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Just kidding. Seriously, though, my first thought while reading your post was "sexual abuse", but there are certainly other possibilities. I myself have been diagnosed with "social anxiety disorder", or kind of a social phobia. But, it's really pretty mild in my case. It sounds to me like a distinct possibility that your friend suffers from a more severe case of it. I can probably find a good website about it, but basically, I've always been very shy. Most of my friends in school were boys because they would approach me first, and were outgoing toward me. People accused me of being a snob because I was withdrawn. I've always been very self-conscious; afraid people are judging me, watching me, thinking bad things about me, etc. For example, I don't dance, just simply won't do it for fear of being watched, or embarrassing myself. I'm not a very demonstrative person. I love being hugged by friends and relatives, but it's extremely rare for me to initiate. Her fear of being touched may be a more severe form of this. I also thought it might be possible that she suffers from some other kind of personality disorder, like perhaps Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I believe the not liking physical contact could be a symptom of that.
Does being the way she is bother her? I mean, is she happy the way she is, or just coping? Would she want to change? If you think so, then maybe you should do some research for her on some of these issues and try to bring it up as delicately as possible. Encourage her to see someone about it; a psychologist is a good place to start, then a psychiatrist if meds are considered.
It sounds like she's really missing out on something great, having a guy feel the way you do about her, but being unable to reciprocate. I wish you the best of luck!
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