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Rising Phoenix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:38 PM
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Isn't it weird when your siblings become your friends?
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RandomKoolzip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:40 PM
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1. It would be weird. I dislike my brother intensely.
We have nothing in common, including politics.
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:41 PM
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2. wouldn't know
can't stand my sister
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:12 PM
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22. LOL. You sound like my husband.
They haven't spoken in four years. Ever since she started sending hate mail about me to his employer email.

Me on the other hand, I have three wonderful brothers that I work with and enjoy a lot. I feel extremely lucky.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:43 PM
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3. Not for me. We've been friends for years.
There are five of us, and yes...I feel very fortunate. Before we moved, my husband and I hung out with my brother and his wife a lot. I spent a good deal of my time on vacation with my sister and her husband.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:44 PM
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4. I am friends with my brother. When my oldest
brother died, we were all we had left.
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:03 PM
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9. Oh I'm sorry..
I lost my older brother too, to a car accident. :hug:
Sure makes you understand that you don't have all the time in the world to show your family you care.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:04 PM
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11. That is exactly how I lost mine. He was 24. And next
week is the anniversary of the day it happened. I am sorry for your loss too. You are right, it puts everything into perspective! :hug:
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:45 PM
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5. are they though?
:yoiks:
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Rising Phoenix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:46 PM
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6. well, Meghan is
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regnaD kciN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:52 PM
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7. It would be even weirder for me...
...since I don't have any.

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Shoeempress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 01:53 PM
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8. I thought that being friends with a family member was an urban legend,
at least it is in my family.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:04 PM
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10. My sister and I are friends
brother and I have fallen off the past couple of years. I'm not sure what to do about it.
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miss_kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:07 PM
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12. yes
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:07 PM
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13. It was weird at first.
Once my little brother started smoking pot he quit being an angry asshole, and we were able to start hanging out. Ended up hanging with the same crowd, and he was my defense when shit got rough at school. Now he's 18 and I'm 20 and we live across the country from eachother. Talk on the phone as often as we can- problem is... since we hung out in the same crowd- he still hangs out with my ex. Numerous times I've called my baby brother to have the call cut short because my ex was getting bored. :P
Ex wouldn't have such a problem if it weren't for the fact that I'm in a good relationship with a better guy. ;)
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:35 PM
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14. It wouldn't be weird
it would be a cold, cold day in hell...
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DeposeTheBoyKing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:39 PM
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15. I have always admired my sister (Bullwinkle925) immensely
I LOVE being friends with her. We have so much in common; I'm sure we would have been friends if we weren't sisters (provided we were lucky enough to meet). I hate living so far away from her!
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Swede Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:43 PM
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16. They've always been my friends.
Two older brothers and one younger sister. We're all close.
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:52 PM
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17. Yes, but trust me, -
it's even weirder when people think you're married.
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Napoleon Dynamite Donating Member (115 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 02:56 PM
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18. so I'm not the only one
My sister and I get that all the time. We are roommates which could be part of the problem. We get mail to Mr. and Mrs. Dynamite all the time. Even some invitations to distant relative's stuff is addressed that way. It has become a way to screen things though. If someone doesn't know we aren't married, we don't really care about talking to them or sending random presents.
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:00 PM
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19. Nope, nope... definitely not the only one.
We're not roomates, but we show up to all the same events, usually in one another's company. We have the same last name, and we relate like people who've known each other for a long time and can comfortably bicker or agree as the case may require.
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Napoleon Dynamite Donating Member (115 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:07 PM
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20. I had to check your profile
make sure you aren't my sister. It is exactly the same way. We are the best of friends and can feel free to disagree over things and it won't get blown out of proportion. It is complete honesty, and it is wonderful to have it. We also have the art of silent conversation down, just like a married couple. Just one look, even the most poker faced look, I can read off her face in great detail.
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jmm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:02 PM
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28. People often assume
my brother and I are dating yet we look so much alike I've had strangers who know him come up to me and ask if I'm related to him. When we have to tell people we're siblings their first reaction usually is, "I should've known you look just like each other."

We're great friends now but it took me moving out of the house before we started to spend any time together.
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dr.strangelove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:11 PM
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21. Its funny, but sad and glad funny at the same time
Growing up I was very close to my older sister, yet distant form my younger sister. Recently, my younger sister got married and turned 30. Her wedding and birthday party gave us lots of time together. We now live on the same coast again and we have become closer over the past 3 years. Now she is one of my friends and I love spending time with her. My older sister and I have drifted further and further apart. We hardly speak.
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Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:19 PM
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23. I get along with my brothers
we even play trivia together. We would raise hell and fight each other in our younger days, when not playing soccer.

Who'd have figured? :shrug:
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cedahlia Donating Member (883 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:27 PM
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24. my brother
Is probably the coolest person I know. He's got a great heart too. I feel very lucky to have him as a brother and a friend.

I feel bad for people who don't get along with their siblings...that's gotta suck! :-(
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stevans_41902 Donating Member (199 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:34 PM
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25. I dont have any siblings, so I wouldn't know - i've always been pretty
good friends with most of my cousins, though. can't imagine what it would be like to have a brother or sister. my mom hasn't spoken to any of her siblings in years
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frazzledmom Donating Member (244 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 03:54 PM
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26. siblings
My brother was my closest friend. He passed away four weeks ago today at the age of 42, and I am still not sure how to go on. His friends were my friends and visa versa. People used to think it was strange that we were so close. We also have an older sister, and we are close too, but so different. She tells people that we were raised by the same mother, but learned different things. The important thing to remember is to always say what you want, don't wait for the right moment, because it may never come.
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Rising Phoenix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:00 PM
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27. I'm sorry to hear about your brother
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frazzledmom Donating Member (244 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:09 PM
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31. siblings
Thank you. It was nice to be able to vent.
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Initech Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:03 PM
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29. I have two brothers
One I go drinking with all the time and the other doesnt like us BECAUSE we go drinking all the time.
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LisaL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:04 PM
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30. I wouldn't know.
We aren't Friends.
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:12 PM
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32. Would not know anything about that...
somewhat distant relationship with sister and my brother is a first class obnoxious asshole...
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:33 PM
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33. It's nice
I'm not as close with them as I used to be because I live far away now. But one sister and I lived together for several years - she moved in with my husband and I and our two kids when she was pregnant with her son - she'd left her boyfriend and had no place to go. Which was kinda neat because we'd never really been that close before since she's six years older than I am.

But it worked so well that she didn't leave until her son was three! It was pretty cool. I miss her.

It's also pretty neat when your kids become your friends. My daughters are 25 and 23 and we are great friends. It's wonderful.
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rene moon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:52 PM
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34. No, it's weird when they DONT become your friends
Edited on Thu Aug-04-05 04:55 PM by rene moon
Sorry but my sister's are my best friends and I see them often. I couldnt imagine life withoiut them.

No offense to anyone but I do think it is an Anglo thing not to be friends with your family. If you dont like them, it's one thing but if you have a decent relationship, then what's the problem?

My husband (Anglo guy) is on very good terms with his brother, they live 10 minutes from us, yet we see them like 3 times a year. And they talk on the phone like once a month.

Me (Latina girl) on the other hand, I saw my mom yesterday and I am seeing my sister tonight.

Of course, it's just my opinion.

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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 08:24 PM
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36. agree! I feel sorry for people who aren't close with their siblings..
just the idea of how unhappy they must have been growing up together makes me sad.

My sisters and I are 5 & 7 years apart, so I am 12 almost 13 years older than my youngest sister. We are all three very close, even though we are not geographically close. Email and cellphones keep us together.

Now we bickered as kids, make no mistake, but as young adults we became friends and it just never stopped. Seriously, my two closest friends are most definitely my sisters.

My daughter is my friend too. I was my Mom's friend as were both my sisters. Until my mom started up with Alzheimer's our idea of a perfect time would have been to have me and my sisters and all of our daughters together for a chick's weekend somewhere.


We were also fortunate that our only 3 cousins grew up with us and we all went to the same high school. My cousins are definitely my friends as well.

My husband and his siblings (there are 5 altogether) get along well enough; three of them run the family business together, and all of us live in the same town, but we don't get together nearly often enough.
Certainly not as often as my sisters and I would if we weren't thousands and hundreds of miles apart (Connecticut, Kentucky and Texas)
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ksilvas Donating Member (310 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-04-05 04:57 PM
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35. Well it would be very wierd,
considering my sister is a total psycopath whom
I gave up talking to 4 or 5 years ago.
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