Robb
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:02 AM
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One year ago today, Mrs. Robb walked out after coffee. |
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Yup.
We were dog and house sitting for a friend nearby, two days into a 12 day commitment.
I brought the coffee upstairs as I did every day, handed her a cup, and she announced things weren't working out and left six years of marriage just like that.
No explanation, and I was devastated because it was obviously something wrong with me. I found out later she'd been affairing with her co-executive... tricky thing, that email plane ticket confirmation. By the time I got home, everything she wanted was gone, and so was she. And as far as I know, she's with him today.
DU was there. And DU helped. A lot. You all know who you are who did it so directly, and with such care; and many of you have no idea it was just the continuity of your posts, life so clearly moving on as exemplified by the board progressing, that made a difference for me.
Thank you all.
Today, as some of you know, I'm living with my wakeboard instructor who turns out to be the warmest, most caring and delightful individual I've been honored to meet, and have never been happier. :) We're going nordic skiing today, and yes, I'm in love. :D
Enough! Back to the annoying polls as time permits.
Thanks again,
=Robb=
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:06 AM
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1. I remember when it happened (when we were both mods)... |
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...and I'm very glad to hear you've rebounded in a most pleasant way!:thumbsup:
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NashVegas
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:33 PM
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Glad to see you're doing well, Robb.
But you're still a dingbat.
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:08 AM
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2. Your ex is the real dingbat. |
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Edited on Sun Apr-03-05 09:11 AM by GOPisEvil
I'm glad you've found love and happiness.
Edit - of COURSE she walked out AFTER the coffee. Ungrateful &$(#%! :P
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:16 PM
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24. His ex AND the guy she's with... for there is a phrase... |
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"Once a cheater, always a cheater."
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:11 AM
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You're not a dingbat. Seriously though, I send you the very best wishes, and am glad that your life has taken a good turn. As we used to say in the 60s and early 70s, 'keep on truckin'!:toast:
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:15 AM
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4. Very weird - I just posted how I'd love to have someone who'd bring |
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me coffee.
You're taken, eh? Bummer.
I'm glad you're in a good place.
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:34 AM
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5. I'm so glad you found happiness again, and with someone |
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worthy of your love. It's a shame you had to go through that awful situation to get "here".
BTW, I'm the coffee girl in the house. I set it up every night, no matter how tired or tipsy I might be, provide variety, make sure that we always have "the fixins" in the pantry.
I hope the former Mrs. Robb's current "love" brings her crappy cold coffee every day.
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Sun Apr-03-05 09:41 AM
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That's unbelievable... straight out of a movie or something. I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that, but glad that DU provided an anchor for you, and that you've moved on and found someone who appreciates you! :bounce:
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:18 PM
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I was in a bit of my own marital mess at the same time and it's taken me longer to get out, but mine is finally just about over as well. I have no expectations regarding my future at this point, but I will reiterate once again that the ex-Mrs. Robb was the real dingbat! I'm glad you found someone who loves and appreciates all you have to offer. :hug:
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:25 PM
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but i have to know...
that's a smiley smacking another smiley with a fish, right?
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:30 PM
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:43 PM
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it's funnier when i don't know the backstory :D
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:48 PM
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16. I've read a bit of your situation |
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It seems that the separation is that much more intense considering that it was not a clean break and you had material concerns that forced an unwanted physical closeness.
That would be tough.
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:14 PM
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I was a stay at home mom completely for almost 4 years, plus my initial degree isn't in a very well-paying field and I'm working on another. My husband could just make whatever lousy choices he wanted after the kids came along because he knew there was nothing I could do about. I could never forgive him for that and that (along with extreme possessiveness on his part) ultimately destroyed us.
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Mon Apr-04-05 08:04 AM
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...and in case I didn't do enough of this:
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:24 PM
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8. Robb, I'm so glad you're happy. |
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Few others deserve it more. Duckie
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:32 PM
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Your better off without her. She is probably going through one bad relationship after another. She did you a favor by allowing you to find someone that cares about you. I was hurt so bad that I will never date again.
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:45 PM
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15. I wonder if I was too.... |
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The idea of dating is repulsive.
The idea of being in love and having someone to do stuff with, not repulsive.
:shrug:
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:52 PM
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Dating is repulsive but having someone that loves you is not. :)
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:31 PM
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28. Please don't say "never" |
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I'm sorry you were hurt badly - I know how that is. I really thought after my second marriage ended that I would never, ever put myself in a position to be so hurt again. My husband left me with shattered self-esteem, huge debt, a family that still suffers the consequences of his abuse and some totally fucked illusions.
But four years later, when I wasn't even looking for a relationship, I met the man I've been with for the past four years, who is everything I could ever have wanted.
So take all the time you need to heal but don't say "never" - good things really can happen to us when we least expect it. :hug:
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:36 PM
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13. Robb, I'm so glad you posted today |
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I'm glad you post everyday, for that matter. ;-) I am also hoping for continued bliss for you and the wakeboard instructor, and that she knows how tremendous you are.
I can also only anticipate that the ex-Mrs. Robb will someday bitterly regret her actions. (Did I say that?) :mad:
Julie
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:49 PM
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Glad you're happy--what a difference a year makes, huh!
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Ellen Forradalom
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:52 PM
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18. Turns out you're not a dingbat after all! |
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Living well is the best revenge! Still got those dogs? Give 'em a cookie from me.
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Sun Apr-03-05 03:56 PM
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Edited on Sun Apr-03-05 03:57 PM by bicentennial_baby
Hugs for you :hug:
Good job on the keepin on keepin on, and congrats on the love...ain't it grand? :toast:
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Sun Apr-03-05 04:28 PM
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21. Is the wakeboarder a dingbat, too? |
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Sun Apr-03-05 04:57 PM
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22. The worm has turned for you |
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Congrats on your newfound happiness! Glad to hear everything has worked out for you. You deserve it!
:hi:
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:24 PM
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25. Congrats for splendidly getting thru those tough times, Robb. (n/t) |
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:24 PM
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26. You were treated badly, horribly, and a lot of people can empathize |
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with that. Congratulations on fighting through it and finding happiness. You deserve it.
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:27 PM
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27. i'm SO glad things worked out for you |
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i have read a few of your posts about your wake board instructor, and you do wound happy.
:hug: hugs anyway on this anniversary - it still is never easy...
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:33 PM
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29. I remember when that happened |
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So glad things have turned out well for you. Funny the way life works, no?
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Sun Apr-03-05 05:57 PM
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30. The former Mrs. Robb was a fool |
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She missed out. Congrats on moving on. You deserve your happiness. I'm trying to figure out how anyone makes a living as a wakeboard instructor. I thought you had sled dogs????
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Robb
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Mon Apr-04-05 08:02 AM
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31. At the risk of kicking such a self-centered thread |
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...first, thanks again, everyone.
Second: She only taught me how to wakeboard... ever since, 'round these parts she's been "Robb's Wakeboard Instructor." ;)
She's actually a personal trainer and aerobics instructor.
(ducks)
:D
And yes, I got the dogs. :grouphug:
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Mon Apr-04-05 08:07 AM
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:) You took a really crappy situation (to say the least) and made it into a positive one for you. You certainly deserve to be with someone as great as you are. :hug:
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