Do you love children?

[Deja Q]

I do not hate children.

I lack the emotional stamina to raise a child.

I cannot afford a child.

People have even told me I wouldn't want children.

Heck, I don't have the guts to MAKE a child and I don't think it'd be fun trying. Not that anybody wants me anyway. :shrug:

Does that make me a bad person for wanting to have nothing to do with children?

[HEyHEY]

1. Not really

Unless they are particularily interesting or funny ones.

[NaMeaHou]

2. Do you mean human children?

Aren't we all children of the universe?

(cue a psychedelic song now)

Across the Universe!

[Deja Q]

3. *smile*

:-)

That cheered me up, thanks!

[Wcross]

4. I hate 'um!

Damn kids- they should be seen and not heard! I don't like children, please control yours when you go out in public!

[Darranar]

14. Why?

[lindashaw]

5. No, it makes you smart. I had children when we didn't have access

to ways of not having them. We learned to be parents because we had to, and I've been married for 47 years with 3 children.

But I would really think about bringing a child into this mean, polluted world. Children are quite often born sick, and they're very expensive. Unless you're really ready, it's just not fair to the child. These are hard times.

Good luck! And love all the children of the world who don't have anyone to love them.

[DoNotRefill]

6. Nope, that's illegal here....

not to mention just plain icky... :evilgrin:

[Shanty Oilish]

7. It hurts, for sure. It's irrevocable. Time consuming.

Oh well! I love mine. Should've had more, was too d--- lazy and foolish. You can't go out and buy family.

[Nevernose]

10. Of COURSE you can buy family

You can buy mine, at a low, low discount price...So low, in fact, that I'll pay YOU to take them!

[laura888]

12. your post makes me doubt...

...my ability to know whether I want or don't want children....

I love children... but I think my self-absorbtion would be a problem.

I think...

[bicentennial_baby]

8. Can't stand 'em

I'm not a kid person, with very few exceptions. Don't want any, not having any. So no, I don't think it makes you a bad person :-)

[NightTrain]

9. I adore children!

Infants and toddlers, in particular. They're too young to develop any bullshit affectations; all they know is having an open heart and wanting to be loved and taken care of. And I wish I could always feel as serene as I do when I rock a baby to sleep!

My last girlfriend had an 18-month-old son. He was the most adorable little guy you could imagine! I really grew attached to that baby--which made the eventual break-up all the more painful for me.

[xJlM]

11. Well, of course

I don't have any, but that's ok. I can love other folks kids enough, and they get to take them home. The thing is, I don't have to put up with them 24 hours a day.

[Skip Intro]

13. Not unless I'm a bad person too

I have nothing against children, just don't like to be around them for any extended period of time. They make me crazy. Cannot stand the yelling and screaming and tantrums.

Funny thing, tho. I have this suspicion that children are among the most insightful and enlilghtened creatures on earth. Uncorrupted and unjaded and all.

Still, I can only take them in small, small doses. I doubt I'll ever have kids of my own.

[populistmom]

15. I like my own more

I love babies- all babies (I've worked with moms and new babies before and plan on doing more in this field), but the years between 2 and 5, I wish I could put them in suspended animation only to come out more mellow and potty trained. I find myself annoyed though with a lot of children other than my own (okay even my own at times). Some people seem to have these "trophy kids" to dress up, but they don't want to do the work. To do a decent job, it takes work.

Sarah

[Ilsa]

16. No, you are not a bad person.

I think alot of people have children for very selfish reasons and they turn out to be rotten parents because the situation is out of their "control".

Children should only be brought into the world by parents who want to love them and raise them. Children require alot of patience and special care; they are not miniature adults, but have very specific needs according to their developmental ages.

I recommend that unless you have a strong desire to not only have children, but spend some time learning how to be a parent, you just say "No" to parenting.

I know some people won't like that advice, but it's how I feel. I work with new moms, and nothing makes me sadder than to see a mom who acts like she doesn't want to be one.

[Mikimouse]

17. They're Ok in general

I prefer chicken though:evilgrin:

[Ellen Forradalom]

18. I love children

but no, it doesn't make you a bad person. There's no shortage of human beings in the world; why add to the crowd if you don't want to?

To those who are concerned that your self-absorption might disqualify you: if you otherwise want children, you should not let that stand in your way. Self-absorption lessens over the years, particularly after you've spent a few years taking care of someone else.