Wouldn't it better to stop (tone down) with the "Beauty/Beast" threads?

[JanMichael]

Not trying to be a "nanny" (Gotta love Fran) but physical appearance isn't even close to everything. Matter of fact it can be as much of a detriment being attractive (what a subjective piece of shit word that is!) as being considered unattractive (what a miserable piece of shit subjective word that is!)! At least is some situations.

It's true!

Why focus so much on something that most people have little control over and try to focus on things that we can effect?

Go ahead, flame away at the "be nice, think about something/someone other than yourself" freak! It's probably hypocritical for me to do so considering I've been responsible for quite a few vanity photo threads, but so be it.

I am HYPOCRITE!

EDIT~ Forgot to ad that with all of the utter shit on TV with "Who wants to screw my Dad" and "Who wants to marry an asshole" that there are enough venues for shallow people:-)

[HEyHEY]

1. Thats' okay Jan

We'd never hold it against you

[Stone Cold]

2. I'm a man....and what I will say here would probably make some people mad.

...but, to me, beauty is as important on the outside as it is on the inside. I have to be attracted to a girl physically before I get to know her. I hope I'm not making myself sound like an ass or anything, but that's just the way I feel. It would be hypocritical for me to say otherwise.

[HEyHEY]

3. You must be....

The biggest bastard on the face of the earth. ;-)

[Stone Cold]

5. Hey man....

...you probably feel the same way I do! Admit it.

[HEyHEY]

8. Well. I feel physical attraction is the starting point yes

But, what you and I deem ugly may differ. I tend to go for nerdy lookin' or exotic girls. I have friends that can't stand my taste in women.

BUt after knowing a girl I though wasn't attractive I have been known to find them attractive after.

[Stone Cold]

10. I feel ya, playa...

"nerdy" or "exotic" girls are hot....and I tend to go for them too. But, I wouldn't make myself go out with a girl because she has a good personality...what attracts me to women is looks. I have a few girls who are my friends and aren't the best looking, but they have ideal personalities, but I still would not be able to go out with them. I don't know....maybe if I did go out w/ them, I'd probably cheat on them for someone who is more "ideal" for looks. I'm not shallow, and I'm also not an ass. That's just something I believe and feel.

[HEyHEY]

11. I wouldn't go that far

I've never dated an unattractive girl who had a personality I couldn't resist....only cause she turned me down. ;-)

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

4. If you're talking about my thread

It was in a joking manner, and Zack and I thought it was just going to be taken as a joke... nothing SERIOUS.

[JanMichael]

7. Actually I wasn't.

Also what I'm talking about doesn't require malice, k'?:-)

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

13. ok, then i still LOVE YOU

I LOVE YOU JANMICHAEL!

oh and i'm sending out thank you cards for those of you who sent donations, so yes i really do love you!

[neuvocat]

6. That's a tough one

on one hand there are girls I'd love to nail but I know that its strictly based on how they look and not their horrible personalities.

On the other hand there are girls I'd like to nail because they're not that good looking but have an awesome personality (probably because it means they're good in the sack).

Same goes for women too. I dated a gal who told me one time that the ONLY reason she was with me was because I was good in the sack (which is like saying I had a "good personality"). My looks didn't count-compared to some other dudes she was with before me-and I didn't have a job at the time either.

[SOteric]

9. Good point, I think that's what Laszlo Hollyfeld was saying

just a bit further down the page.

Well, to some extent. He had other messages too.

[HEyHEY]

12. SOrry Jan me and stonecold done jacked yo thread!

[Stone Cold]

14. yeah we did...

..sorry bout that. :hi:

[JanMichael]

15. I would expect nothing less than an inane "jacking" from y'all!

My life is full...

[Nikia]

16. For a while I didn't care

I'm not sure why I have become insecure about it now. My husband says that I am beautiful. A few other guys I know think that I am attractive although they themselves are not really attractive. On the otherhand, my mother always said that I was ugly and some other girls said that to me as I was growing up. I look better now though than when I was a teenager. I guess that it is because I think that this is my time to be attractive (I am 25). I also want people to like me and not think that I am an ugly freak. I also have less other accomplishments than I did in the past. I get no poisitve feedback and work and cannot seem to accomplish anything there. I haven't been doing much outside of work and home lately. In hgih school and college, I had a bunch of things to be proud of like my grades, my athletics, and my extracurricular involvement. I used to think that I was smart but like I said I cannot accomplish anything at work and am not smart enough to find another job. I guess that I want to be attractive because that would be something to be proud of. I am not really though and do not put much effort into it because deep down, it really isn't a priority in my life. You're right there are better things to worry about. I need to stop being so shallow. Perhaps, I should try to change my life another way.