How did you catch your S.O. cheating?

[LoZoccolo]

Let's have our own DU version of Cheaters right here, and show off our own amatuer detective work.

[Magrittes Pipe]

1. Our daughter told me.

Okay, so she only cheated on our diet. Still, it's the LIES I can't stand! :cry:

[xmas74]

2. I was working two jobs, newly pregnant and having

a bad case of morning (noon and night) sickness. I left work early and bam! Right in my bed.

[rooboy]

11. What astounds me...

apart from the infidelity is the stupidity - WHY do people think they won't get caught at home???

[xmas74]

12. He was a braindead type of person in the first place.

I got rid of him that night.

[all.of.me]

30. still got the baby?

what a horrible time to end a relationship, especially like that!

[xmas74]

42. She'll be five in June.

[all.of.me]

61. good for you!

[thecai]

35. The Ultimate Dis!

I'm so sorry to hear that, xmas74! That had to be SO PAINFUL!

[xmas74]

41. It's ok.

I chased them both throughout the apartment w/ a broomstick. I got a few licks on each of them.

[thecai]

44. You Go, Girl!

I bet he cheated on her, too. And maybe she cheated on him.
You're lucky you got rid of him right away.

[xmas74]

45. They got married the day our daughter was born.

Does he cheat on her? I don't know. From what I understand they tend to "share" their women. Even better reason to get rid of him.
*not the sharing type*

[tjwmason]

67. Pity a broomstick was the only thing to hand

The late rennaisance composer Carlo Gesualdo come across his wife in bed with another man, and pushed his sword through both of them killing them together.

That said, it did contribute to him going mad - so maybe not such a good idea.

[xmas74]

82. It's a good thing that I was never a gun person.

I would have shot them both at that moment. Bad enough what I did.

I felt so slimey the next morning just thinking about them that I called my OB and had her run tests for every STD imaginable. Who knows what that woman might have been carrying around!

[Skittles]

46. I will never, never understand that

not how people can cheat, but how they can do it IN THEIR PARTNER'S OWN HOME. It just boggles my mind, the complete lack of respect.

[xmas74]

47. He was a moron.

Plus, he was an abusive SOB who didn't really care. He figured that I would keep putting up w/ it.
He didn't realize that my catching him was the last straw. I thought that my pregnancy would change everything(it wasn't planned but when it did happen I was happy about it). I realized that he would never grow up and learn to respect me.
Having him cheat on me was the best thing that ever happened to me. Truthfully, if I hadn't had my eyes opened that night I never would have had the courage to leave an abusive relationship. I would probably be dead by now-and so would my daughter.

[Skittles]

50. if you don't mind me asking

is he still in your life? I'm wondering if he is involved with his daughter's life and if that is a good or bad thing. To me it would be very difficult- I'd have to hide my complete disdain for a person because I think trashing a child's parent is a form of abuse. Sure the guy is an a-hole but there is no need to tell the kids - they will figure it out on their own

[xmas74]

51. He refuses to be a part of her life.

He wants me but not her. I tried to get him involved w/ her but he didn't want to. He completely left the scene when the sonogram said that it was a girl instead of the boy that he wanted.
Right now she cries for her father (even though she doesn't know him). All of the other four year olds in her preschool talk about their dads so she wants one too. I think that if she ever meets him she will not want him in her life.
I hate to see what will happen when she is old enough to go over there and knock on his door by herself. He will have a lot of explaining to do.

[Robeson]

52. It may not be my place to say, but your ex sounds very....

...immature - and selfish - to me.

[xmas74]

54. I don't care if you say it.

He was immature. Shows that age really is nothing but a number (he was 10 years older than me. I was 20 when I got involved w/ him and 25 when I had our child-alone). I gave up my own education to put him through college, even though I had the better GPA because he "always wanted to finish his degree". I worked 2 and at one point 3 jobs to support that bum. And the deal was that once he finished his masters he was supposed to put me through nursing school-his idea on nursing school(almost guaranteed job. I eventually went back and finished a degree in Econ-fat lot of good it has done me but I did finish it).
I wish that he would eat shit and die.
BTW-he is also a fundie puke-but he participates in menage a trois often. There is no explanation for him.

[Robeson]

55. "he is also a fundie puke". My God, enough said!!......

...It seems I know so many people like him who are fundie pukes, and their personal lives are complete contradictions to what they politically espouse.

[xmas74]

57. He believes in

less is more-by way of his taxes. He is also a member of some fundie church now (didn't used to be. Makes me wonder what is in it for him). Last time I saw him was at a gas station while visiting a friend a while ago (about an hour and a half away from me). He was driving his wife's H2 w/ a Bush/Cheney sticker in the back window. He believes that the government needs to stay out of his business, yet he also believes that they should intervene in everyone elses lives. He hates Family Services and Child Support Enforcement(because they tagged his butt a few times) and believes that they should be abolished. He says that everyone should be responsible enough to take care of themselves and their families w/o any state or federal money-yet Child Support Enforcement has had to ride his ass on many occasions to make him pay up. He has been really close to having warrants served on him for nonpayment. He is also such a fundie yet he and his wife have their pictures posted on swinger sites. Proves that his life is nothing but a bunch of lies.

[fudge stripe cookays]

64. Geez.

xmas, you have been through so much!

Thank goodness you are away from that lying, cheating, scum. Just remember your Nietzsche. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger!

Take care of yourself. You deserve it after all that.
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[xmas74]

81. Thank you!

There are women out there who have been through much worse and are still going through much worse than I am right now. I just decided that enough was enough. It wasn't for me-it was for my baby (who will be five in June!).

[VelmaD]

3. I'll get the ball rolling...

I've never been 100 percent sure if my evil ex was cheating or not but all the signs seem to point that way. I know when I went to take him his stuff and get some things I had left at his place, this chick who he had been "friends" with for a long time showed up and got all possessive and snarly at me. If he was cheating with her...all I can say is I feel sorry for her.

I caught him in some other lies toward the end and I figure if he was lying to me about where he was calling from (collect the idiot boy) and lying to me about moving to Austin then he could have very well been lying about cheating too. :shrug:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

4. hasn't happened

in our 16 years together, I think we've been apart maybe a total of 6 weeks, and we were so miserable being apart we called each other every day and sighed.

[Longgrain]

5. Something like this..

Best Friend introduces me to girlfriend...

Girlfriend whispers to best friend, "I've done it with everyone"

Modest country boy overhears. Asks girlfriend "is this true"

Girlfriend says yes.

Modest country boy calls off romance.

Again. Ready to burst into tears...:cry:

[Sugar Smack]

17. GROSS!

Honey...baby? I'm sorry to be insensititve, but you don't want to have anything to do with a walking, talking petri dish.

Aren't you glad you have your health?


EEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWW! Shudder with me. :scared:

I'm with windravenX on this one.

[Longgrain]

20. You got it it! I'm generally a one woman at a time sort of guy...

Unfortunately the woman I get involved with don't feel the same way about men.

Oh well. back to the Supermarket for me...<<<SIGH>>>

[fudge stripe cookays]

66. You're lucky, dear.

You could have gotten something a year's worth of Clorox wouldn't take off!

There's someone far better. Someone attracted to your casually earthy artist's persona.

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[Sugar Smack]

80. If you don't stop sighing someone's gonna have to smack you!

Favorite lyrics:


Wild Thing, I think you move me!
But I wanna know for sure
Everytime I kiss you I taste what other men had for lunch
The only thing that can get you off is to see me in pain
BUT I THINK I LOVE YOOOOOUUU!

Wild Thing
You make my heart scream
You took everything
Oh, Wild Thing

Wild Thing I think you move me!
Ahh, just came to my mind, I thought I'd say that.
You made me trust you, then stuck the knife in my heart
You're a LYING, UNFAITHFUL, UNTRUSTABLE TRAMP
But I think I love you!

Wild Thing
You make my heart scream
You took everything
Oh, Wild Thing

Spoken (and screamed):
Everyone's got some kind of Wild Thing that went through our lives and made it hell. Because eveyone's had one, you me, nobody likes to lose. And you know she's out there, laughing at you, I dont care if it was last week or third grade, someone broke your heart, what was her name?

Wild Thing
I'll never forgive you!
HOW DO YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF?
You never loved me!
You used me!
I hope you slide under a gas truck and taste your own blood!
WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME YOU WERE A DEMON FROM HELL?
You deserve the men your gonnna meet, you loser!
Railroad bums, transients, out-of-work guys
Guys that are gonna use you like you used me!
Guys that are gonna take money out of your purse and crawl out a window!
oh ohhhhhhhh!
Whats her name?
Yeaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh!


Sam Kinison, RIP. And can be used by either sex of whatever sexual orientation.




:P

[Longgrain]

83. Ah there you are! Been wondering if you were going to show tonight!

Don't worry, I'm over that girl.

She was just a short summer fling...pay it no mind.

[Borgnine]

6. I'd have to have a S.O. first.

Oh, so lonely. Woe is me. Oh dear oh dear oh dear. Pity me. Sigh. Etc.

[tjwmason]

65. Shall we sit together and cry?

I'm still looking for Mr. Right. Sigh.

[Wcross]

79. I used to look for Ms. Right....

Now I am happy with Ms. Right there.

[Arkana]

7. I was smart enough to put two and two together

Friend who called me while I was in Boston that week saying she was seen sleeping with some guy at a party + Tantrum she threw right before I left about me not being attentive enough = cheating bitch.

[rainbow4321]

8. Him not coming home one night was the final clue...

yeah, yeah, love is blind, etc...guess the diary I found should have been a big red flag. But I tried to fix things, save the marriage. Found the diary on Saturday, confronted him, made up <so I thought> and on Sunday night he "went out to play some video games" and, well, you get the picture. So I a> had the locksmith over at 6 am Monday and b>the bank account emptied by 9 am..and by 1 pm he was calling me wanting to know why our $10,000 balance only showed $100 when he went <w/ girlfriend in tow> to get money out of the ATM machine.


:evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin:

[Deja Q]

9. All I do know is that my right hand knew what my left hand was doing.

:wow:

:rofl:

[leftofthedial]

15. you jerk

[name not needed]

16. Don't be such a wanker!

[leftofthedial]

19. HypnoToad really has to hand it to

uh, HypnoToad

[Deja Q]

22. ROFL! (to all 3 of youse!)

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[Straight Shooter]

10. I was working night shift, started feeling really funky ill and went home.

Turned the door handle, it was locked. I heard rustling inside, I ran around and came in through the back door. Came into the living room, they were adjusting their clothes.

He looked at me and said, "It's not what you think." I said, "Man, it's exactly what I think."

I was glad at that point to have legal/spiritual grounds for divorcing him. He was abusive. That woman did me a big favor, even if she thought she was getting away with something. So, after all these years, thanks Stephanie! I owe you :D

(This was not our DU Stephanie)

[MrScorpio]

13. This is fun

:popcorn:

[GOPisEvil]

14. Tried to surprise her by showing up at her place with dinner.

I thought I would be out all evening, but things worked out that I was able to be free. I opened the door to her place...heard...sounds coming from the bedroom. Saw my gf and a guy I knew going at it. I grabbed my food and left. Then I asked my friends to get me drunk.

Eh, she wasn't worth it, but I was pissed at the time.

[eyepaddle]

18. It's been thirteen years but it still stings,

I walked into my living room and looked down at the floor and into her eyes as the dude I was letting crash on my couch for a few months hammered away.

Some shit you get past, but never really get over.

[MrSlayer]

21. The idiot wrote it down and left the letter out accidentally.

What really pissed me off is that the letter was written in anger at the person she cheated on me with (Her first cousin, yick) for "betraying her trust" and telling people. I wanted to kill her so bad I can still taste it 16 years later. As it was I just gave her a good hard kick in the ass and threw her out bodily into the street along with all her stuff. At this point in time though I'm glad it happened because I probably wouldn't be with my most excellent wife now, she is forgiven and thanked. Lemonade out of lemons.

[elehhhhna]

23. You forgave the woman whom you gave a "good hard kick in the ass &

threw out bodily into the street' ? How chivalrous of you.

[XNASA]

24. I have a question.

Do threeways count as cheating?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

38. yes, if the person knows full well that they are hurting you

and more so if they pretend for years that they had no idea they would
:eyes:

[XNASA]

73. What if I was one of the people....

...involved in the threeway? Is it still cheating?

[CanuckAmok]

25. I suspected, but hacking her email account confirmed it.

No further details offered. To this day, however, even though we've been apart for 15 months, she still hasn't admitted the cheating.

To h-e-double-hockeysticks with the both of them; they deserve each other. He left his wife and kids for her. Yuck.

[Beware the Beast Man]

26. She was looking up Z-words in the dictionary...

Then she hit me with a Triple-Word Score!

[leftofthedial]

27. I was doing a little, um research, yeah, research

and I repsonded to a women seeking men ad. It turned out to be her.

Just kidding.

I never caught her. We have had serious problems, but adultery wasn't one of them as far as I know.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

28. Saw the mortar-forker holding hands with a co-worker,

walking down the street with her during the lunch hour, downtown (where we both worked, though in different offices). Tore him several new assholes that afternoon. Duplicitous POS, he was.

[Lisa]

29. well, I walked into his kitchen and found fresh orange juice in the fridge

... along with a bowl of those "yuppie greens" (arugula, etc.). He never buys that kind of thing on his own.

Since we were in a long-distance relationship at the time, we'd had no choice but to trust each other -- but he'd chickened out and hadn't told me that he'd started flirting with a woman at a local bakery 3 weeks previously, one thing had led to another, and by the time I arrived for Christmas vacation, she'd practically moved in. I'm not blaming her because she was on the rebound, but still -- she knew about me and figured that he was "fair game" since she needed someone and I was in a different city.

p.s. the awkward end to this story -- I was still staying at his place that night because there were no more flights back to Vancouver until the next day. She arrived unexpectedly, marched him into the bedroom, and ... suffice it to say, I fled the house (those Arts and Crafts bungalows have really thin walls that do nothing to block noise!) and walked around downtown Oakland until quite late. I later found out that she had gotten pregnant that night. (Since she's a doctor, I didn't quite believe her claim that she'd gotten mixed up on the birth control ...) By then, my ex had decided that he'd made a big mistake -- but it was too late.

[RetroLounge]

31. Hmmm, which time? Which SO?

Came home one time and found a Girlfriend doing my roommate on the couch. That's a give-away.

One time I walked into another Girlfriend's apartment (I had a key) and she was on her knees and not alone. I had a slight clue at that point.

Another time, my ex-wife told me she was doing the guy upstairs because she thought I was never around and always at gigs, band rehearsal, studio, etc, and she was lonely.

I hang with a better class of woman now...

RL

[crispini]

32. This is not my story, but...

that of a dear friend and dedicated activist who pounded pavement, registered voters, and hoisted signs with me in the run up to the election.

The day after the election-- remember that? All of us activists were at home, on the phone with each other, hung over, depressed, sitting in bed that morning watching the Kerry concession speech, crying our eyes out in our jammies.

That same afternoon, dear friend's hub comes home from work and tells her that he has been having an affair with a coworker, the affair went south, the coworker turns him in for sexual harrassment, and his job has ALSO gone south.

The marriage followed shortly thereafter. :(

(Can you imagine? On that same day? Sheesh.)

[mitchum]

33. When I noticed the stash of Monopoly money beneath her chair

That hussy!

[thecai]

34. He Called Me From A Motel...

...the day our caller-id kicked into operation.

[davsand]

36. Not an issue now, but one guy is called "The Crab King" for a reason.

The first time I came up with crabs I had no idea what they even were until I went to the student health service. They gave me a bottle of this stinky green shampoo shit named "Kwell." (I am NOT making that name up, I swear!)

I went home and shaved off all my pubic hair THEN used it, then I went to see the man about it. He says, "Oh--I bet I got those from the locker at the gym."

I actually bought that story because I really didn't know much about crabs yet.

About a month later, my pubes have grown back and the crabs come back.

I skipped the stop at the student health center and went directly to a buddy's house who had a bit more experience in the whole Crab thing. I left there, drunk, but with an education about crabs. I drove to the Crab King's apartment.

What followed was ugly and loud and it involved me throwing anything that was not nailed down.

I only saw him one time after that. In a bar. He was cruising.


Laura

[Skittles]

48. LOL........CRAB KING

I would have trashed the bum too

[Name removed]

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[RagingInMiami]

39. Reading all these posts

Makes me glad I'm single.

[thecai]

40. I'm Glad I'm Single NOW!

Though I Love everyone, I'll never fall IN Love again. Ever.

[xmas74]

53. Same here.

I would love to find Mr. Wonderful, the man who wanted to be w/ me forever and wanted to be a good father for my daughter (since her own father is a worthless bastard). I just got too tied up in the relationship w/ him and was devastated over everything that he ever did to me(cheated on me; was physically,emotionally and sexually abusive to me; cleared out our bank account; took all of the furniture out of the apartment when he left-even though I paid for 100% of it; etc).
I would probably need some major therapy before I would be ready for another relationship.

[Anarcho-Socialist]

62. I hope you do...

...after everything you've been through, you are long-deserving something special. :hug:

[xmas74]

85. Thank you.

But it is very hard to find someone special in Missouri. You've become familiar w/ the state, you know how it is here. Everything is your own damn fault around here.

[politicat]

43. well.... I kind of knew about it from the beginning, but....

My ex fell in love with Mr. Pcat's ex. The two of them are/were very much Polyamory advocates; Mr. P and me, not so much.

Mr. P and his ex had been married several years when she heard about polyamory, and she liked the idea. He was less certain, but was willing to entertain the concept, given that the ground rules were not broken and that he had veto.

My ex was polyamorous when we met, but he didn't tell me for a couple years - tried to ease me in, giving me R. A. Heinlein, Loving More Mag.... and then sprung the concept on me. I liked the idea in theory, but being a shrink, I know there's a lot that I find interesting in theory but won't ever do. But, what the heck what can it hurt, okay, let's meet the local polyamory meetup.

Mr. P, his ex, my ex and I meet. Not much chemistry for me with Mr. P and his ex, but they're nice enough. HUGE chemistry between my ex and Mr. P's ex. Mr. P and I, not wanting to stand in the way of Love's Young Dream, let them have their thing, and we pretty much end up spending a lot of time together as friends. In fact, he becomes something that I value more highly than much of anything - a real friend.

The exes have a falling out over some weird shit that is so not part of PA that it might be identifying, so suffice it to say that Shit gets weird. Mr. P and I, standing on the sidelines, don't know what to do or say. They have a core meltdown, won't talk to each other... and don't want Mr. P and I talking to each other, even though Mr. P and I are friends, not sleeping together, just enjoying each other's company. Major accusations from my ex to me, accusing us of sleeping together when we're not (claims he could "smell it" on me and in the bedroom... later found a dead mouse was causing the odor... it was such a sick situation by that point...)

Massive jealousy ensues on both of the exes' parts since Mr. P and I stand firm and won't give up a valuable friendship for the sake of partners who have, admittedly, hurt both of us pretty badly with their fling (which did not conform to ground rules on both sides, but which Mr. P and I were willing to tolerate, since we'd both gotten a good friend out of it) and were hurting us badly by trying to be controlling. (I think they realized instinctively that Mr. Pcat and I had something that they didn't have with either each other or in the original partnership.)

Upshot: I left my ex and moved into a small apartment by myself, in preparation to buy a house of my own. Mr P's ex left him, leaving him carless. Weeks went by, no one talking to anyone, a big sense of relief for me in a lot of ways; I realized how bad things had been between me and my ex, and how far into denial I'd been about it, and spent the time buying my house and getting good with myself.

Both of us were carless and living with public transit, and after some time, he IMed me at work and suggested coffee in the afternoon. We did that a lot for several weeks, or one of us spent the night on the other's floor if there was something we wanted to do after the buses had stopped running up to his place or if I needed to do laundry, since I didn't yet have machines of my own. Very friendly, platonic, both avoiding the ex partners and talking about it.

About six months later, we figured out that we were really good for each other and good together. We've been together five years, married for four. He's still my best friend and the only person I have ever wanted to marry.

[Sean Reynolds]

49. Her mother called me....

Told me she was pregnant with another man's child.

[Abelman]

56. Damn...

This is some crazy stuff. I am so glad I haven't discovered cheating. Only one girl I ever suspected of it.

I don't know if I could ever cheat on a girl.

[free_spirit82]

58. Not my SO, but my father cheating on my mom

My dad went after anything that looked his way, including my mom's best friend, from the time that they were married. He almost literally slept his way through our entire community. In high school, I wouldn't date anyone I didn't know for absolute sure wasn't sired by my father; and if I REALLY liked a guy, I would stop just short of DNA tests....didn't want to chance falling in love with my half brother. My brother wasn't so smart about it. He finally got the girl he really liked and when Dad met her at the Promenade for their Senior Prom, my dad informed him that he didn't need to get attached, there was a very good chance that she was half-sis. And her mom!! After all those years, was STILL all over my dad. He was a long-haul truck driver after he and my mom divorced (he finally got caught doing some chick on the side of the road in a car a few blocks from our house by the nosiest old woman in our neighborhood, and she didn't have a problem telling) so I probably have half-bros and sis' spread all over this country.

[Abelman]

59. Welcome to DU

:hi:

[fudge stripe cookays]

68. Oh wow.

What an awful eason not to be able to date or let yourself care for people!

I'm so sorry your dad was an ass. Hopefully things are a little better for you now.

Welcome to DU.
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[freebird1]

60. By checking an unusual amount on our credit card....

The foolish man said he was alone in Atlantic City for the week end.

While writing out checks to pay our bills - I noticed his bill was for only two nights instead of three. I called the hotel to question the billing and was rewarded with this information *the third night was charged to the credit card number of his old girlfriend*. The casino was nice enough to mail me a copy of the paid bill which I turned over to my lawyer ! It was one of the wonderful reasons why my divorce turned out better than my marriage is because I named her in my divorce case:wtf::rofl:she freaked because - she is a lawyer with no way out of an embarrassing skeleton in her closet thanks to my ex-husband.

Dang ~ I hate a liar ! Lying to me is the one thing I will never forgive and I always find out the truth anyway.

[BearClaws]

63. Had Suspicions

so I took the keys to her work, snuck in and went through her desk.
It was all right there, love letters, lunch dates marked on the calender and photos.
I brought it all home.
The look on her face was priceless.
Damn, I'm glad that is way behind me now.

[Debbi801]

69. He is ex-SO now, and for many years...

But I discovered it when I opened his glove compartment to grab change for a toll and discovered condoms and pierced earrings (my ears are not pierced) in with the change.

I had suspected for a while (he was going out every weekend and leaving me at home with an infant and a toddler) but this was the final confirmation.

Between the cheating and the abuse, it was enough to smarten me up and I packed up the kids and left. It was tough for a while, but now I'm married to a wonderful man and I've never looked back. The kids were 1 and 3 when I left, they're now 10 and 12 and I'm so glad I made the decision I did.

Debbi

[Samurai_Writer]

70. Mine is a pretty wierd way of finding out...

I had several suspicions before this, and even a name of a woman who supposedly was "a psycho bitch who was 'after him'". But this was the last straw...

My husband was a maritime agent, and often would have to go to port to inspect ships at odd hours. So, he gets called into work on a Sunday evening. A few hours later, he calls me, and tells me his co-worker has been in a terrible car accident, and he's going to the hospital to see him. So I say fine, see you when you get home.

Morning comes, and he is still not home. So I call him on his cell phone. He sounds very strange. I ask what's up, how's his friend, etc. He said he spent the night at the hospital comforting the guy's wife -- friend is supposedly in ICU. So he says he is going to work.

I call his work, and who answers the phone, but his friend who is supposedly on his deathbed in the hospital. Call my husband back, and the 'psycho bitch' answers his phone! Get him on the line, tell him I know what's going on, to come home, get his stuff,and bring my car back. He never came back. I changed the locks that day on the house and my other car (both of which I was paying on -- he had been unemployed for 75% of our marriage). He tried to steal the other car from my place of work, so it's a good thing I got the locks changed on it. Got a divorce, got my car repo'ed from where it was sitting at the psycho bitch's house. He ended up marrying her (wife #4, but is already onto wife #5). This was about six years ago.

When I was going through his things to pack and give to him, I found a diary, several women's phone numbers and email addresses, and photos. I confirmed he had affairs with at least five women during our 2 1/2 year marriage. One even went with me to court to testify, which is why I got a divorce for cause -- adultery. In Texas, that is nearly impossible to do.

[Mutley]

71. only one SO ever cheated on me

(that I know of!)

We were in High School and I'd been dating this dude for a couple months and everything seemed cool enough. Then people started telling me that they'd seen my SO and this girl Heather walking around school together. At first I didn't think anything of it because I knew he and Heather had been 'friends' before we started dating. But after a few more weeks people would tell me they'd been seen holding hands, making out, etc. I never did ask him about it, and I don't know why. Maybe I didn't want to know.

Anyway, one day I was walking to my car at the end of the day and I saw my SO and Heather standing outside of her bus kissing. I didn't even say a word to him; I just walked up, threw his class ring at his head and walked away. I refused to even speak to him despite the fact that he tried repeatedly to call me or corner me in the hall at school.

I saw him last summer at a friend's funeral and he still tried to insist that nothing was going on. All I said was that the funeral of one of our mutual best friends was not the place for that discussion. I haven't seen him sense.

[GiovanniC]

72. How I Caught Her

With one girlfriend it went like this:

ME: Hey, did you want to do some Christmas shopping today?
HER: I have a paper to get done. (we were in college)
ME: All right, I'll give you a call later then.

I get distracted with some apartment cleaning and before I know it, a couple hours have passed. I'm now ready to leave, but I decide to call her before I leave to see if she's done with her paper or wants to take a break.

HER DAD: Hello?
ME: Is Alicia there?
HER DAD: No, she's over at her sister's house.

So now I know that she's probably done with her paper, so I decide to call her at her sister's house and see if she wants to go Christmas shopping after all. Her brother-in-law, a friend of mine, answered the phone.

ME: Hey, is Alicia around?
HIM: Nope, haven't seen her.
ME: She hasn't been over there to see Violet (her sister)?
HIM: No, Violet's sick. She's been in bed all day.
ME: Oh, okay.

At this point, I'm still too naive to think something's up. I go to the mall to do the shopping, a little confused but overall just fine. After I'm there for about an hour, I happen to glance down the hallway with the restrooms and see her standing down there. I swear, this is how stupid I am... I think: "She came her to look for me!" I head down the hall to see her.

She sees me, and doesn't look as happy to see me as she probably should.

ME: Hey!
HER: Hi, what are you doing here?
ME: I told you I was going Christmas shopping.
HER: Oh yeah.
ME: What are you doing?
HER: Nothing.
ME: Just hanging out at the restrooms?
HER: I'm waiting for someone. Will you get out of here?
ME: Who are you waiting for?
HER: Will you just leave?
ME: Why are you acting like this? Who are you waiting for?
HER: I'm just waiting for Violet.

Red alerts now finally going off.

ME: Oh, well I'll just wait with you. I heard she was sick, I want to see how she's doing.
HER: She doesn't want to see you.
ME: Why are you waiting in front of the men's room if you're waiting for Violet?
HER: GOOOOO NOWWWWW. I will talk to you later.
ME: Not until I see Violet.

A few seconds later, a guy comes out of the restroom, puts his arm around her, points at me and says, "Who is this guy?"

I extend my hand for a handshake, shake his hand, and said, "Until about 30 seconds ago, I was her boyfriend. Best of luck."

Then I just walked away. She called me a few times after that to apologize and try to get me back but I wouldn't hear of it. Later, I found out that he gave her genital warts.

And we all lived happily ever. Or, wait. She didn't. But I did.

[SOteric]

74. When he said

"I only took up with you to make (her) jealous, and it worked."

And then in a later longterm, deeply-connected relationship, - I just knew. I know a lot of people have a hard time believing that, or understanding the concept and I have no rational explanation. It wasn't crazy or panic-filled. An icey certainty descended on me from out of nowhere one evening. I phoned him and asked him point blank and he admitted it. I hung up and went running.

[Susang]

75. Never have, hopefully never will

:D

[LeftyMom]

76. I found a bra

It was not mine. It was not a color or size even close to mine.

I have a pretty good idea who it belonged to. She's a slut and he has no taste, they deserve each other.

[bigwillq]

77. The one time I know that my SO cheated

It was with the same kid I messed with (My SO went with him first) I didn't know it at the time but later on, the kid and I started talking, I was telling him about my SO and he was like "Oh, I messed around with him." The kid might've been lying, oh well. My SO and I have never talked about it.

[Wcross]

78. Hickey on the neck....

I was 23 she was 22. We had been dating for three years and I went away for a week. I returned home, we went out and returned to her place. We were being intimate and then I noticed it. She confessed but things just weren't the same after that. We went our seperate ways a couple of months later. All I can say is "Thanks Nick, you saved me from making a mistake". I had intended to marry the girl but as I said, it wasn't the same.

[LoZoccolo]

84. Someone took this thread to the credit union!

:woohoo: