Is it a dick thing?

[CatWoman]

Kobe Bryant was just charged with sexual assault.

Such a promising career going down in flames, cause he listened (ALLEGEDLY) to Little Kobe when he shouldn't have.

So men my question to you is: Is it a dick thing?

By no means am I trying to lump all of you in the "dog" category, but I think I'm safe in assuming that more men get into trouble over extramarital dalliances than women.

[commander bunnypants]

1. I dont know Cat

I got burned by my first wife


DEMMAN

[lazarus]

44. so did

A lot of us.

[RedSox02]

2. I have no idea

I can't see myself doing it, and I know of many woman who cheat on their husbands too. But I guess men are more prone to doing it maybe because they are mroe sexually charged (in general but not specifically) than woman. Woman will do it too. Maybe though there is a general feeling in society that it is worse for woman to cheat then men? I mean really, who would get a badder rap, a man who cheated on his wife and remarried, or a woman who cheated on her husband? I think it owuld be harder for a woman to regain her reputation, which is certainly unfair.

[Skittles]

13. men are NOT more "sexually charged"

women just have FAR MORE TO LOSE from such behaviour (pregnancy, physical violence, etc.)

[TankLV]

48. Actually, after extensive scientific study, it is found that men who are

bald in front are great thinkers, and men who are bald in back are great sexually.

And men who are completely bald just think they're sexy!

[Iris]

34. "it would be harder for a woman to regain her reputation,"

couldn't she just move?

I mean, really, who do you think is judging her, assuming she is not a celebrity?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

3. I don't have a dick but I think the last Hite report demonstrated

infidelity was roughly equal if I am not mistaken. The reasons were different, however but I am going off memory.

In the case of entertainers, athletes and corporatists such as Jack Welch who have obtained celebrity status, I think it is more of a "power" trip. They have so many of life's basic needs handled that their brain leads them to believe they should be able to have anything they want and can afford.

[Maddy McCall]

12. I saw a report...don't remember which...

that 25% of children born in marriages are from the mother's indiscretions with other men.

That's amazing!

I agree that both men and women cheat equally.

[jmm]

43. A while ago I read

about a study done in the 1940's or 50's using blood type proving that 10% of children were not fathered by their mother's husband. The results weren't released for years because many feared a backlash.

I think women may cheat slightly less but only because of societal pressures. In general I think women tend to be more discreet than men.

[Maddy McCall]

46. I don't know if they are more discrete--my girlfriends discuss amongst

each other, but I think they may be better at keeping secrets ;-)

[BiggJawn]

4. You're asking me?

First wife has a "Thang" with one of my (former) friends, the Fireman

And the second one ditches me for a chick half her age....

I have no insight as to why Kobe might have done what they say Kobe might have done.....

[CatWoman]

5. Poor John

:loveya:

If it's any consolation, you're better off without them, right??

BTW: I'm not trying to play the innocent role here.

I've done more than my share of cheating.

I just don't understand why people who have so much to lose do it, not thinking of the consequences.

[SoCalDem]

6. Yep.. "Off with their Dicks".. Paging Lorena Babbit, paging Lorena

pick up the house phone :evilgrin:

[CatWoman]

7. lol!!!!

SO CAL!!!!!!!!

YOUR KITTY FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!

ALL RIGHT!!!!!!!!! :loveya: :loveya:

and a big :hi: to Uncle Willy :D

[SoCalDem]

9. I "borrowed" your idea

but I have so many now, I had to make the pics extra small, or it would precipitate the dreaded "scroll"..:(

No more cats for me.. gotta avoid the scroll :)

[arcane1]

8. speaking as an owner/operator myself...

I'm not so sure it's as much an anatomy thing as much as social. Anyone with lots of power and prestige will face temptation, especially knowing that it's readily available.

In my experiences, I've seen it from both sides pretty much equally..

that being said, I know next to nothing about sports, for all I know Kobe could be an NBC weatherman :-)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

14. ROFL owner/operator! I like that

Speaking of it in those terms certainly leads to a different interpretation of just who is in power in the matter :thumbsup:

[Maddy McCall]

15. LMFAO!! "Owner-operator" hahahahaa n/t

[CatWoman]

18. Yes, but does it come with a warranty???

:D

:hi:

[arcane1]

20. lol, sadly, no...

I voided that damned warrranty a LONG time ago! Now I am fully responsible for any damages that I may incur :evilgrin:

[Kat45]

10. I don't understand why anyone cheats, male or female.

I just don't get it--especially those who claim to love their spouse (and children, if applicable). These folks are so lucky to have someone to love and be loved by, to share their lives with. They're so fucking lucky--yet they cheat! Man, I WISH I had someone to love and be loved by: I think that's the best thing in this world to have.

[geniph]

31. Not everyone is naturally monogamous

For some of us, it just doesn't work. It's very possible - indeed probable - to be lustful for others no matter how much you love your mate. The sensible marriage admits this, is open about it, and finds a way to deal with that temptation. Every marriage works out their own rules.

[CatWoman]

33. Hi Geni!!!

:hi:

Long time no see :D

[geniph]

36. Hey, lady!

yeah, I've been slacking on the DU thing lately. Hell, I was shocked s**tless when I realized the great Zomby was being lured southward! That tells you how out of it *I've* been!

:hi:

[yella_dawg]

11. It must be a dick thing.

I was faithful to two wives that I divorced not for infidelity, but for rampant, outrageous infidelity. Wife 1 had some sick thing about confessing every year or so, and wife 2 liked to bring them home with her. I raised at least two kids that weren't mine. What a sorry SOB that makes me.

yella

[CatWoman]

17. No, Yella you are NOT a sorry SOB

Sounds like your'e a real prince to me :D

[matcom]

16. NO. As YOU well know.......

ITS AN ASS THANG!!! :P

:loveya:

[CatWoman]

19. Yeah baby!!! Shake that thang!!!!

:loveya:

:hi:

:*

[Caution]

21. Innocent until proven guilty

the charge does not make him guilty. As a celtics fan i have no love for kobe bryant but I won't assume he committed a crime until the facts are available and he has been convicted of doing so. The reason his career might be ruined is because too many people assume that just becuase the charge has been leveled that he did in fact commit the crime.

[Bake]

22. Let's make a distinction here

Cat, there's a difference between "cheating" and "sexual assault." I think Kobe is accused of sexual assault, and if he's guilty of that then George Bush really IS the president! Not for an instant do I believe that!

As another "owner/operator" (love that line!!!) no, I don't think it's a dick thing. Last time I checked (not that I'm checking, mind you) it takes two to tango! :-)

Bake

[CatWoman]

25. LOL Bake

I wanna know if your's has a warranty, too!! :D

I did kind of mix things up here, didn't I? I guess my thinking was if there was no cheating, there wouldn't be the sexual assault charge

:hi:

[wyldwolf]

23. bobble head Kobe...

[44wax]

24. YOUNG RICH STUPID AND STIFF

Money for nothing and the chicks are free. How sporting is it for a dork like Kobe to to harvest hoes from the help list at the dump he was staying. It is like shooting fish in a barrel. Same as a high school teacher who fucks his students. If he wants to get his freak on start with all the hoes in LA who would ride the pole for peanuts. But noooooo! He is married and must maintain his pee pee at home.

[kmla]

26. Are we sure that it actually happened?

I think we are jumping the gun a teeny bit here. He has just been charged with sexual assault, not convicted. There are two sides to this story - hers AND his. Obviously, hers has been told, and was credible enough to be taken seriously.

However, it may not be credible in the end (hopefully that is what the courts will decide). There is the possibility - and don't flame me here - that she may have been trying to set him up for an out of court settlement (he has pretty deep pockets) or her '15 minutes of fame'.

Point is, we don't know yet.

:shrug:

[CatWoman]

27. I'm still reeling from the post over yours

:D

He released a statement saying that they did in fact have sex.

But that doesn't mean he raped her.

I have bad vibes about this whole thing.

[Richardo]

28. If by that you mean "Is he a dick?"; then if he did it, YES.

n/s*


* nuff said.

[Character Assassin]

29. To paraphrase Salt & Pepper: "It's a dick thing, and it's all in you!"

You can do anything that you wanna do!

Sorry, just had to get that out.

Yes, I am a freak.

[CatWoman]

30. Ah, push it

Push it real good!!!!

:hi:

P.S.: We all know that you're a freak :D

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

35. Jeez CA must you always be such a honkey???

It's Salt-n-Pepa

[Character Assassin]

39. That is so adorable! It's 'honky', not 'honkey'

And to you, Miss Too-Big-For-Her-Britches, it's Mr. Peckerwood

Mr. Cracker or Sir White Devil will also do nicely. ;-)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

47. Well my big white ass thanks your big white ass for the correction

BTW, is that a big piece of spinach on your front tooth? :evilgrin:

[thermodynamic]

32. This coming from a gay man, what I'm about to say speaks volumes

It is not a dick thing.

It is a "What I want to do with my dick" thing.

Many guys just don't like being ethical, moral, or civil. They want to get their rocks off and don't care how. They will cheat, they will hurt, they will do what it takes in order to "get happy".

It's just a matter of degree of which they take risks to "get happy".

Most men are satisfied with cheating on their "loved ones". Just goes to show they don't know what love is. Obviously they know lust, but not love.

Some men are so vile they'll assault or rape or do something far worse.

Feel free to put (most of) us in the dog category. You're being too polite; most of us are actually pigs.

I can't trust a man so I don't even bother with 'getting my rocks off' with one. And, yes, there are times when I do get lonely and there are times I have 'psychological problems' because I don't have anyone to "get happy" with. That sure as hell doesn't give me the right to assault anybody or anything else.

Again, it is not a dick thing but how the man wants to deal with his dick.

And that makes some men very dangerous. :-( Castration doesn't seem cruel or unusual as a punishment. The punishment ought to fit the crime anyway.

It all makes one wonder; is avoiding the situation the best possible solution? If everybody had as much sense, we'd be a doomed species. Knowing how I sometimes get cynical, I'm not going to take this tangent any further. :evilgrin:

[geniph]

37. Thermo, none of that is unique to men

women can be pigs too. A lot of people are just selfish critters who don't think of consequences, only immediate gratification.

There's ways to deal with nonmonogamy without cheating, lying, and hurting others.

[SEAburb]

38. is it open season on men at DU

I thought there was a rule against sexist posts. Is there a double standard at DU, when it come to bashing men.

Why not ask how did his mother raise him? I've seen many mothers wait hand and foot on their little boys and treat their daughters like they are maids. Doesn't this rapist mindset start in childhood?

[CatWoman]

42. hmmmmmmmmmmm

I regret that you think this thread is sexist.

Unfortunately, sex has to be discussed in sex-related issues and themes.

I don't consider this "male-bashing" either.

If you read through this thread, people are being hard on men and women alike.

[curse10]

40. Women are gaining ground

I read a report somewhere that said more women are having extra-marital affairs than ever before.

[realFedUp]

41. I think it's a famous and powerful dick thing

Kobe succumbed to the "I am rich, powerful and
can have anything I want" dick thing. It's not
a matter of size of member but of ego. Too bad
20 minutes ruined his character count.

[44wax]

45. agreed

I wonder how many times he sent his bodyguards out to pick up a girl for him to bonk. "Kobe wants to get his freak on with you. It is your day for some rich and famous pee pee." Did he not know that in the least he could catch or give something, or get set up and have to pay, or end up doing something extraordinarily stupid and not be able to smile and nod his way out of prison. What a fucking phony putz.

[Terwilliger]

49. Safe to say that women claim that they're less hormonal than men

must be a PC thing ;-) :*

[ProudGerman]

50. Its not a dick thing, its not even a vagina thing

It's an ice cold, black, shriveled up heart thing. People who cheat are just selfish fucks.

[Terwilliger]

52. yeesh! ok

what is commitment?

[HEyHEY]

51. No

It's an asshole thing

[Uzybone]

53. Its a stupid thing

Kobe could have had a discrete professional to service his needs but for some reason decided the 19 year old front desk wannabe star was who he would have his dalliance with. Dont get me wrong, cheating on your spouse is a huge mistake but his lack of judgement is stunning. Did he really think that he could have sex with this woman and that would be the end of it, that she would zip her lip and go on quietly like nothing happened? I know, he wasnt thinking at all.