Ever get the feeling someone doesn't like you?

[HEyHEY]

It seems whenever I call my buddy John to do something, he's always totally into it, then he asks his wife and ends up canceling. I think she has a problem with me.

[babylonsister]

1. Perhaps you should include her

in your plans? :shrug:

[HEyHEY]

2. I do

A couple weeks ago I invited them over for dinner. Tonight I invited them both up to my family's cabin... both times he was like "Yeah that sounds awesome!" Then after asking his wife it's "Oh, I gotta take a rain cheque on that."

[Snap]

27. Riiiiiiiiiight

[JVS]

28. I'm sure they offered to let her be designated driver many times

[nytemare]

3. Hmmm. She sounds possessive.

I never understand when couples feel like they "always" have to be attached at the hip, or 1/2 of the couple.

It is normal for a guy to go out with his friends, and the gal should have friends too. I think that is healthy.

[HEyHEY]

4. I just hate seeing a guy completely controlled

I mean for christ's sake... is fun not allowed after marriage?

[nytemare]

8. I am wondering if perhaps she has trouble making friends

herself and feels that friends of her hubby are a threat to her.

Many people have an inability to have relationships with more than one person. They can only have a friend, a parent, or a spouse. If they are like that, they think their partner has to be as well.

[HEyHEY]

12. Well she has no friends - he met her up North and after the wedding

They moved down here. BUt he wants her to make friends, but she always kneecaps his attempts to meet other couples.... in fact that's probably it... I'm single she probably doesn't like him hanging out with single guys

[nytemare]

13. She might see you as competing for his affections

I can't make a complete judgement based on what you've said, but this could be the case. She may need a dose of self esteem.

I think many get married or always have to be in relationships to compensate for what they lack. They feel they are not complete without a relationship. They are the "I'll be happy when _____" types, and they put much pressure on their partners to compensate for them. A person can not make another happy, everyone has to be happy on their own. One can add to happiness, but it is too much of a burden to ask and require someone else to provide happiness for you.

[HEyHEY]

14. I should explain all this to her - that'll fix it!

;-)

[nytemare]

21. LOL, Yeah, go ahead!

Maybe you should invite them over by asking her. If she says no, then would be a good opportunity to ask if you might have said anything or done something she doesn't like. Explain you like your friend, like hanging out with him, and would hope that she would be a part of it too,(not in a sexual way..lol).

Just a thought.

:)

[JanMichael]

26. This is Stephanie; the "single" thing could be it.

I wish Michael would make some married friends at work closer to our age.

It would give me someone to talk to when we go out in groups...quite frankly the single male (and female) Gen-Xers and I just don't have all that much in common--so, I just have to drink, or put up with it.

It was a lot more fun for me in FL the few times we got to hang out with Mr. and Mrs. ShakeyDave-

So, I am sure that this post could have been written by one of the guys Michael works with--but, I am not a bitch. Just mostly bored to tears.

Stephanie

[JVS]

5. Sounds like John needs a new wife

[HEyHEY]

7. That's what I keep telling him - I can't figure out why she doesn't like

me :shrug:

Seriously though, it is sad.

[Phentex]

23. have you asked him?

[otohara]

6. Tell Your Friend To Call You

when he's up for doing something.

[HEyHEY]

10. He's always up for something - it's just his wife puts a damper on

every time

[Phentex]

19. but really....

what does that say about HIM? Maybe he just uses her as an excuse. I find it hard to believe that if he *really* liked you and wanted to do something, he would constantly say no.

[skygazer]

9. I've had that sort of situation

My best friend is a guy. He's married and I like his wife and get along well with her but he is the one who is my best friend. So naturally we talk on the phone and do things together etc. We do include her in much of what we do when we go places or that sort of thing but often she doesn't want to go along and I think she's somewhat jealous of the time we spend together and feels a bit like a fifth wheel when she does join us.

It's better now - at first it was very awkward but she and I have gotten closer. But I think that's usually the case in these things. Not everyone gets along the same way. :shrug:

[xmas74]

11. Every day when I go into work.

He has a problem w/ my t shirts and bumper stickers.

I call him my boss.

There is also the monthly child support check I sometimes receive in the mail-I don't think that my ex cares too much for me either. Until the state took over payments, he used to write "for the bitch" in the memo/note line on the check.

[JVS]

15. I just realized I didn't answer the question. I often feel that someone,..

and not just a few someones, dislikes me.

[HEyHEY]

16. I imagine someone watching "Dukes of hazard"

WHen suddenly the screen goes snowy doesn't like you.

[JVS]

17. They can go fuck themselves. We leave a note a whole day before...

doing a disco (our lingo for disconnect), besides we are only put onto a job if you are over 2 months late! Anyone who feels that we aren't giving them enough of a chance to pay up can lick me.

Not to mention the fact that before we disconnect we make a last attempt to get them to pay by knocking on their door. And if they want to pay before Monday night we'll gladly reconnect their delinquent asses for free.

[HEyHEY]

18. Does it say something to that affect on your business card?

[JVS]

22. see edit above, more info

We come to your door twice before we ever make a move to disconnect. We let you know the minimum of what yout need to pay from day 1.

The only time we come to your door once is if we find you the first time and you either pay or tell us there is no way that you will be paying.

[Champ]

20. In some relationships I've seen.....

The guy can might as well call his wife his "boss" or "master".

My best friend's wife doesn't like me and I Know this for a fact so I never seen him anymore.

[SarahB]

24. Possessiveness sucks.

I used to be married to someone like your friend's wife. It wrecked many friendships and ultimately (in part anyway) our marriage.

[miss_kitty]

25. yes, I do.

often. fuck 'em.

[Maddy McCall]

29. Yes. On DU.

It's funny, but someone who liked me perfectly well as Maddy McCall seemed to post really snarky posts to me when I was posting as Jilly Beans. (When I was on the road, I didn't have access to email or to my password, so I created a new account while on the road. I always told people I was Maddy McCall and the reason I was posting as Jilly Beans, but I guess this person missed that message.)

It's amazing how differently people will treat you because you have a low post number and a new name. I got to walk in the shoes of a newbie again, and I didn't like it.