hahaha, got dumped yb a woman

[slinkerwink]

I am so drunk...I am a bi woman and I got dumped by another woman----she said she wasn't interested in me even though we kissed and fondled each others's breasts last saturday night. I will never know what goes on in a woman's mind even though I am a woman.....


:a heartbroken noelle:

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

1. Well, Noelle...

If you ever do figure it out, please PM me and let me know. The whole friggin' thing with women just flat out confuses me. Just when I think I know the rules, they change the rules.

I mean, I am not gazing longingly at the cans of vienna sausages in the food stores, but I have just about given up on finding a human life partner with a slightly different chromosomal makeup.

[slinkerwink]

2. same here too

I have resigned myself to a fate of being lonely forever,,,,,,

[ForrestGump]

3. At least you have the option to try men, too

But I'm not sure that we're exactly worry-free and user-friendly, either, as a gender.

I've thought before that I'll never understand women but then I realized that maybe it's just some women, and that maybe it's more that I'll never truly understand some people. There really are plenty of other catches in the metaphorical sea, and I hope that your path intersects with one or more of 'em when the time is right. Don't give up, anyway, because being lonely forever does kinda suck.

[slinkerwink]

4. well

even though I am 21, I feel like I won't ever find the right woman or man either.....

[ForrestGump]

9. I felt like that when I was 21, too

And 31, and.... :D

The point is, though it may not help much now, the right man or woman will come. Maybe a succession of candidates who're just right for you. It's easy for me to say, given that from my perspective I can say "well, she's still so young with plenty of years yet and much love to come," but I vividly remember being 21. I felt the same way throughout my late teens and into my 20s, and was intensely lonely for years. And then...it happened. I got married. And things really went to hell. :D

So, you see, there are worse things.

Seriously, Ms wink, I am sure that you have a lot to be happy about, so please try not to dwell too much on worry about men or women. Often things will come to you only when you let go of them, and people sometimes seem to follow the same principle as they enter our lives.

[Booberdawg]

5. Sorry to hear that

It's not much consolation, but that one woman doesn't represent all women. Don't allow her to ruin the whole field for you.

You are young, 21, it has happened to almost all of us at one time or another. We can't let the assholes dictate how we see the whole field for the rest of our lives. There are LOTS of great men AND women out there that you have not met yet.


Take care sweetie. :hug:

[slinkerwink]

7. then why th e sense of being lonely forever?

:-/

[Booberdawg]

8. because it just happened

and because right now you are drinking :-)

[FDRrocks]

6. Women can't even understand Women...

makes me feel a tad better. Plenty of fish in the sea :)

[Misinformed01]

10. Why in the world would you WANT to meet the "right"

one at 21 years old?

Jesus Christ; buy a backpack and go to Europe--go have some fun...you will meet the right one soon enough.

[slinkerwink]

11. I'm sick of the dating scene

I've been too involved in the dating scene---I just want to settle down with someone already/

[ForrestGump]

13. Settle down?

Dude - no way!

I agree with Misinformed01 on that...when you can, take off somewhere, wherever you can afford or wherever you can work to support yourself. The European train-backpackers circuit. The Peace Corps. An environmental or social NGO that works in some far-flung place. Something way closer to home.

If this feeling persists beyond your sobering up completely, defintiely consider it. I took off (at 20), when affairs of the heart threatened to basically do me in one way or another, and it made all the difference. There's a saying that's very true: "wherever you go, there you are." A physical move doesn't necessarily remove you from who you are.

But traveling - even if it is not a great spatial distance - and encountering new people and new ideas, or doing new things, can still help you immeasurably in 'finding yourself.' And I'm not sure that you can really find anyone else until you've found yourself...rather, I think that you're more likely to meet Mr or Ms Right once you've found more about who you are, and sometimes it takes a shift in circumstances, location, or whatever to let you really see who you are, away from the everyday familiar.

[Misinformed01]

15. Hey, I JUST settled down

with a radical, atheist, socialist...

I am 39.

[populistmom]

18. Settle down! Settle down?

You do not want to settle down yet. Trust me. I was married at your age thinking life was just peachy keen, but do you know how much you change and grow between 21 and 31? When you find yourself needing someone outside yourself that much is precisely when you need to dig a little deeper to figure out who you really are.
Hope I don't sound like a cold b*tch here, but I've learn a lot of lessons the hard way and hate to see other people go down that path.

[slinkerwink]

20. I don't want to be married

I just want a long-term relationship.....but why is that so hard for me to find lately? :-(

[ForrestGump]

24. Because you're looking

:-)

Maybe, you know. There's an old Zen truism, and it really is so very often right on target:

"If you seek it, you will not find it."

[Cleita]

12. So why is this different than being dumped by a guy?

Being dumped just hurts no matter who does it to you. Sleep it off. Thinks will look better tomorrow.

[tsipple]

14. Can You Talk More About That Fondling Part?

I'm so sexist. :evilgrin:

[Misinformed01]

16. I am surprised THAT took so long

I figured every man on DU would be begging for a date after that intro....

[slinkerwink]

17. ha!

:beer:

[EV1Ltimm]

19. don't say you're sexist.

the scientific community relies on data of this nature.

i think your questioning is valid.

carry on.

[ForrestGump]

26. I am absolutely disgusted, I must say, that

it took so long for someone to ask for clarification (and, possibly, photos or video footage) of that.

:D

And there was no way I was going to ask.

[alwynsw]

21. Never give up!

Married at 21 - WAY too young - couldn't get along with her boyfriend.

Married again, late 20's - she developed a mental illness - stopped taking her meds and decided I was a good target for a handgun.

Married again at 44 - unbelievably happy for the past several years.

Even a blind hog finds an acorn now and then.

[alwynsw]

22. BTW

hooking up in a restroom stall does not bode well for a lasting relationship.

[slinkerwink]

25. whre did you get that?

where did you get that I "hooked" up with her in a restroom stall? Where did you draw your assumptions from that? What if I had hooked up with her in, say, my room?

[alwynsw]

27. From your duplicate post that was locked

If I misread, mea culpa. If not, I stand by the statement.

[alwynsw]

28. Incidentally, that was neither a judgement nor a slam

just experience speaking in reference to choice of location.

[phgnome]

23. Keep your head held high, Slinkerwink

There's a billion people in the world. The odds of you meeting another person compatible with you is in your favor, regardless of your age. The odds of you meeting another person at 21 is even greater because you have more years to do it.