe.

[ffm172]

29. may I ask what your last name is?

pm it to me.

thanks for the hug.

[BlondieK143]

30. No.

Because most of the time, they half-ass read things and it doesn't really register anyway. I guess I'm cynical and have been hurt too many times. More than likely if you're telling a man (very often) how much you miss him, care about him, can't life without him, it only pushes him further away. :shrug: Maybe I've just been involved with the wrong men.

[ffm172]

32. wow, from what you tell me

I really am lucky with my bf. It is not pushiung him away at all. He ain't writing stuff like I do but he certainly reads my emails and shows me in other ways how much he loves me.

I hope you find the right man/men. You are still young, and guys at that age are still kids. Ok, the stay kids but do grow up a tiny bit ... lol

[BlondieK143]

37. Everyone who finds love is lucky.

:) Hope you enjoy it and have many more happy times to come!

[ffm172]

40. I hope so too

does it sound strange when I say that I have the feeling with him that we will be together for the rest of our lives? He is for sure the first man I want to be together for many many years to come.

[BlondieK143]

44. It's not strange.

I'd just take one day at a time. :) Seriously though, good luck!

[ffm172]

46. oh I take day by day

and I am trying my best to make the best out of our relationship.

[Freebird12004]

35. They musta been brothers!

Good morning Blondie :hi:

I've known some of those clueless men or perhaps I was the one who was clueless because I still wrote those "I love you emails".

Have a :hug:

[BlondieK143]

38. That's why I stopped.

I'm tired of giving 150% and getting 50 back. Don't think so. Not anymore. :) Fuck 'em. hehe

:hug: Good to see ya!

[Freebird12004]

47. yikes

I go through feeling exactly that way from time to time. That's why my last serious love may have truly been my last love. But ~ I'm still going to have fun till my dying days!

Spring time is honey-hunting time! Every living thing looks for something sweet. Guess what ...:evilgrin: ... It's almost Spring!

[ffm172]

48. Enjoy

and let out your wild sides :)

[Freebird12004]

51. I agree

But, I can't be too wild. I was never any good at hiding in plain sight.

[SarahB]

41. Similar stuff.

If he says mushy stuff to you, it's ok, but on his terms. It's about control. I've been down enough roads with enough life experience to know that and I don't play those games anymore. Nobody owns me.

Honesty. Openness. Dialog. That's how grown-ups deal with things and too often it seems to be difficult for the other gender.

[BlondieK143]

45. Exactly.

I'll still never understand why everything has to be on their terms, but I suppose that's one of the lessons you have to learn. Kind of a double standard, but it'll save US the hurt in the long run. I just don't think they know how to articulate their feelings.

[Bouncy Ball]

54. I think I've been with mine too long.

Fifteen years this summer. Though we are rarely apart, so maybe that's it.

:shrug:

I do still love him like crazycakes, though.

Sorry you are missing yours!!!

[ffm172]

56. congrats on your 15 years

I am sure those 15 years weren't all sugar coated. And it is great that you still love him that much.

[Bouncy Ball]

57. Aw, thanks.

And he worships me. I require him to bring me home a cake or jewelry or flowers every day.

Kidding, of course. Mine's half-German though (stereotype alert!) so I had to tame him a bit. He didn't come out of the box the way he is today.

LMAO!

[ffm172]

58. aren't they all a bit to be worked on

my bf is American. What can I say. I am very happy with him and I really hope that this relationship is holding a long long time

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

55. No, my husband had never been away from me for that long. n/t

[WindRavenX]

59. yuppers

And it sucks when his cell phone is dead and therefore can't call ;(

[ffm172]

60. oh yeah it sucks

or waiting for a call from him when he is on a busines trip or in the States and I can't even reach him because I have no number. Fortunatly the cells work here all over Europe but when he is in the States ... every day is worse till he finally calls or sends an email

[WindRavenX]

61. I honestly don't *need* him to call everyday

But goddammit, I love the crazy bastard and I love talking to him; the instant I hear his voice I feel all light-headed, like taking a shot of vodka on an empty stomach. Such a rush.

[ffm172]

62. In the beginning I went almost crazy

if I didn't hear from him for a day. Now that I am more sure about him and our relationship I can go a day or two without talking to him. But because I rarely see him our phonecalls are important to me.
And I feel the same like you when I hear his voice or see him. Butterflies filling up my stomach.

[WindRavenX]

63. yup I hear you

I'm quite independent w/ regards to these things, but it's always nice to look forward to a nice conversation at the end of the day.
It sounds like we're in the same boat- we only get to see each other every other weekend coz he lives in Maine and I live in Boston,so I feel ya sister :hug:

[ffm172]

64. thanks

long distance sucks. But then it makes the relationship more intense on the times you see your partner. For me when I see him it is like falling in love with him all over again and like it is the first date so anxious I am to see finally seeing him again after the separation.

:hug: