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Mon May-30-05 12:13 AM
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I broke up with my boyfriend tonight... |
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Edited on Mon May-30-05 12:17 AM by arcos
I feel terrible, but we really couldn't have ended in better terms. We both agreed that it was the right and necessary thing to do, although we really didn't want to let go. The fact is that we no longer could fulfill each other's needs the way we used to, and we were only causing pain to the other.
We were together for slightly more than 2 years and it was an amazing relationship. I'm sure I will be ok soon, but it hurts very much right now. :cry:
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Mon May-30-05 12:14 AM
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Mon May-30-05 01:12 AM
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Mon May-30-05 12:15 AM
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I am glad I am happily married. Stay strong.
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Mon May-30-05 01:12 AM
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And congratulations on your marriage, you are a very lucky person. :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 01:16 AM
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11. Believe me, it took a while to meet the right person.... |
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Mon May-30-05 12:17 AM
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I only have experienced long-term relationships in the past, and I have found enduring a break-up to be extremely difficult but enlightening thereafter.
When you are with someone for that long, the relationship is meaningful. Even if you are not with that person, his soul will be enmeshed with yours - his life will have had a shaping influence on yours, and vice versa. That's an experience to smile over.
I know it hurts now, and you may not see it yet, but it will be better. As cliche as it may be, every ending leads to a new beginning.
Hang in there.
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Mon May-30-05 01:14 AM
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10. Thank you... I will be better... |
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And for better or worse, it's not like he's leaving my life. We have lots of friends in common and we are involved in several projects together...
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Mon May-30-05 12:17 AM
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...its very hard to break up with someone after that long a period of time. Best of wishes to you...:thumbsup:
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Mon May-30-05 01:16 AM
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I will be ok eventually. :)
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Mon May-30-05 12:19 AM
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The pain will pass in time.
For now, just put on some good music, get a stiff drink, a pack of smokes...and just be.
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Mon May-30-05 01:21 AM
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13. That's exactly what I'm doing... |
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I love vodka :)
Thank you :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 12:25 AM
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Sadly, (or not) none of my relationships have ended on good terms. I imagine that it must suck almost more if you broke up despite the goodness because the goodness still wasn't enough. I
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Mon May-30-05 01:25 AM
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14. Yes, it's kind of bittersweet... |
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It's sad when you wonder how many great things could have come out of it.
Thank you.
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Mon May-30-05 12:49 AM
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and I'm going through the exact same thing.
Boy, does it hurt. I really do feel for you.
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Mon May-30-05 01:27 AM
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It hurts and it sucks... six years is quite a while. :(
Be strong, we'll feel better soon... :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 01:38 AM
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16. I can't imagine going through that right now... |
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....my gf and I are in the stage where we're falling in love so fast that neither one of us feels in control. If it ended a few months ago, there would be no real hurt. Now, however, we're both emotionally invested to the point of serious heartache should it end. I hope that you emerge from this experience a happier and better person. I, foolishly, selfishly, or perhaps both, hope I never have to experience what you're going through. :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 05:32 AM
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That's the way it happened to us... I also hope you never have to experience this, and wish you the best of the luck with your girlfriend, hoepefully you'll be together a long time. Thank you. :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 01:46 AM
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17. sorry. break ups are painful all around. |
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Mon May-30-05 05:33 AM
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Mon May-30-05 01:49 AM
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18. You wanna get drunk now? |
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Mon May-30-05 05:33 AM
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23. haha, that was my plan... |
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but I didn't after all, just had one drink. I'm feeling ok, though. :)
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Mon May-30-05 02:09 AM
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Mon May-30-05 05:34 AM
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Mon May-30-05 02:18 AM
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20. Sorry to hear of your pain, but take comfort in knowing you did the right |
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thing... hope the good news about the Bush Crime Cabal coming down will cheer you up.
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Mon May-30-05 05:34 AM
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Mon May-30-05 06:33 AM
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26. There's nothing good that can be said at the moment |
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Apart from letting you know that the manner of the split indicates what a splendid chap you are - it's a terrible cliche, but time really is the best healer. In the meantimes I'm sure that I speak for all of us DUers when I say :hug:
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Mon May-30-05 07:48 AM
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I went through the same terrible experience a couple years ago...and still sometimes it hurts.
But, I realize I have learned more about myself and reached out and met people and done things I would not have done with him.
And that led to meeting the sweetest guy in the world.
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