Susang
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Tue Aug-02-05 05:47 PM
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Poll question: Do you give the silent treatment to people you are angry at? |
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Or do you tell them exactly how you feel? Which one gets the best results for you? Which one causes more hurt feelings?
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:00 PM
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But I'm not talking to you. :evilgrin:
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Susang
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:01 PM
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:03 PM
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If it isn't a big enough deal to get into a tizzy about, then I just try to forget it and move on. I hate getting the silent treatment.
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Susang
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:06 PM
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Getting the silent treatment sucks. :-(
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:06 PM
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Unless I am really too mad to explain it without hurting their feelings.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:08 PM
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6. I do, and I really shouldn't. |
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I hate doing it. I really should just yell at people. Like my father.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:08 PM
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until I am mellowed out enough to tell them in no uncertain terms why they're wrong and they suck without missing any details.
there's nothing worse than yelling at someone and walking away and having to come back later to yell at them some more because you forgot some shit the first time.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:10 PM
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Depends how mad I am. usually I like to say my piece and then move on but sometimes I do give the silent treatment.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:10 PM
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soon as they anger me. I don't yell. I just tell them how I feel.:spank:
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:11 PM
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It's fucking immature bullshit. If someone has a problem with me, I fully expect someone to say something about it, and I do the same. Seriousl, the silent treatment is just BS.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:11 PM
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sometimes I have at 'em, especially if it is one of those things that makes you furious right away.
Other times, some one does something wrong and I let it simmer until I become a smouldering cauldron of rage and despair. :hi:
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:13 PM
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12. I never mastered the silent treatment... |
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:shrug:
Depending on who it is, I may try to temper it, but I usually pretty much just say what I feel.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:26 PM
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21. Me either..I'd rather fight like alley cats than do the silent thing |
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although when I don't want to say things I don't mean, I do go away for a while
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:31 PM
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23. But isn't that kinda the flip-side of the same coin? |
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Shunning vs silence? :shrug:
Unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean by "going away". :)
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:34 PM
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25. Oh, she only meant being silent for a moment or two to think... |
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then she confronts... believe me... that's what she means... :) :hi:
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:33 PM
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24. Oooh... alley cats... |
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When are you coming home? :evilgrin:
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:37 PM
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:13 PM
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Who thinks I give anybody the silent treatment?
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:14 PM
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:21 PM
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Real fucking funny. :rofl:
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:22 PM
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19. I absolutely HATE the silent treatment., |
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Being a person that likes to discuss problems as they happen, I find the silent treatment to be galling.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:23 PM
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20. I kinda figured that was the case |
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:17 PM
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15. Silent treatment only if I'm so angry that I might say something I don't |
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want to say. Otherwise, I either tell them or swallow it.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:17 PM
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16. With my passive-agressive tendencies that's easy for me to do |
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with someone I'm angry at. Speaking my mind when I'm upset will cause way more hurt feelings because I'm usually not very tactful when voicing my displeasure.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:21 PM
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17. I only wish I could keep my big trap shut |
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I'm one of those people who will tell you how I feel even if I'm just wasting my breath on you.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:30 PM
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which is the main reason why we're getting divorced. she doesn't talk about things that bug her-- and she used to be a counsellor!
if there's a problem, let it out. i don't want to guess.
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Tue Aug-02-05 06:37 PM
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26. Depends on the situation |
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depends on who it is and depends on how much the effects of my speaking out can effect me.
I haven't said more than 30 words, approximately, to my older sister in two years for a variety of reasons. I would very much love to tell her off but don't need to be outcasted from my "family" any more than I already am for not kissing her ass every chance I get.
With other people, who anger me and who I don't have to deal with on a regular basis, I get great satisfaction from telling them how I feel about them and why.
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