I'm one step closer to being a daddy!

[Shredr]

When I lost my job earlier this summmer (thanks W!) and my partner and I had to start living off the "Baby money" we'd saved, I thought I'd never be a father.

N ow I have a new job and my cousin just offerred to be our surrogate (a savings of at least $30,000!) so now we're back on track.

We just have to save up the OTHER $30,000 for donor egg, IVF, etc...

[Talismom]

1. Oh, I know this story only too well! Sorry for what your going thru!

Keep plodding along and keeping yer spirits up. After IVF and a wonderful pregnancy and delivery, we got boy/girl twins! They're just amazing and are now 7 yrs. old!

:hug: :toast: You can do it!

[Shredr]

3. Thanks for the words of encouragement!

It's a LONG haul, but I'm optimistic.

[ronnykmarshall]

2. Cool!

Your cousin can walk around and say "I'ma knocked up wif m' cousin' keed"!

:silly:

[Shredr]

4. LOL!

Yeah. My cousin's having my baby!

[gardenista]

5. Congratulations! That's great news! Could your cousin also

be your donor, or do you want to go the anonymous route?

Hang in there, and take your vitamins to keep those swimmers healthy!

[I Have A Dream]

7. Unless I'm misunderstanding, if his cousin donated the egg...

wouldn't that be cousins having a child together? Wouldn't that be a problem in reference to possible genetic problems? (I'm assuming that they're first cousins, which might not be the case.)

[LisaL]

9. Yes, it would be as if he and his cousin had a child together,

increasing risks of genetic defects.

[Shredr]

11. Yes, you're right.

Although she can carry the baby when I use a donor egg, which is our plan.

Originally we were going to have to pay an additional 30 grand for the surrogate mother. My cousin's generous offer is allowing us to save all that money.

[LisaL]

14. And I am sure you will feel more secure if it's your cousin and

not someone you don't know.

[I Have A Dream]

15. You obviously have a cousin who really loves you, Shredr.

Blessings to her and blessings to your future child.

[Shredr]

10. Thank you!!

Because we're firsts cousins (and I want to use my sperm), I need to get a donor egg. My cousin can carry the baby, but it's best not to mix out genes.

[Rainbowreflect]

6. Congrats! Keep us up to date on how it's going.

[Shredr]

12. Thank you. I will.

It's a long, emotional road. But I've always wanted to be a father, so we'll get there.

[I Have A Dream]

8. Good for you, Shredr!

:woohoo:

[ulysses]

13. best of luck to you!

We're on the same journey, different path. :toast:

[Tallison]

16. Very heartening to hear

Congratulations, and keep us posted! :D