My Mom was found dead. I have to fly back to Boston.

[maveric]

Grace C. Lenane, 72. She didnt answer her phone for 2 days, so my uncle checked on her and had to break down the door. She was dead of apparent natural causes.
This lady was my hero. She held the family together during some bad shit over the course of the past 45 years. She was my "Rock".
I have to fly back to Boston with my brother. I'm in San Diego, he's in San Jose.
I'm still numb and it really hasnt hit me yet.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

1. I'm so sorry!

:hug:

[CanuckAmok]

so sorry, maveric.

hang in there.

[Historic NY]

2. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[nadinbrzezinski]

3. My condolences and may she rest in peace

[ffm172]

4. my condolences

:hug:

I am so sorry to hear. That is a horrible way to find out.

[JohnKleeb]

5. I am sorry you lost your mom, sounds liek a great lady

[maveric]

14. She did it all.

My late dad was B-polar, he died in 2000, my youngest brother was schizto and a herion adict who OD'd in 1996. She was glue that held our family together for all these years.
My other brother and I have so much to do when we get back. There's the funeral, house, investments....so much that its overwhelming me right now.

[JohnKleeb]

21. must have been a tough lady, yeah sounds hectic man

[maveric]

25. I called her on Wenesday.

She seemed ok but was a little down because my Dad's birthday was the 28th(today), he'd have been 75, and she was a bit lonely and depressed about that. She just failed her drivers test for renewal and wasnt too pleased about that either.

[mike_c]

6. I am so sorry....

That's so hard. Please accept my condolences and give all of our best to your family. :grouphug:

[saracat]

7. Wow! My condolences. Peace and love.

[chookie]

8. My deepest condolences

What a horrible shock. My heart aches for you in the time of the loss of this extraordinary woman.

This is so sad.

[CubsFan1982]

9. You have my deepest sympathies.

I lost my uncle in July, a very special man, too, so I have some idea of what you're going through. Your family will be in my prayers. :hug:

[JVS]

10. Sorry for your loss

[rockymountaindem]

11. I'm so sorry.

Peace be with you.

[Maat]

12. May she rest in peace!

May her energy always be available to you to form a protective and guiding shield around you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take care.

You are in our prayers.

We honor her memory - it was great to have such a courageous and loving person on this Earth.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

13. I'm very sorry for your loss

I offer you my condolences to your loss. :hug:

[candle_bright]

15. My condolences

I am so sorry.

[Heidi]

16. Guidance and protection, maveric . . .

to you and yours. Your mom sounds like she set a wonderful example of strength in your family.

[Metatron]

17. My condolences to you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[madrchsod]

18. sorry for your loss

sounds like she was a very good person and she will be missed but remember she will never leave your side.i lost my mom almost two years ago and she`s still with me...funny how that works. peace be with you and your family

[MADem]

19. So sorry. SO SORRY. Some practical advice:

Pack layers. It is very wet and rainy here. Temps have been all over the charts, it is trying hard to be spring, but it hasn't happened yet.

I know packing advice seems superfluous, but you've got a long road ahead of you in the grieving process, so you probably do not want to be freezing or unsuitably dressed on top of everything else.

Again, my deepest sympathies.

[maveric]

20. I dont own a coat. I'm in SoCal. I have some warm, wool sweaters

though.

[MADem]

28. That'll do, you can layer if need be

If you have a windbreaker or rain jacket, wear that as well.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Here's a fast link to the wx for the week: http://www.intellicast.com/Local/USLocalStd.asp?loc=kbos&seg=LocalWeather&prodgrp=Forecasts&product=Forecast&prodnav=none Essentially, rain off and on, temps trying to hit 50, colder (in the high 30s) at night. No snow anticipated.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

70. Bring an umbrella and a good raincoat if you have one

again, maveric, my condolences.

[Fridays Child]

22. So, so sorry! Hugs to you and your brother. Sounds like...

...she was a great lady. And how cool that you had such a loving relationship with her. No mom could ever ask for more. :hug:

[Technowitch]

23. *hugs* Take care and safe travels, Maveric

[FreepFryer]

24. She's still a part of you - now, more than ever. Feel her soul within you.

Best of wishes while you begin to adjust to life all over again.

[maveric]

26. Thank you!

[I_Make_Mistakes]

32. My condolenscenes

I am sorry to hear about your mom, I can't even imagine life without mine. I think you can be comforted in the fact that at least she did not have a long sustained suffering. It sounds like she passed peacefully, and that is a blessing.

You have a lot of responsibility right now, but allow yourself time to grieve and don't stress yourself out with all the legal crap.

I wish you solace in this time.

[BrklynLiberal]

27. Terrible news. So sorry.

[MrScorpio]

29. I'm so sorry for your loss

My sincere condolences

[sandnsea]

30. So very sorry

My mom passed a few years ago. It is a crazy time, for quite a while. I knew my mom was sick, sounds like this is more out of the blue and quite shocking. Don't put burdens on yourself, do what you can when you can. And hug alot. :hug:

[GetTheRightVote]

31. Worst time in the world losing your mom, I am so sorry

I still cry all the time over my father's passing.

:kick:

[Tom Kitten]

33. I'm very sorry....

the very idea of a mom dying makes me tearful...I'm so sorry!

[snowbear]

34. We'll be right here....

when you get back.. please let us know if there's anything at all we can do.

:grouphug: ~~ We're here for you. ~~ :grouphug:

[RevolutionaryActs]

35. I am so sorry.

:hug:

[JohnnyCougar]

36. My condolences!

May strength and peace be with you!

[Tsiyu]

37. Sorry to hear this, maveric

Safe travel. :hug:

[Fenris]

38. You have my deepest sympathies.

:(

:hug:

[enigmatic]

39. I'm so sorry.....

[Piperay]

40. I'm so sorry

you have my deepest sympathy. :hug:

[Dookus]

41. how awful...

I'm so sorry, Maveric.

[Az]

42. I am very sorry to hear this

I can only say that we will be here for you when you return.

[Bossy Monkey]

43. All sympathies to you, your brother, and your entire family. n/t

[Swamp Rat]

44. Peace to you maveric... I just lost a family member 2 days ago.

:hug:

My aunt passed away... the last great matriarch of the family and one of my heroes too. :cry:

[Piperay]

49. Very sorry

for your loss Swamp Rat. :hug:

[non sociopath skin]

45. My heart goes out to you and your family, my friend.

My deepest condolences. Be strong.

The Skin

[leftofthedial]

46. I'm sorry maveric

Sounds like a great lady.

My Mom's not doing too well.

Celebrate your Mom's life!

[fleabert]

47. I am so sorry.

You and yours are in my thoughts, peace.

[Lone_Wolf_Moderate]

48. Dear God. That's horrible. My heart goes out to you.

[Bunny]

50. Oh no. I'm so sorry.

My condolences on the loss of your mother.

[Skittles]

51. I'm so sorry, maveric

we are here for you

[hlthe2b]

52. I've been there (both parents) and send my deepest sympathy...

That numbness lingers a very long time--nature's way, I guess of helping us cope. Please understand that the grief may really hit hard much, much later and prepare for it if possible. Friends and family may be needed even more a year from now. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sure you'll find that strength that she instilled in you--your final tribute to HER.

[thinkingwoman]

53. my condolences nt

[Freebird12004]

54. I'm very sorry

Her words, love and guidance will remain in your heart to carry you forward through out your life. :hug:

[Maestro]

55. So sorry

You have my condolences.

[maveric]

56. Thank you all for your thoughts and heartfelt condolences.

I cant sleep so I made coffee.
Ma was the oldest child of Antonio and Nunciana Casticone, born in Lawrence MA 3/3/33 to a working-class Italian/American family. Her brother, John was born in 1935.
She worked since the age of 10 while going through the public school system. One of her early jobs was working at the Lawrence Boys Club as a desk clerk, turning her whole paycheck over to my grandparents in support of the family. In 1950, at age 17 she graduated from Woodbury High School in Salem NH after her family left the urban plight on Lawrence for the new suburb. She met my dad there, an Irishman from a similar background, who's family also escaped Lawrence MA. They courted for 5 years before marrying in 1954. Ma & dad were the the first in either families to "break the ethnic bloodlines", much to the disdain of the families. They stay married for 46 years till Dad died in 2000. They said that it would never work out. They were wrong.
Ma was one of the few working mothers during the 60's. She went to secretarial school and got a job as the secretary to the principal at Salem High School, NH. Six principals came and went but Ma hung on. She left the year I became a freshman at that school and went on to be the secretary to the president of the MFE Corp. One of the early developers of test equipment and the floppy disc. Later she moved up to Personnel administrator, a position she held for 12 years till downsizing occurred. After her lay-off she was a legal secretary till her eyesight and aneurysms forced her to retire in 1998. Ma knew her shit and got things done.
The past 10 years Ma has been battling diabetes, depression and has had 3 brain aneurysms. Although she was ruled legally blind, she still drove around town. That scared the shit out of me and I often scolded her for doing so. She was tough and stubborn and kept driving up until last week when she failed her eye and driving test for renewal. This upset her greatly.
I'll miss her great Italian cooking, wonderful advice and strength through times of crisis. Whenever I'd fly back east she would make me let her handle the itinerary arrangements. It would take her about 10 minutes to book a flight, shuttle/rental car, whatever..
Now I have to take care of the business that she would normally take care of. My brother and Uncle are both basket cases right now so I must adopt her inner strength and focus.
This ain't gonna be easy.

Thank you all for hearing me out. Like I said I cant sleep so I might as well present a testament to "Ma".

MAveRiC

[LadyLeo]

57. SO sorry to hear that...

May God comfort you and give you peace and strength...

[Zuni]

58. my condolences

I don't know what to say.
I lost my father 7 years ago, and it is a very rough time.
My prayers for you and your family. God Bless.

[GOPisEvil]

59. My condolences on your loss.

[Solly Mack]

60. ((((((((((((((maveric)))))))))))))) I'm so sorry!!!!

I could always tell from your post that you came from a strong woman.
I lost my "rock" in 92. You're im my thoughts!!

[BlondieK143]

61. I'm so sorry!

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself. :hug:

[Magrittes Pipe]

62. Damn, mav.

I'm sorry, man. :hug:

[tjdee]

63. Sorry to hear this.

Don't know what to say, but you and your family are in my thoughts.

[babylonsister]

64. Heartfelt condolences to you and yours,

Maveric. :grouphug:

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

65. I'm so sorry

I know what you mean about your mother being the family's rock; my mother was our rock, as well, and losing her was agonizing and devastating. You have many friends at DU who are thinking of you at this horrible time. Take care.

[bertha katzenengel]

66. Dear Maveric

Dest wishes to you and your brother. I am so sorry.

[Debbi801]

67. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

68. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[fudge stripe cookays]

69. I just saw this....

I'm so sorry maveric.

I'm jealous of the wonderful relationship you had with your mom. Please accept my condolensces and a virtual hug.

FSC:hug:

[JimmyJazz]

71. My condolences to you and your family.

I wish you safe travel as well. :hug:




Donna

[July]

72. I'm so sorry, maveric.

Hope you can be strong in the next few days.

Come back and talk to us.

[bobthedrummer]

73. My sympathies are with you maveric. Sorry to hear of your loss.

Bob

[ProfessorGAC]

74. My Condlences, maveric

Don't know if it's harder for it to happen suddenly or see it linger to the end. My wife and i went through the latter (her mom & my dad wasted away). Either way, losing a parent is hard. Empathy and sympathy to you and your family.
The Professor

[Lars39]

75. I am so sorry, maveric.

:hug:

[displacedtexan]

76. We are all so sorry for your loss.

On some level, numb is good. It helped me get through the arrangements and social obligations.

Your and your brother will have each other to lean on when the numbness turns into grief.

Take care traveling and know that our thoughts are with you.

[progmom]

77. I'm so sorry.

I'm so so sorry.
:hug:

You will be in my thoughts.

And we'll be here when you're ready to talk.

[bigwillq]

78. I'm very sorry for your loss.

MY thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.:hug:

[Coventina]

79. Condolences and love

:hug:

Take care of yourself.

[progressoid]

80. so very sorry for your loss

:grouphug:

[flamingyouth]

81. I'm very sorry for your loss

:grouphug:

[slackmaster]

82. That's terrible news, sorry about your loss and the shock

Be sure to ask the airlines if they offer bereavement rates. They used to offer substantial discounts for people who were flying to deal with sudden family losses. Not sure if that's still done.

[MissMillie]

83. Maveric, I'm so sorry

If there's anything I can do,....

[peekaloo]

84. Condolences to you and your family, maveric.

:hug:

[Schema Thing]

85. So Sorry maveric.

[nini]

86. I'm so sorry for you loss :-(

I cannot imagine what you are feeling.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.


:hug: