bleedingheart
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:21 AM
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i was invited to go on a "bonding" trip with two relatives that felt that I was not part of their "fold"...
i went.
first 7 hours okay... then it spiraled into hell.
the individual who did the inviting has a complete and utter disdain for anything i had to say. if i interjected anything into the conversation i got comments like.."i will have to check the statistics on that"...or eye rolling.
so instead of making me feel like i was part of the fold...i can literally say that i could literally go my entire life without seeing the one individual and the other person who was along for the ride...well i don't know what to say about someone who could allow that to happen...
so was it a productive trip...yes to some degree...i now know what a complete ass one of my relatives is...
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:22 AM
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1. Isn't it funny how those trips always tend to reinforce differences |
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instead of "bonding" people together? Hugs to you. That sounds yucky. :hug:
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bleedingheart
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:25 AM
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4. it was awful towards the end... |
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and you are right...it just highlighted the differences and there are just too many for me to feel close.
and what i didn't mention was that one of them drank excessively because this was supposed to be a "fun weekend" but i think it made the person an even bigger asshole if it could be possible.
thanks for the hug...i needed that..
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:24 AM
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2. hm, in my experience, little 'bonding' takes place... |
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between oil & water as a general rule of course :shrug:
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:25 AM
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about giving a second or third or subsequent chance to people who probably aren't worth a few hours, let alone a whole weekend.
Sorry you had an unpleasant weekend, bleedingheart. :hug:
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bleedingheart
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:29 AM
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5. funny part was i had accepted that i wasn't close to these people |
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i knew that...i understood that i am different from them....but i went so that later no one would say what a jerk i was for not trying...
funny how i can be accepting of them but they don't really like who i am and instead of trying to get to know me...they excluded me even further...
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:30 AM
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I love my family a great deal, but there are some who consider me an anomaly. (I once overheard a member of the extended family saying about me, "Well, she is adopted." :eyes:
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:32 AM
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7. Think of this past weekend as the final payment on an old nasty loan |
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and now you get to walk away clean, free of obligation.
:)
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Mon Aug-01-05 08:33 AM
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8. that is a good way of thinkng about it... |
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