What's your very own personal Hell?

[Sugar Smack]

We've seen it in George Orwell's 1984, and I've seen a few GOOD Twilight Zone's about it.

Mine's this- I find fire too fascinating and beautiful for it to torture me too much. So take the fire away, and give me a pack of smokes and no light. Put on some really loud ear-bleeding Celine Dion. It's cold in Hell, and very lonely. And the only thing to eat is pimiento cheese. It smells like rotten eggs, and there are TV screens with George Bush all over the place, doing that horrible, horrible giggle.

Please share your Hell with me, and maybe we can get through this together!

:evilgrin:

[skygazer]

1. I've already been to mine

It was my second marriage. I have no desire to relive that!

[Sugar Smack]

4. YOW! I've never been married-

But I've heard some horror stories!

You're reminding me of the Matt Groening series as we speak!!

[BiggJawn]

14. Me too.

My second (last) marriage was a real laugh-riot, too.

Second worst is being in a committed relationship with someone who's just all out of Estrogen while you still got plenty of Testosterone

[Sugar Smack]

30. That sounds awful!

I can imagine such a thing being absolutely hellish!!!

[BlueIris]

77. Self-delete.

[johnaries]

80. I was going to say last night I dreamed I was still married to my

ex.

Well, technically I still am. She wants half my 401K and after all the debt she put me in I'll be damned if she gets it.

But at least she's out of the house!
:bounce:

[Longgrain]

2. Your's sound pretty hellish if you ask me...

But you forgot the case of beer...non alcoholic of course...

[Sugar Smack]

7. Yes, you know about "catching" a buzz-

In Hell, it would be an ever-elusive thing. You could never dull it out with anything, as much as you tried. I forgot- the bar in Hell? Well, there's a bartender that looks at you desparagingly, and if you ask for a cuba libre, he grudgingly slides over a flat coke with a chewed-up-looking lime in it.

[Wapsie B]

3. The one I put myself through so often.

No fire and brimstone for me thanks. Just take a career that's been going nowhere for years, a life without love, and a feeling that you're pissing your existence away. Shake and stir. I create my own personal hell without Lucifer's interference.

[Sugar Smack]

10. When things get really bad in the news and in your

personal life, the combination of the two can feel just like that!

Giving you a hug in Hell.

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

20. Thank you

I normally suffer in silence and slug through it alone. I just need to enjoy the moment and not beat myself up over the past or agonize about the future.

:hug:

[Sugar Smack]

24. Hey, we're in Hell, babe!

Can I interest you in a game of badminton? We have to have fun somehow!

Tweety's down here with us.

:)

[Wapsie B]

28. Sure!

Anything to relax and enjoy the day with friends.


:)

Where's down here?

[Sugar Smack]

90. Down here in Hell!

wheeeeeeeeee! Look, Stephen King's over there next to the bottomless pit.


:bounce:

[psychopomp]

66. I feel yuh

I believe we all create our heaven and hell here on Earth. Life is full of both, you just need to keep on steppin.'

"Miracles" happen, too, so things can turn on a dime. Be strong and fight.

[Hans Delbrook]

5. Biting cold, filth and cockroaches everywhere, country and western

music blaring, FOX news on 24/7.

In other words - your typical freeper trailer home on a Saturday night in January. :evilgrin:

[Sugar Smack]

11. LOL!!!!!!!!!

So, you can't stand the cold either??? It IS a bit drafty down here, isn't it. I'd come over there and give you a hug but we're standing on seperate cliffs. Looking down- it isn't a bottomless pit. There's water below, and Ann Coulter is swimming about & frothing at the mouth.

[Hans Delbrook]

27. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

:hi: :rofl:
Yep, she'd be there for sure - I'm sure she only leaves for brief periods on earth to torture good souls.

[Sugar Smack]

29. OOOOOOOhhh, add slugs and deer flies-

I forgot about them.. I believe deer flies come straight from Hell. Don't you think so? Also, ticks and leeches.

It's what came to mind, for some reason, upon the mention of A. Coulter.

:scared:

[Hans Delbrook]

31. Ticks and leeches for sure

I don't know what a deep fly is but I hate all insect pests so I'll be glad to add them to the list. But I hate nothing like I hate cockroaches, ugh. They represent filth, squalor and disease to me. Bleah.

[Sugar Smack]

35. a deer fly is a kind of fly that lives near the water-

they deliver a POWERFUL sting, attack humans, and are drawn, IN GROUPS, to the human face and hands.


loud buzzing noises add insult to injury.

I know this from experience.:scared: Bleah is RIGHT.

[Zuni]

106. I f-in HATE Deer/Horse Flies

They are certainly a way to punish mankind. I can see no other reason for the vicious little bastards

[Seabiscuit]

6. Being forced to listen to rap music and hip hop 24/7 in a tiny room.

[Sugar Smack]

13. I think I spent an entire summer

in your very own, personal, private Hell! I was forced to do the very same.

[Seabiscuit]

32. And you're still alive to talk about it????

I don't think I'd last 24 hours before my head exploded!

[Sugar Smack]

49. I HAVE A BRAVE CONSITUTION-

Plus, I'm chickenshit as hell.

[Seabiscuit]

64. I think my problem is soft eardrums

- trained in classical music. :)

[Sugar Smack]

79. What do you think of

The Marriage of Figaro???

[Seabiscuit]

81. Mozart? Le Marriage de Figaro? LOVE IT!

BTW... Welcome to DU! Posting since Feb. 5, 2005, eh?

[Sugar Smack]

89. Thank you for the welcome, Seabiscuit!!!

I love your posts. Le Notzze de Figaro is my FAVORITE, especially the wedding march. I play that over & over when I'm down. And there's the answer to my happiness!!


:bounce:

[izzybeans]

8. Being stuck in the never-ending IKEA maze with

horrible techno remixes of even more horrible 70's and 80's hair band songs. There is constant whirling about looking for an exit. Only there is no exit. Each corner leads to more show rooms, each corridor to another swedish meatball buffet. I'm being bounced around by angry urbanites who want nothing more than to stuff modular furniture in the corner of their hampster cages. I swear when I get sucked into that place I feel as if a carnival mirror replaces my glasses and that psuedo post-punk rocker guy I always seem to be following has on clown makeup and stilts. He looks like a cross between Stephen King's the IT and STephan Malkmus and I just don't know what to do.

[Sugar Smack]

17. AAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

I'm going back to my Hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've decided I like it there!!!!!!!

[CBHagman]

65. Thanks, izzybeans, for making me laugh.

No mean feat on a night like tonight.

Thanks to the rest of you, too.

[izzybeans]

95. No problem.

I'd just been recently and got bounced around like pinball. So that was sort of like a post-hoc running commentary on the adventure.

[Seabiscuit]

82. ROTFLMAO!! IKEA is the only store that gives me claustrophobia.

[Sugar Smack]

91. In my personal Hell, there's a Wal-Mart

and nothing else. All I have to do is spend 5 minutes in there-and always at the behest of friends or family-and I feel like running out screaming!!!!!!!!!

[Seabiscuit]

98. I wouldn't know... heh heh... I've always boycotted Wal-Mart.

[Midnight Rambler]

9. Strapped in a Clockwork Orange-like device

Forced to watch nothing but Fox News, the 700 Club, and Jennifer Love Hewitt movies

[Sugar Smack]

18. Yes-Eeeeeeeeeeewwwwwww

She'd be there with us-
TERRIBLE actress, but I did hear she had Buzzflash tattooed on her belly.

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. Having to listen to....

ANY Nickelback song looped over and over and over, in a beat up old trailer (not even a "mobile home") infested with ants, with the scents of vomit and Pine Sol clogging my nostrils (Pine Sol makes me retch).

I'd be forced to eat nothing but brussels sprouts, cottage cheese, and melon.

I think that about sums it up.

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[tammywammy]

15. can we add Maroon 5 and that Hobastank song "Reasons" to that

I think those are the worst bands/songs out now that are over played.

[fudge stripe cookays]

19. I actually...

don't mid Maroon 5 that much. I like what I've heard so far. But I'll give you the Hoobastank.

Yuck.

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[tammywammy]

22. Yeah, I liked Maroon 5 at first

and then they started to play them every 10 minutes. I can't take it much longer.

Thankfully today at work we're listening to the Marvin Gaye tribute on XM.

[Sugar Smack]

21. I lived in a trailer for 3 years, FSC-

So I know what you're talking about.
And Pine Sol is GROSS!!!!!!!

But while we're down here, you gonna eat that melon? I'll trade you this warm tub of pimiento cheese. MMMMMMMMMMM



:9

[fudge stripe cookays]

37. Guck!

I'd almost rather eat the melon!

Someone tried to make me eat pimiento cheese once....

ONCE.

A babsitter who also wanted to serve me BEET JELLY. I was 11. I thought she was utterly insane.

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[Sugar Smack]

69. AAAAAAAAaaugh!

Pimiento cheese and beet jelly!!!!!!!!


FSC, when I open my bar in Hell--still working on my lisence- I'm serving those as appetizers!!!!!!!!




:9

[fudge stripe cookays]

85. Don't forget

the fish eyeballs!

SS, you've just given me a fantastic idea for our next Halloween party!

A bar in hell...hmmmm.....red stuff every where, with sort of a Vegas look, and "hell-themed" food in addition to our usual Halloween stuff.

Hmmmmmmm.....

Thanks!
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[Sugar Smack]

92. LOVE IT!!!!!!!

And a bartender with a disparaging look!!!!!!!!

[fudge stripe cookays]

94. I guess...

he'd have to be French, huh?

FSC ;)

[Sugar Smack]

99. I get the impression you've read a little Stephen King??

Yeah, baby! That Vegas theme worked out well in the Stand. However, this gives me something to think about, because, in the American Eye, the Frech are going to Hell.

I just may make myself comfortable-despite all the soul-burning, agonizing pain- and redecorate! And grab a bottle or two of St. Emillion.

;-)

[fudge stripe cookays]

114. Woo hoo!

Why yes, I have read some King. How did you know?

If you get near Dallas for Halloween, let us know. Our all-liberal Halloween bash was quite the hit this last year.

I plan on making it a tradition, although reprehensor does not know this yet.

:evilgrin:
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[AngryAmish]

16. On the bus and listening to the Beatles

[UrbScotty]

25. Why don' t you just travel by Yellow Submarine instead? (nt)

[Sugar Smack]

33. OOOOOOOhhhhhhhhh, an eternity of listening to

Yellow Submarine. I love the Beatles, but hate that song. Only thing worse, other than Celine Dion, would be the theme song to Jeaporady playing for eternity.

[stellanoir]

23. I feel. . .

Oscar Wilde said it best. . .

his definition of hell was. . .". . .to be surrounded by beauty and to not know love."

Now. . .it's also living under this misadministration. . .watching our constitution be summarily trashed. . .and dealing with having to contend with the constant attempted programming of the RW wherein there is nothing but totally "disingenuous nomenclature" where a "culture of life," has no regard whatsoever for the living, vibrant, or less fortunate, and repeatedly promotes fear and hatred of imagined or created enemies, and has no sensitivity, compassion, or tolerance for diversity, whilst all the while espousing the virtues of Christian values.

Today I had a conversation with a struggling artist in her late twenties who is currently being audited by the IRS. She barely makes dukey. Yet Ken Lay stole billions and all of Houston is awash in ill gotten gains and has been wasting and looting the treasury only to enrich themselves at the expense of our kid's futures and the Iraqis' present.

So much hellaciousness. So little time. This period has been described as a "spiritual winter." Here's to hoping that it's really short lived.

[Sugar Smack]

26. OH, yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some mornings I wake up and I feel the darkness that's descended on our country. The fear that's been instilled in us and the friends I've lost through politics. The reason I like DU so much is that it adds levity to the situation.

For example, no one ever gets hit in the face by a pie in MY Hell.

:o

[stellanoir]

34. there are pie

throwing competitions constantly in my heaven. And they are truly delicious. LOL

Didn't intend to rant on your thread. it just kind of came out.

[Sugar Smack]

36. down here, we don't get to throw pies.

and they won't let us near the salad dressing. It's like being in Golden Corral. Salad dressing and pomposity over there, and 40 tins of pimiento cheese and non-alcoholic beer over here.

And really MEAN waitresses.

[Sugar Smack]

113. To me, sometimes I feel like Hell is now because

even though I haven't experienced the specific effects of the current administration & its policies, there is a slight shift "OFF". I have lost a few friends, and there's the feeling-still, of waking up and wondering, "Has everyone gone crazy?"

Or is it just me?




:o

[Jamastiene]

38. Easy one to answer. I'm already there.

I love people more than my heart can handle and on top of it I'm never good enough for anybody. I've been told since a young age to work on improving things about myself and have improved a lot. I'm still not good enough or worthwhile enough to people that I could find anyone who'd enjoy spending time with me no matter how hard I try. Even when I offer to be someone's slave if only they'd let me be around them, they turn me down. No prayers have worked and yes, I have prayed and asked God to change me to make me worthwhile and lovable for years. Nothing ever changes.

And here's the kicker. I still get to hear about how I'm not worthy if I ask people questions to try to find out why I'm unlovable and unworthy. I'm doomed to spend the rest of my life alone and everyone tells me how lucky I am to not have a family. It's universal too. Religion, politics, region, race, gender, etc. make no difference. It's a universal belief that I am just too fucked up to ever be worth loving.

That's my hell and I'm living it. There is nothing worse that I can think of than to be put on this earth to be forgotten and unloved and to be doomed to a long life of not only the loneliness, but the insults to rub salt in the wound on top of it all.

[Sugar Smack]

39. Jesus. Oh, FUCK.

Could you please PM me? I started this as a joke, and I am totally crying now. God, Jamastiene, please let me know what's going on. Look, the threads I read with your contributions are priceless. I know what it's like, curling up in a ball every night without someone to spoon you!!!!!!!! LOOK, just PM me, OK? Please?

Goddammit. You're making me want to drive to wherever you are and get you. Where are you? Please PM me.

[AlienGirl]

40. You *are* lovable and worthy

You just live in a fucked-up place.

Please move to Seattle. It's easier here. You already have friends here: me and AuntJen and everythingsxen. :grouphug:

Tucker

[Jamastiene]

48. Thanks

Do you REALLY think I'd be equal to or good enough for anyone there? I still wish for that at least. I'm just such a hopeless dork. :cry: :hug:

[MnFats]

67. A change might do you good.

I don't know who gave you the message that you're unworthy or unloveable but if you can figure it out, they should be tossed out of your life -- at least for now (if they're somebody important like parents you might want to let them back in later.

You have some good qualities...you play guitar and you like cats. those are pluses with me! (ok, you can't get to know people too well here, but that's a start.


Maybe N.C. is not for you. I've only spent a little time there and it was a nice place to visit but -- no offense -- i would not live there.

Mpls./st.paul might agree with you! Nerdiness is kind of the dominante outlook here (see "Fargo." It's not really very exaggerated.....

good luck.

If this is REAL trouble that you are unable to cope with alone, get in touch with a mental health organization and get help. one group or another is in every state. (I know...I've had to visit family members at the Brain Ranch and almost qualified for a stay myself....

[regnaD kciN]

83. Of course...!

Let's put it this way...if I was good enough for someone here*, you should have no problem. Besides, it's a great place for DUers. If I had to live in North Carolina, I'd probably think I was in hell, too!



*no comments from fellow Seattleites wondering just how on earth that happened, please!

[Sugar Smack]

42. Look- you're not alone.

There are thousands of people, I'm sure, on this board who understand what you're going through. YOU are worthy. There is no doubt about that.

[Wapsie B]

43. Please take it from someone

who's a champ at beating himself up everyday, YOU ARE WORTHY!!!
You have as much worth as anyone here. I get really really down on myself at times. But then I realize all my detractors are all full of shit. And that by staying in this funk I'm letting them beat me again.

[Sugar Smack]

44. thank you, bushwentawol-

this is a good girl. Period.

[Jamastiene]

51. Thanks for the advice. I hope you are right.

I'm SUCH a reject though. I wonder if what I feel is the same thing or based on the same circumstances. What I'm trying to say is what if you really ARE worthy and just have doubts and I'm really NOT worthy?

[UncleSepp]

57. Move out of Hell

You don't need to stay there, it's killing you. Get out. Move place to somewhere that contains more tolerant people. There is no such thing as an unlovable and unworthy person.

[xmas74]

60. If you ever need to rant and rave

send me a pm. I always answer them and I can take loads of abuse.

[imenja]

111. I saw something you may find helpful

This is going to sound trite, but it isn't. I happened to see an episode of the Oprah show last week. Jada Pinkett Smith, the Williams sisters and a psychologist were on talking about self-esteem among girls. Now one hears all kinds of truisms: "someone else can't love you until you love yourself," yadda yadda yadda. But easier said than done. They actually had advice on how to fill up the hole inside us. The psychologist noted that a lot of girls/ women treat themselves, their bodies and their souls, like trash cans, and allow people, men especially, to dump their garbage in us. But they said we should find other ways to fill up that receptacle, and the best way to build self esteem is by DOING. Doing something that makes you feel good about yourself. Now this seems quite simple, but it came as a revelation to me--a woman of 43 years old who has struggled with these issues my entire life.

The link to the show is here. Unfortunately the entire audio file isn't available but it looks like you can watch the after show part. There are also links provided to explore the issue further.
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200503/tows_past_20050330.jhtml

[fudge stripe cookays]

115. I agree wholeheartedly with you, imenja!

I wish I had known about this when I was younger. My father died when I was 13, and it left me with a strange void, and made it hard for me to deal with the opposite sex until I hit mid college.

If I had known about getting involved with politics, going to precinct caucuses, county conventions, state conventions, and tabling at events, and really doing something I was passionate about years earlier, I would have bounced back SO much faster. And I'm married now, but I realized how much great socialization I missed not doing this all these years. There were so many attractive people at these places, and we all had something in common, doing something we were passionate about!

When you're doing something you love, believe me it shows. I went from eating alone in the cafeteria in college on weekends because I had no friends and was terrified of people, to leading my own meetup group for Howard Dean. I once had someone tell me I was the most passionate person he'd ever met.

Jamastiene, I wish the best for you. You're in a very sad place right now. Believe me, I've been there. Feeling like you're not good enough for anybody. Don't believe anyone else. Believe in yourself. You are your own best friend! And like Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

I heard that line years ago when I was in a very bad place, and it helped me immensely.

Please move somewhere where you can be near others who empathize and are of the same mindset as you. I think it would help you a great deal!

PM me if you need to talk. :-)
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[Bok_Tukalo]

41. I am isolated from social interaction

and the only form a communication I have with other individuals, whom I'll never meet and never know if they even exist, is through text and graphics.

[imenja]

108. any family near by at all?

I know how you feel. Many of us are far too isolated. It's a function of contemporary society, where community and family are broken down. So while you might feel like you're the only one, you aren't.

[fudge stripe cookays]

116. And hanging with a bunch of wierdos..

at Blue Mesa!

:D
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[Lydia Leftcoast]

45. A hot, humid room with nothing but Cup Noodle to eat and nothing

but non-alcoholic wine to drink (You think non-alcoholic beer is bad?). The room is bare except for a radio and a TV. On the radio is nothing but elevator music and polkas and Peking Opera. On the TV is nothing but Fox News, celebrity poker, and WWF wrestling. I slowly go mad.

[Sugar Smack]

54. add to that-

one of your co-workers clipping his nails. You love him dearly, but you really wish he'd stop publicly doing his feet. And stop with the chewing with his mouth open.


:evilgrin:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

55. Well, with that co-worker there, at least I'd have someone to talk to

--unless, that is, his only topic of conversation was professional sports.

[fudge stripe cookays]

117. Aaaaahhhh...

so you saw "Farewell My Concubine" too?

:banghead:

Peking Opera. Homicidal. Two words that go together well.
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[Paradise]

46. "hell is other people!" jean paul sartre n/t

[Sugar Smack]

50. READ THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!

DONE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



}(

[Darth_Kitten]

47. People I have to work with

:banghead:

[Sugar Smack]

52. MODS on DU???????????

Let's trade, darling?

[Darth_Kitten]

53. NO!

:) People I work with at my job. :)

[Mojambo]

56. Every tomorrow is my personal Hell. n/t

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

58. A place with no cats.

[Sugar Smack]

72. I looked around my personal Hell-

and I haven't found any cats.

;-)

[Magrittes Pipe]

59. Trying to sleep under a discotheque.

Oh wait.

I'm dead! :cry:

[Sugar Smack]

68. Dead under a discotheque

is better than "alive and writhing in pain" under a discotheque, in my book, any day! Let's not even mention Oasis!!!!!!


:cry:

[Arkana]

61. I shiver just thinking about it.

-Rap music blasting on all the speakers.
-Either biting cold or scorching heat.
-FOX News on a giant projection TV with Hannity & Colmes on, and Ann Coulter as a guest.
-The room will be packed to the brim with screaming babies and dirty little 3-year-olds with sticky hands who are trying to wipe them on me.
-Nothing to drink but Dr. Pepper.

:scared:

[Sugar Smack]

70. THAT sounds like Hell,

and I don't mind saying so!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:o

[Auntie Bush]

62. Listening to a bunch of HYPOCRITICAL Republicans.

That is pure hell! Franky it's really the worst thing I can think of.

[Sugar Smack]

74. Repubs, Laughing, too-

how can you not have any sense of humor, and still laugh????????

[last_texas_dem]

63. Sorry, replied to the wrong thread!

:-)

[Reverend_Smitty]

71. Republican leadership and

fundies over running the country...oh wait...

[Sugar Smack]

78. HERE We ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!! LaLaLaLaLaLalalaa!

ISN'T IT GrEAT???????????Carrot juice plus republicans!

Like a spa!

[Corey_Baker08]

73. Mines when your really down

and you feel like your alone because u have nothing or noone and you jsut want to run as far as you can until you cant anymore.

[Sugar Smack]

101. It really doesn't get much worse than being 15-

My dad's side of the family is really rational and stable. So imagine their surprise, when I stomp into the house. 15. Dad & grandma sitting on the couch and me running past them because of some guy. I was in my room, and I angrily started batting a container of baby-powder around.

It left clouds in the air. When that was empty, I hurled a can of aerosol hair spray at the wall. It burst, hissed, and got all over me. Stuck the powder to me. I got scared, picked up the can and ran back outside with it.

So this is what my grandmother saw; me, running past her, white with powder and a hissing can of hairspray held above me head. Yelling, "AAAAAAAAAAAAAA!" all the way-weird Doppler Effect.

I feel for you, Corey. That shit was twenty years ago, and I still get this drama-queen buzz.

Keep posting with us, because you're not alone.

;-)

[andino]

75. Mother in law

EOM

[solinvictus]

76. Phil Collins...n/t

[Sugar Smack]

86. Singing "invisible touch"

I can't really imagine what could be worse-

[fleabert]

84. nothing to eat but Jello and tapioca.

surrounded by conservatives...smells like sulphur (have you been to yellowstone? beautiful but STINKY in some spots!)...nothing to wear but itchy clothes with stiff tags in the collar...I'd have to shave my legs every day...no DU or airamerica, only freepshit.com and fauxnews...no flea...and continual day-one, OTR. and nothing to look at but the inside of an undecorated cubicle. oh...and a phone ringing that never stops.

that sounds like hell to me.

[Sugar Smack]

102. OH, GOD.

Two magic words, "ITCH" and "frepshit" that put me on edge. Nice & UNCOMFORTABLE as FUCK. The only thing I'd change is being able to trade this tub of pimiento cheese for tapioca.

Remeber when we hated our grade school cafeterias? We didn't know how good we had it.

[fleabert]

110. similar textures- i can't eat either!

anything slimey is out! tapioca is slimey and has globs of slime in the slime. fucking freak out gross!

I knew how good the caf was, I ate everyone else's spinach so they could get dessert too. (elementary school) and Enchilada day was always on Friday. (high school) Yum.

[yellowdogintexas]

87. No books to read, no sisters, husband or daughter to talk to

no beautiful music, and no cats.

A ton of ironing and no good TV to watch while I'm doing it.

And I am still married to my first husband ( recurring nightmare that surfaces from time to time..after 24 years of not being married to him)

[Bok_Tukalo]

88. That's odd

I have totally romanticized my first marriage.

Maybe that's a male thing. I've always thought men to be the more romantic sex of the two.

[imenja]

112. a bad marriage is far worse for women than men

and far more dangerous, sometimes deadly. 25% of women in America are victims of domestic violence. And while I have no idea if that applies to the above poster, I have seen many other women on DU share those stories. So for me, when I see a woman refer to a prior marriage as hell, I think she is probably talking about living under constant fear of violence.

[Sugar Smack]

93. My Hell is in black-and-white

with no color. It sounds a little bit like yours.

[Aiptasia]

96. hmm, my personal hell

Dick Cheny in a tutu, dancing swan lake on my grave.

[kick-ass-bob]

97. Trudging through our "natural" landscape yard at night

trying to catch a cat.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x2982613

[LynzM]

100. Hrm....

Alone, feeling terrible guilt for something for which there is no repentance. With no one to talk to about the guilt. No books, no TV, no distractions except RW-talk radio, just the guilt. And that Usher song that just goes "yeah yeah yeah (buhm-buhm, buhm-buhm)" on an endless loop. Lukewarm mineral water to drink and nothing but candy to eat. Sounds about as bad as it gets for me.

[Sugar Smack]

104. ESPECIALLY no distractions.

It's hard to find a good balance for being distracted, or not, but no distractions just seems awful.. Someone will probably challenge you about that "candy" thing. I heard a story once, about a family snowbound in a house in Connecticut. The only food they had was cherry cheesecake, but lots of it. At first they were like "yeahh!", and then you can imagine day 2, 3, 4.........

[LynzM]

105. Yeah...

Guilt eats me. And I can't eat when I'm feeling really guilty. So it'd be a combination of stomach ache from guilt plus only warm liquid and sugar to ingest, awful. I'm just imagining the feeling of sugar coating your mouth and tongue and how your teeth feel when you've slept after eating something sweet and not brushed them... icko.

I bet that family will never, ever buy cherry cheesecake, ever again. At least they had lots of snow to melt to wash it down with.

[RPM]

103. 2001 - 2008

I hope things pick up in 2009 - only 4 more years...

[SarahB]

107. Been there, done that, and got the t-shirt.

I didn't much like feeling like some whiny, f*cking victim of continuous emotional abuse by a less than stable spouse, but I guess I was just that. At least I finally have the strength to go.

[roguevalley]

109. America 2000-?