Holy shit, my roommates are nothing but drama [long, hillarious, rant]

[WindRavenX]

You want the next great soap opera? Get a fucking camera in my dorm room.
I live with three other girls. Two of them, C and K, sleep around. The other girl, we shall call her J, is a very smart, very monogomous chick who's wicked awesome. She's been with her boyfriend for over a year.
Well, last night the shit hit the fan. Apparently, C is such a...I really am urging the use the word "skank" here but we'll use it anyway because it fits, she hooked up with well over 50+ guys last year. Keep this in mind.
Now, last not J was in a lot of emotional turmoil because she and her boyfriend have been having problems. Then I get the bomb: she has herpes because of her boyfriend, who cheated on her. Oh it gets worse...
So then she tells me that her boyfriend got herpes from- yes, you guess it- C. So my roommate, with an STI, gave her roommate's SO an STI.
Holy shit, I want to kill both C and J's boyfriend. That's fucking bullshit. J doesn't deserve this.
But more drama, because why not?
K also has an STI but refuses to use protection (why? Because she's a fucking idiot). Keep in mind that as a safe-sex Nazi, I always hand out condoms (because the school won't) and try to inform people TO USE FUCKING PROTECTION GODDAMMIT.
K also has a tendency to create drama. Some dude, Kevin, her psuedo-boyfriend, and her have a hillbilly Romeo and Juliet thing going on. She won't make up her mind what to do with him, so she invites him down FOR A FUCKING WEEK HERE. I hate Kevin. But you know what? Who cares. That's not the problem.
they have loud sex over my head because we're in a bunk bed. And then acts like nothing happens.
Fuck these people. I hate drama.
I can't wait to get out of the dorms and live in my own kick ass apartment so I don't have to deal with this shit.

So the moral of the story:
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE use protection- I'm the only clean woman in my room =(

[Bok_Tukalo]

1. She has sex ... in the top bunk ... with you on the bottom bunk?

Jesus!

I think your situation has already been fictionalized. It's called "Lord of the Flies."

[WindRavenX]

2. you got it

I just...jeebus. I don't get why people do this x( x( x( x( x(

[yvr girl]

3. I can't believe that

Never in a million years would I do that.

[WindRavenX]

5. right, because you are human

and have a brain, which this dumb bitch doesn't.

[Ann Arbor Dem]

49. A million years ago when I was a freshman and lived in a dorm, my roommate

did the same thing. The difference was that I was in the top bunk. I got pissed, jumped off the bunk, turned on the lights, and told them to get the hell out. I was seeing red. (She was having sex with someone else's boyfriend.) They left.

She was angry with me when she returned later in the day, but I told her in no uncertain terms that if she ever did that again, I would lodge a complaint with the dorm director. I also told her to feel free to ask if she could move to another room as I had no intention of moving. They were able to move her within a week. Thank goodness that there were a few vacancies in the dorm that year.

I feel your pain.

[Ann Arbor Dem]

51. Oops...

I replied to the wrong post. :blush:

[Fenris]

4. Oh for the love of....

"they have loud sex over my head because we're in a bunk bed."

That's just WRONG.

The worst that ever happened to me was my filthy roommate once got his freak on with some unwed mother in our dorm room, and I "happened" upon them in the act.

[ltfranklin]

What would be worse?

If, while they were having "loud sex" in the top bunk, the bed collapsed and she was injured enough to go to the hospital, or worse, killed.

And the fact that it would be IMPOSSIBLE to keep the story from getting out.

Waugh!

[RevolutionaryActs]

6. isn't it amazing how completely stupid people are?

I mean dude... the protection thing... I just don't get it. How can you not use it? :wtf:


The sex in the bunk bed.... :scared: :puke:

[mark414]

7. yeah, but have you ever been in the same bed while someone was

having sex?

they thought i was asleep...well, i WAS, until they started going at it.

it was actually pretty funny now that i think about it

[yvr girl]

9. Clearly, there is a lack of decorum in the world

yikes

[mark414]

11. haha

yeah...he was my best friend at the time, and she was probably my best female friend so i guess if it had to be anyone rolling around next to me it'd be them...

but still...hahah

[miss_kitty]

13. ah-you mean

'The Good Old Days'?

Yes. But same as you-young, and they were good friends...

[Bouncy Ball]

30. I, too, once woke up to discover

two people having sex in my bed.

Weird, disorienting feeling. I thought we were having a minor earthquake for a second.

But we don't have earthquakes here...

[auntAgonist]

8. As I was reading ..

I was waiting for the hillarious part to happen. Can't you move somewhere else, get a dorm transfer or something? I'm afraid I'd have to have 'words' with ANYONE who treated 'my' privacy like that. Having sex in a bed above you is just so uncouth not to mention downright disgusting. I'm sorry you're having to put up with all that. . .


aA

[miss_kitty]

10. I think when they start doing it,

you should switch on the light, turn on a CD or radio and have a smoke or go grab a beer come back and start reading a book or writing a paper or hop on line. As if they aren't even there. Then act like nothing is happening.

They're using you as a charge in their sex life. You are actually participating in a ménage à trois.

I'd. Be. Very. Very. Angry. :grr: :nuke: :grr:

[FuzzySlippers]

25. I think you're right about them using WindRaven

as a charge. I had a roommate who woke me up to ask me a question right before she and her boyfriend started going at it. Fortunately, they weren't right over my head. The sad thing was that it was pathetically brief. (I mean sad for them--not for me. :-))

Dorm living is the pits.

[miss_kitty]

12. Ooooh another good one

make a phone call to someone as they're going at it, and start talking about them. As if they aren't there, of course.

[aePrime]

16. That phone call

Should be to her mother.

[xmas74]

19. Now that I have done.

College room mate actually kept a list w/ over 500 names on her side of the room(on the dorm room wall, in plain view). I was so tired of either being locked out of my room or having to listen to her w/ the man of the hour(this was her freshman year and there had already been 500 guys-yes she did flunk out). One night, I telephoned everyone that I knew during the episode and gave the blow-by-blow, treating it as if they were not there. Another night, I invited everyone over for drinks while they (she and yet another guy) were in the act.
After that, she went back to backseat sex.

[DS1]

14. Keep a gallon of sour cream under your bed

just as they're about to finish, hurl it on them and say you wanted a real money shot that time ;-)

[hfojvt]

15. I am searching for hilarity and am not finding it

herpes is hilarious?

This is too much of a sex thread, and I am not sure that sex is drama.

[WindRavenX]

20. Sorry, I should've added a sarcasm tag

By 'hillarious' I mean 'fucking disgusting'. STIs are no laughing matter.

[hfojvt]

26. so sad that it's funny?

When did STDs become STIs and why?
What is STP called now? What about SSTs? or SATs?
I want my four food groups back!

[DS1]

17. and what's an STI?

Is that the name for STD?

[Fenris]

18. Sexually Transmitted Infection

[sundog]

21. so is that like the politically correct term?

so as not to offend anyone?

like "little people"

[WindRavenX]

22. No, because some STD's really are "infections"

I think it's just more medically correct in some cases. Not all. But I'm pretty sure that herpes = STI.

[DS1]

I think Subaru is going to be really pissed

[mark414]

23. i have a friend who used to work for planned parenthood

and apparently that's the new buzz phrase or whatever...

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/sti/;jsessionid=45828C27DB412D76F2C4F09125AB9865

[Fenris]

24. No. The terms STI and STD are interchangable.

[Maestro]

27. Well

tell your formally clean friend who did not deserve this that herpes is manageable. We have a friend that was very discreet, never slept around, etc...One night she met a guy started seeing him and whamo, she got herpes from him. She now has remarried, had a kid and all is well. She just monitors her outbreaks and of course does not engage in sexual activity during active outbreaks. That is the only time she is contagious. So tell your friend to stay tough. She will learn to manage.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

28. I would have

informed the dormatory about what was going on. I can't believe that it is within rules to have sex in a dorm room with other people there.

I would have loudly told them that a dorm room is not the place to be doing that and that you were going to report them pronto.

The sex act should be a private thing. It was obvious they were having sex with you there simply for the thrill. As another poster said, the very least to do was to leave.

[mark414]

31. ?

they're college kids

[Bouncy Ball]

33. I saw a lot worse than two people having sex in an upper bunk

in five years of college.

And my college years were pretty tame.

(I thought.)

[mark414]

34. no kiddin

i'm only in my first year and it's been a real wild ride so far; not complaining too much, all part of growing up i guess?

but going to complain to the dorm authorities about it? who does that?

[WindRavenX]

35. yeah, no ratting out here

That's just not right.
And they'd get expelled- yay for going to a Catholic school :P

[tigereye]

45. this is a Catholic school?

wow, times have changed. I went to an extremely Catholic women's college my freshman year, we weren't even allowed to have guys in the room with the doors shut. (and that was the mid 70s.) Needless to say, I soon left and moved into a group house in the city where I had my own room. I missed the "people having sex in the dorm room" thing, fortunately.

I do agree with you though, how can people not use birth control?! At an RC college, that is supremely ironic and sad and risky. We could get into the RC "policy" on BC, but that would be a whole 'nother thread.

Hang in there. Or maybe you should start playing hymns or chants when they get started. :)

[regnaD kciN]

61. That's it! "Dies Irae"...

...the chant from the Requiem Mass about the terrors of the Last Judgement!

I actually recorded a CD of that piece about a decade ago. I'd be glad to send you a copy if a) you e-mail me an address to send it to, and b) you promise to use it the next time the "love machine" starts up over your head.

I mean, I went to a college in the mid-'70s (post-'60s, pre-AIDS), where pretty much everyone slept around, but I never had to be the unwilling "silent partner" in a threesome. For that matter, I only walked in on such activity once -- people were pretty considerate about tailoring their bedroom activities around their roommate's schedule.

[LynzM]

38. Same here

I'm amazed at the amazement on this thread, frankly. Welcome to college dorm life. It happens all the time....

[WindRavenX]

39. It's not that

It's the STI thing...it's just...sad =(

[LynzM]

40. I didn't mean you, WindRaven

I meant the other reactions to what you posted, the 'why don't you tell someone?!'/'I can't believe they'd DO that' ones ;)

[WindRavenX]

42. gotcha

Sex happens. Just please...please be smart about it....:(

[LynzM]

44. Yup....

It's crazy that people sleep around so much and aren't careful.... way too scary for me, thanks.

[Midlodemocrat]

52. Please encourage your roomie to see a doctor

some STDs can leave a woman infertile and she wouldn't have any symptoms.

Really sucks for her that her POS boyfriend did this to her, but infertility would suck big time to make her pay for something she didn't do.

[WindRavenX]

53. it's already been done.

She went to the doctor because she knew something was up.

[Midlodemocrat]

55. Good. Poor thing. I feel for her

and for you as well. I am old enough to be your mom, but I have a high schooler and the thought of her going off to an environment like the one you are in makes me shudder. I know it is the same everywhere, but as a Catholic, I was kind of hoping it wasn't happening there.

Best of luck to you with this.

[WindRavenX]

57. The school is a big problem

Not having condoms is a huge part in why my story isn't something out of the ordinary :(
I mean, fuck- out of 4 girls, I'm the only clean girl? My god. :cry:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

47. so?

they are also supposedly responsible human beings. And if they are living in a dorm, doesn't the dorm have some rules over this sort of thing?

I got to college on a scholarship and worked part time to pay expenses. I didn't see my time there as a time to party and to have sex but to get an education. Of course this was back in the late '60s early '70s, and maybe things have changed. But dorms had rules to be followed back then-you mean to tell me they don't now?

[Bouncy Ball]

29. Oh hell at my university in the 80s

you weren't anyone unless you at LEAST had a nice case of Chlamydia once or twice.

I keed, I keed.

(Well, not completely, STDs were fairly rampant AFTER "pro-life" freakazoids ran off Planned Parenthood, who once had a strong presence on campus. Fucking idiot "pro-life" people. Unwanted pregnancies and abortions went up, too. Smart, huh?)

People having sex in the bunk above you, man that brings back memories.

So will J use condoms with EVERYONE, even monogamous boyfriends from now on? Has she broken up with her boyfriend?

Tell C and K to give their hoo-hoos a bit of a rest.

[WindRavenX]

32. ha!

I don't know about J's situation now with her SO...
C and K- fuck it. If they haven't gotten a clue by now, then they're hopeless.

[Abelman]

36. Stupid

Too bad you've got crappy roommates. My college dorm life was awesome and it sounds like yours is ruined beyond repair.

I feel for the "good girl" the other two sound disgusting and the boyfriend sounds like he needs a good kick in the junk.

There has got to be someone you can talk to to get a new room or something. If not, I wonder how your college's housing department has survived at all.

[WindRavenX]

37. I'm living off campus next year

I can't wait. I am so sick of the drama these the girls at this school create. It's ridiculous.
I can't wait to have my own ghetto apartment, with peace and quiet, good music, and no stupid skank drama.

[Abelman]

43. That will be pretty solid

Are apartment pretty cheap where you are? You've got to be careful on some of those expenses.

[WindRavenX]

46. It's not that horrible

500-750/mth. I'm trying to get a studio.
I'm taking out a loan for this because 1)The school isn't giving me all four years of housing (you need to live off campus Junior year, which is next year for me) and 2) I fucking hate some of the girls here.

[Abelman]

48. You hate some of the girls?

Well, gee, that comes as a surprise after your opening post;)

[WindRavenX]

50. I know, you could feel the love just *oozing* out right?

Wait, that might have been the wrong adjective...:7
No really, my friends on campus are chill- we're the feminist group so we don't like a lot of the social shit that goes on here.
I'm not bitter. Really. I love this school but the personal drama is something I cannot tollerate- and I am a VERY easy going, relaxed person.

[Abelman]

54. I hate Drama

and always ignored it in College. It was kind of a problem when I was an RA because we're supposed to know the drama and keep it down.

I just didn't care because half the time it was someone talking to another person's girl or guy. JUST TALKING!!!

I ignore all drama best I can. Because I just don't care about fake things.

[ghostsofgiants]

41. Sounds like my old high school

All of that shit was commonplace when I went to high school. Ridiculous. Even the sex-while-your-friend-is-trying-to-sleep-right-next-to-you crap. If I was ever in sucha situation I would go, get a buncket of VERY cold water (maybe throw in a few trays of ice cubes) and dump it over the ignorant bastards.

[hel]

56. Now and then something really shocks me about America

this is one of them. People in my country wouldn't even believe this is a real story if I told them.

Not that I'm judging you and your friends, I'm simply... horrified.

I would talk to these people and tell them what you feel, demand some respect or something if I were you. After I regained my senses, that is. Good luck! :)

[WindRavenX]

they don't listen

I keep throwing condoms at them, but they're usually too drunk to remember to use them.
It's really, really sad. I just don't get it...I really just don't.

[mark414]

58. yeahh...it's pretty commonplace these days

for better or for worse, it is what it is

[DS1]

59. So, uhhh, are they doing it now?

:D

[Radical Activist]

60. Let me know if you get that camera installed.

That sounds like some entertaining viewing. :D

[tjwmason]

62. EEEWWWWWWWWW

Little more can be said.

I avoided shared rooms at uni (for which I am eternally grateful - as would all potential room-mates of mine), but it was quite clear from friends that such matters were sorted out by prior arrangement and mutual consent. People would share beds with room-mates, but actually doing stuff is just too gross to imagine.

As you say, J doesn't deserve any of this. With the others (including the b.f.) its just a case of what goes around comes around - but she's now the victim. Just a pity she doesn't have an older brother around to sort out her b.f. (I speak now as an older brother who would probably be torturing him to death at this point).

[TorchTheWitch]

63. Ok, I REALLY want to know...

WHY are you allowing this???

"K also has a tendency to create drama. Some dude, Kevin, her psuedo-boyfriend, and her have a hillbilly Romeo and Juliet thing going on. She won't make up her mind what to do with him, so she invites him down FOR A FUCKING WEEK HERE. I hate Kevin. But you know what? Who cares. That's not the problem. they have loud sex over my head because we're in a bunk bed. And then acts like nothing happens.
Fuck these people. I hate drama."

So, K has this guy living in the room that YOU SHARE without even asking if that was ok with you, and you LET her? WHY???

And they have sex with you in the same room and you LET her? WHY???

Either K somehow grew to be old enough to go to college without ever learning to have a single ounce of respect for other people or she simply doesn't give a crap about your feelings or your rights. She's treating you like crap because you LET her. Tolerating bad behavior from people only teaches them that they can... therefore, they will... and because the behavior is tolerated they often won't even know that it IS bad behavior.

Look at it this way... if you let a puppy continually pee on the carpet without ever teaching him that peeing on the carpet isn't acceptable behavior, he'll continue to pee on the carpet. Next thing you know he'll poop on it too... and get in the garbage... chew up all your shoes... he'll keep doing as he pleases because you LET him, and he won't even know that this behavior isn't acceptable because you haven't expressed that to him.

You need to get into K's face immediately and tell her that Kevin has to leave. Tell her she's a rude selfish B* for not even ASKING you how you felt about him living in the room that you SHARE with K. K is treating the room you SHARE as though it were hers alone with no regard to your feelings or rights as a roommate. Tell her that if she wants to have sex with Kevin or anyone else she's not to ever do it in your presense ever again. Demand an apology for her selfish and disgusting behavior. If she has a problem with this, tell her that if her shitty behavior continues you'll move heaven and earth to get her moved to another room or even tossed out of school.

Then you need to insist that you and your roommate(s) get together and set up ground rules so you can peacefully live together and that breaking the ground rules won't be tolerated. There is no roommate situation on earth that has ever worked out when there is little or no communication/agreement about HOW to live together.

Right away you need to stop LETTING this nutty B* ride roughshod all over you. You need to demand that your feelings and rights are to be respected or violators will face the consequences. For crying out loud, stick up for yourself!

As for the STD thing... if they're that stupid, the hell with them. You can throw condoms at them and lecture safe sex to your heart's content, but they obviously haven't learned anything from it. Unfortunately, many people are only moved to doing something if people think they are stupid. Sadly, fear of humiliation rather then the interest of their own well being is often a bigger motivator in doing what's necessary to protect oneself... so while handing out condoms tell them how fucking stupid they are if they don't use them, and if they catch something because they didn't at least try to protect themselves you'll point and laugh.