|
he's currently heartbroken and on the rebound, and I have no idea when, or even if, I'll ever have a chance with him.
I'm STILL tingling, though! I'm the office manager and paralegal for a sole practitioner attorney, and I had to make a special trip to work today to assist him with a new client. The client was a man in his thirties, like me, who'd been with the same woman for ten years and they had an eight-year-old son. They'd bought an old house together, spent money and time fixing it up, then sold it a few years later for a lot more than they originally paid for it. They then used that money to purchase another house four years later which, due to his credit, they agreed to put just in her name even though he also contributed equally to the purchase of the house as well as the mortgage payments.
They had been engaged for a few years. She came home one day in early June of this year and told him she'd been cheating on him and she wanted him out of the house. She offered him only ten thousand dollars, when he had tens of thousands more in equity in the home. Because it was in her name, however, he needs help in getting that, and that's where my boss comes in, since he's a real estate attorney who's previously handled similar cases (they're called "constructive trust" cases). We had to put together an Affidavit of Facts for immediate filing with the county Recorder, in order to do what's known as "clouding the title" of the house, and then begin work on drafting a Constructive Trust Complaint to begin the litigation.
Anyway, the second I met him and shook his hand, it was like I'd known him all my life. I've almost never experienced that before (I'm a 38-year-old never-married single parent, my son is twelve). We'd talked several times earlier in the week, and I'd gotten to know him and his situation a little bit. He needed to talk, as well, since he was really broken up about all of this (he said he had really been in love with her and still loved her), and I know how it was affecting him. He said he didn't know if he could ever trust anyone again, or deal with any kind of relationship again, since it just seemed to come out of the blue and everything shattered at once. He's under a lot of stress, and having trouble focusing at work. To make things even worse, he still lives in the house because if he left, he'd be giving up any claim to it, and his ex's boyfriend, the man she was cheating on him with, calls and comes over, which really hurts him.
I had told him of my own situation when we'd talked on the phone, that my son's father suddenly threw me out of the house when I was pregnant, leaving me out in the cold physically and emotionally, so I had some idea of where he was coming from and knew what he meant when he talked about not knowing if he could trust again and that kind of thing. When I was talking to him on the phone before I met him, I felt an immediate connection with him and didn't want to stop talking to him.
But, OMG, when we finally met today in person, it was, as I've said, just incredible. While I'm an incurable old-fashioned romantic, I never really believed in love at first sight, but now I'm reconsidering that! I found myself wishing I could just spend the rest of the afternoon talking to him, it didn't matter where, whether it was over lunch or dinner or just at the office, as long as I was talking to him. I felt like a teenager, and I still do tonight! I've almost never felt this kind of excitement upon meeting someone of the opposite sex. I was just so immediately at ease with him, it was unbelievable. I couldn't believe his fiance had done what she did to him. Now I actually can't wait to get to the office on Monday and talk to him again!
The problem, though, and there always seems to be a problem like this whenever I do meet someone, is that he's coming down from the nasty breakup of a ten-year relationship that he had thought would last forever and wanted to last forever, and he's still in love with her. How do I even know if he felt anything at all when he met me, or if he will ever even think of me at all, least of all in that way? I'm so tired of things like this happening to me, never meeting people and then, on the rare occasions when I finally do, there's always a catch, or baggage, or they don't notice me or think of me in that way, etc., etc., etc. I can't help but wondering when it's going to be my turn. But I'm serious in that I have NEVER felt this way when meeting anyone else. So now what the hell am I going to do?
|