I was told that short hair on women should not be allowed!

[rene moon]

Background: I have had my hair rather short in the past---think Halle Berry in her short hair days. My husband like short hair but that is not the reason I like it too. But right now, my hair is to my shoulders.


Last night, my husband and I went went to his friend's birthday party. It was a small gathering and I was the only woman there.

Somehow we got on the topic of hair and one guy said, "I love long hair on women, it makes them so feminine".

I then said that it wasn't true and I am thinking about going short again.

The guy says, "No, don't, you look prettier with longer hair and well, Mr. Renemoon shouldn't let you."

Me:"Shouldn't let me?, what is he, my father? I don't think so"

Guy: He is your husband and has the right to make those decisions. I know when I am married, I will not allow short hair on my wife or girl children"

I was floored! Who the **** thinks this way????

My husband then said to his friend, "Dude, this is the reason why you are with someone. You are a dick"

A few nights ago, I was looking on online for some short hair ideas and came across a message board about the actress Kiera Knightley and her recent short hair cut for an upcoming film.

I thought it looked great on her but then I read the responses to her hair cut.

It seems to me that many men felt that she had no right to cut her hair, she looked ugly, butch, un-feminine, a man, she needs to grow it out, etc...

What is the threat? I don't get it.

Someone explain it to me.

[Lars39]

1. Short hair=nothing to grab to drag back to cave.

[Misunderestimator]

3. LOL! That's pretty much it!

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

51. snarf!

[WCGreen]

57. GROG NO LIKE SHORT HAIR...

GROG SAY SOMETHING TO GROGETTE
GROGETTE IS GNASHING FLINT AGAIN.
GROG NO UNDERSTAND WOMEN.
GROG GO DRINK MEADE AND PUNCH STUFF

[VelmaD]

2. It's about control...

just one more little nit-picky thing they can use to try to control even the most minute details of our lives.

[Left Is Write]

4. I have seen Kiera Knightley's haircut and it looks fabulous on her.

I have short to medium length hair at any given time. I can't do long hair. My hair is too fine and fragile - if it hits my shoulders it just kind of peters out to nothing and the ends break off. It's much nicer, healthier, and and better looking when it's shorter.

Not, of course, that I should have to justify that to anyone, least of all someone like the Neanderthal you encountered at that party.

[WCGreen]

58. You know when I say your pifcture the other day.,

I didn't even notice your hair...

[Left Is Write]

114. No?

Is that good or bad? ;)

[alarimer]

5. I went out with a guy like that

He was an asshole in many ways but what really sticks in my mind is that he was mad at me for getting a haircut. I have always had it short. It is so much easier to deal with. But he said to me "Don't I have any say in that?" meaning whether to cut my hair. I said "Actually no say at all". That was the beginning of the end of that relationship.

[MrModerate]

6. I'm a guy, and I do prefer longer hair on women, but . . .

If I reached out my hand to pat some woman's head and said "honey, I don't want you to cut your hair . . ."

-- I'd expect to pull back a stump.

Unfortunately, it's not a very big jump from some bozo claiming ownership of the follicles on your head to claiming ownership of the follicles in your womb.

Very scary times.

[havocmom]

33. Bingo! 'claiming ownership' is the motive, whether hair or womb is topic

Have wondered if some men work so hard to maintain dominion over the wombs of women cuz they don't have them. Do they want power over women's hair cuz they don't control their own hairlines?

Such men need to wake up and ask themselves why they have need to control aspects of females' lives. Is it because they fear not really controlling their own conditions? The boss/system really has them powerless so they have to make a show of controlling something? Is that it? :shrug:

[XemaSab]

47. Voicing a preference

is different than saying "You're not allowed to cut your hair."

I know what I like on the men I'm around, and I also know that they're going to do whatever they want and I don't really get a say.

[FreepFryer]

7. Straight outta Stepford.

[I Know How To Do it]

8. Because they think it makes them Gay, to be attracted to a Woman

with short hair.

[rene moon]

9. Why?

Would being attracted to Halle Berry with her short hair make them gay?

We are still women, with breasts and everything else---it's just hair!

[I Know How To Do it]

11. doesn't matter. When you have it pounded in your head from

day 1 that Men are supposed to look like this and women are supposed to look like that, a woman with short hair is closer in appearence to what a man should look like, and it freaks them out.

[dajoki]

10. that "guy" is a neanderthal

what century is this? my wife and daughters do what they want with their hair and they always look beautiful.:hi:

[GOPisEvil]

12. What a sexist pig!

It IS about power and control. By God, HIS woman is going to have her hair HIS way. Fuck him and everyone like him. Assholes like that give good guys a bad name.

[Misunderestimator]

13. Pretty much all they are good for is pointing out the good guys by.....

contrast to them... like you... :loveya:

[GOPisEvil]

14. Aww...

:blush:

Thank my mother and father. I learned a lot of it from them. I think I am who I am because of them.

[Left Is Write]

21. Then you must have outstanding parents.

:)

[GOPisEvil]

23. Definitely. They are the best.

:)

[Crazy Guggenheim]

15. Though I personally I like a woman with long hair, that

guy is a plain jerk.

This is the part that irritates me:

Guy: He is your husband and has the right to make those decisions. I know when I am married, I will not allow short hair on my wife or girl children"


Who the hell does he think he is!!

[Maestro]

19. And they can wear no make-up, dance or wear pants!

What a freak! I suspect he will be a lonely and unhappy man unless he can find some brainwashed women, probably a cousin.

[XemaSab]

49. And what does he plan on doing about it

if his wife or daughter decides she wants short hair and goes and has it cut?

Hmm?

[GOPisEvil]

16. By the way, thumbsup to Mr. Renemoon for calling that guy out.

:thumbsup:

[rene moon]

25. Thanks, he is a great guy

Otherwise, I wouldnt have married him!

Thank for your support too! :)

[Crazy Guggenheim]

17. Agree cheers to Mr. Renemoon .

[Maestro]

18. My wife's hair is longer now

but I think she looked good with short hair so this guy is an idiot!

[rene moon]

22. Your wife is so cute!

And doesnt look like a guy--see, short hair really brings out the features of a woman's face.

You are a lucky guy!

[Maestro]

39. Thanks.

I'm lucky for sure.

[hyphenate]

69. She is definitely attractive

and it's so nice to have a husband who loves her in spite of the length of her hair!! :)

[tyedyeto]

20. I could not have a relationship with any man who told me that

I'd tell that creep to stick it!

In this retirement community, there are very few ladies who have hair that is even shoulder length. Probably more to do with the desert heat and age?

Right now I have long hair, almost to the waist. I was going to cut it about a year ago but I want to donate the hair to the folks who make wigs for chemo patients, probably in the next few months.

Also, down here in the desert, shorter hair is cooler during the summer. I do put it up in a scrunchie (sp?) or wear it in a ponytail when it's hot.

[Akoto]

24. Can't stand neanderthalic guys like this.

And I'm a dude myself. :P

[AndyTiedye]

26. I'm a Guy Who Prefers Long Hair...

...so I have long hair. I like the way it looks and feels.

I like the way it looks on other people too, but that's up to them.

[Akoto]

27. Agreed!

Hello, fellow guy with long hair. :hi:

I must say that people I don't even know often remark about the length of my hair, and my being male. So I guess the opposite is kinda-sorta true for us dudes.

[AndyTiedye]

50. People Are Used to It Here

[rene moon]

30. Well, that's cool!

I always say, "If you like long hair so much, then grow it out yourself!"

I personally think long hair is pretty but I had hair down to my waist until I was 21, then I couldnt take it anymore. I have had it several lengths, from medium to short since then.

I hate the way it feels, always did. It's into eveything, tangles, takes all day to dry (at least my hair did) and I hate feeling it on my shoulders.

But to each their own! :)

[Jamastiene]

101. Hey, go for it.

I hear people calling men names like "long hairs" and stuff. I tell them they are threatened by the true free men. Bravo for you. Do as you wish. It's a free country, just in case the repugs have forgotten that. They are the ones who think like the jerk the OP was talking about...

[KG]

28. short hair rocks so hard!

:headbang:

[LynzM]

29. Wow, what a.....

Geez. I mean, I have guy friends who are all "But I liiiiiked your long hair! *pout*" But that's the extent of it. I know that Briarius didn't love my short hair when I first came home with it, but there's no way he would tell me I couldn't do it. I don't understand that - people who think spouses are not other adults with their own humanity, but rather, more like children who can be 'allowed' to do things, or not...

[rene moon]

32. I also hate that...

"But I liiiiiked your long hair! *pout*" from men.

Well ****, if you like long hair so much, then grow it out yourself!

We are not your playthings, to be told what to do!ARGH!!!!!!!!!!

[I Know How To Do it]

31. I avoid Women that have hair that looks like they need a pit crew

to work on it.

[applegrove]

34. Do what is easiest for you to take care of. Long hair is easier to take

of for some people. For others..short is easier.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

35. An 8-year-old Pakistani girl told me my short hair looks "bad"

My husband's great-niece said I should grow my hair out because it looks bad. Of course, she has long, thick, lustrous Pakistani hair, and I have the fine, thin, limp Caucasian hair of the Hagan family. I told her I didn't have hair like hers and couldn't grow mine out, and even if I could, it would hang limply and be unmanageable. Even though I know she's a kid and doesn't know any better, I still felt a twinge of defensiveness.

I say women should wear their hair however THEY want to, NOT how their men want it. Kudos to your husband for speaking up! I'm glad my husband doesn't give me crap about my hair, for again, there's not much I can do; I can't help it that I wasn't born Pakistani!

[Arkana]

36. I'm a guy. I like longer hair on women.

But I'll be damned if I'm going to tell someone else that they "can't" cut their hair. Hell, Natalie Portman SHAVED HER HEAD and she was still cute.

[rene moon]

37. She looks hot!

sigh....

[achtung_circus]

38. It puts me in mind of an old commercial

for French Fries. The "guys" are served fries by the wife of their host, one comments on how good they are and host says
"my wife, I think I'll keep her".

It was part of Doonesbury, when Joanie showed up in the strip she had had that said to her by her husband and had broken his arm.

[fleabert]

40. what an asshole.

this isn't feminine?


my hair hasn't been past my shoulders in twenty years and I managed to attract a husband! And he doesn't give a shit what my hair looks like. (except for when I say I want to shave my head, he tells me I have a bumpy skull and it would look funny) :-) lol

[GOPisEvil]

41. Game. Set. Match.

:D

[fleabert]

96. :smooches:

if only there were a smilie!

[gmoney]

45. Why do you have a bumpy skull?

Too much extreme field hockey back in school? Skiing under too many low branches?

I'd say your hair complements your features very nicely... but you knew I'd say that. :)

[fleabert]

97. I don't think I have a bumpy head...

he says I do! I think such an extreme haircut would freak him out a little, so he's trying to steer me away without saying he'd hate it.

I've done every color in the book, so he's pretty blase about what I do with it, but I am 'the bosses wife' so a shaved head would be something he'd certainly have to explain/discuss after the annual holiday party with the bigshots. :-) I should have done it when I was younger.

I beg him to grow his out every time he gets a haircut. I like either bald or long as shit better than the standard men's business length. Someday, when we are independently wealthy he says he'll grow it out and get a big tattoo on his back for me! yum.

ps-thanks hon! how are you, btw? long time no type...

[CTLawGuy]

79. wow, you are pretty!!

I would call that haircut "medium-short", and I think it looks very pretty.

[fleabert]

95. gracias!

It's long for me, just below the ears... I prefer a pixie or mid-ear the most.

I am in dire need of a haircut these days, that pic is from many moons ago (and thanks again!)

[gmoney]

103. Ain't she though?

Pretty as a picture, sweet as pie. Here's to Fleabert :party: :toast:

[MrSlayer]

42. I don't think short should be outlawed but I prefer long hair on women.

Do whatever you like best should be the general rule.

[Swede]

43. I like short hair, I like long hair.

Both are all right.

[China_cat]

44. Biblical

from Paul...a woman's hair is her glory.

1st Corinthians 11:14 and 15

11:14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.


Unless it's on your legs or in your pits. (This asshole would probably also tell you that women HAVE to shave pits and legs...and justify it by saying deodorant doesn't work if you don't shave. But try asking them why it works on men who wear bushes under their arms.)

[fortyfeetunder]

46. Just another superficial/control comment

When a guy dictates the most superficial of things for a woman it is a control situation.

[miss_kitty]

48. I used to have hair to the top of my bum

I got it cut and this very nice guy (Southern European native) in my hood said to me "Miss_kitty, your long hair was so beautiful. Why did you cut it?"
Me: "I was getting tired of taking care of it."
Him: "well I liked it much better long."
Me: Carlos, if you like long hair that much, I suggest you grow your own out."

[NewJeffCT]

52. I love my wife with short hair

Unfortunately, she doesn't believe me... so, has let her hair grow long since this pic was taken. I think it should be an individual decision, though. If the woman likes it short, wear it short, if not, try something else.

[Dastard Stepchild]

53. I had a boyfriend once tell me that I could never cut my hair short...

After a careful analysis to see whether or not it was, in fact, a joke statement, I ascertained that he was being very serious.
Sooo... I cut my hair into a very short pixie cut the following week.

He...uhhh.... wasn't pleased. I wasn't interested. :)

[sniffa]

54. i Love short haired women

:loveya:

[GOPisEvil]

67. I'm with you, my man...

:thumbsup:

[pitohui]

55. short hair only looks good if your skin and bone structure perfect

the same is true be you man or woman

sorry

now that brad pitt is older his super short cuts don't look so good any more either, a little length softens the harshness that comes w. age

to me keira knightly has perfect enough features to handle the short hair

but when she's older, it will be aging and ugly

nonetheless it's a choice the woman makes for herself, many older women cut off the hair as a signal they're tired of being "on" and sexual and want to spend time pursuing their own interests, such independence threatens men who think women should always be "on" and catering to what looks good to their eye

[miss_kitty]

56. actually the exact same thing can be said for long hair as well

BTW-nothing says "Mutton dressed as lamb" louder than too-long hair on an older person. That said, there are older people upon whom it looks gorgeous.
Many older women cut off their hair as a signal that they look better in shorter hair.

[Misunderestimator]

60. Only if your skin and bone structure are PERFECT?!?

I'm far from perfect, but I look a HELL of a lot better with short hair than I do with long, and I always have.

To say that short hair only looks good on you if you have perfect skin or bone structure is pretty insulting to a lot of people who have short hair, men and women.

And it's doubly bad that you think women will look aged and ugly if they keep short hair as they grow older. Hello? Do you realize that it is harder to keep long hair as you age?

Wow.

[pitohui]

61. i realize all that

sad to say, as we get older, we get less physically attractive, the hair is the least of our worries

many people, prob. the majority, are physically unattractive

agree it would be rude to say to an individual to her face, hey, you're physically unattractive but it is not rude to acknowledge reality over the internet, as in everyone gets old and loses their looks if they live long enough, present company excepted

[Misunderestimator]

62. You still have not made a point on the short hair being unattractive

Again... I have always had short hair, I look MUCH more attractive with short hair. Older women look much more attractive to me when they have short hair. I completely don't get how you think short hair makes women LESS attractive. Of course age changes things... that's not the conversation here. It's SHORT HAIR on WOMEN.

[pitohui]

72. how can i make it any clearer?

short hair puts the emphasis on the face

if the skin and facial structure of the face are not perfect, it cannot withstand such scrutiny

therefore the same person with short hair looks better 99.9 % of the time if he or she has medium-length hair

no use making it about gender

men are not excused, they are not suddenly beautiful because they are men, cut the hair short instead of medium length and most suddenly look tons less attractive

if you have a different opinion of people w. short hair, fine, that is YOUR opinion

but my opinion is MY opinion and as gut reaction to physical appearance cannot be changed, it won't be changed

sorry

everyone is not beautiful to everyone, i am not beautiful to everyone, i doubt you're beautiful to everyone

would the world were otherwise but it ain't

[GOPisEvil]

80. Then I should grow my hair long to cover my imperfections?

This is an utter crock of shit, but that's just MY opinion.

[Misunderestimator]

89. Oh, it's quite clear...

(The caps below are only to distinguish my responses... I am in no way yelling, in fact, I'm laughing my ass off)

short hair puts the emphasis on the face
YES, IT DOES

if the skin and facial structure of the face are not perfect, it cannot withstand such scrutiny
*BZZZ* PERFECT? WHO IN THIS WORLD IS PERFECT? I'M NOT, BUT MY FACE CAN CERTAINLY WITHSTAND ANY SCRUTINY YOU MIGHT HAVE


therefore the same person with short hair looks better 99.9 % of the time if he or she has medium-length hair
WHERE DO YOU GET THIS STATISTIC? FROM YOUR OPINION?


no use making it about gender
AHEM... THE ENTIRE THREAD IS ABOUT WOMEN WITH SHORT HAIR... READ THE OP AGAIN, PLEASE


men are not excused, they are not suddenly beautiful because they are men, cut the hair short instead of medium length and most suddenly look tons less attractive
AGAIN, THIS IS YOUR OPINION


if you have a different opinion of people w. short hair, fine, that is YOUR opinion
AND THIS IS YOUR OPINION TOO


but my opinion is MY opinion and as gut reaction to physical appearance cannot be changed, it won't be changed
AND THIS TOO IS YOUR OPINION, AND YES, IT'S CLEAR IT WON'T BE CHANGED

sorry
NO, YOU'RE NOT

everyone is not beautiful to everyone, i am not beautiful to everyone, i doubt you're beautiful to everyone
NO, BUT I AM BEAUTIFUL TO SOME, BEAUTIFUL TO THOSE WHO MATTER, AND I AM MORE BEAUTIFUL WITH SHORT FUCKING HAIR


would the world were otherwise but it ain't
UM... YES, THANK GOD, THE WORLD IS WAY OTHERWISE THAN YOUR DEPICTION OF IT

[Name removed]

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[I Have A Dream]

83. I agree with you, Misunderestimator.

I'm certainly not even close to physical perfection, but I look much better with short hair than long hair. My hair is quite short, and everyone tells me that they wish that they could wear their hair the way I do, but that they really like it on me.

Actually, I think that whether short hair looks good or not has something to do with the shape of the face -- not whether one's features are perfect.

[progmom]

68. what a bizarre, ugly statement

x(

[WhollyHeretic]

75. That was my reaction as well

Some people have such a limited idea of beauty. Beauty is all around some people just refuse to see it. That must be a sad way to live.

[pitohui]

81. honesty with self is never a sad way to live

people pretending that everyone is beautiful in their own way la la la la la, they are sad to me, it seems you must miss so much by denying your eyes and your own taste and instead parroting goody-two-shoes cliches

everyone is not beautiful

by definition of the word, most people are average

half of people are below average

rather than patronizing them and pretending we think they look good when they'll never look good

i have a really radical suggestion

let's treat all people with kindness whether or not they're physically unattractive

because if you live long enough, you too will get tired of ass-kissers saying you're not getting older you're getting better, a day comes when you wake up and say to yourself, you know what, life is too short to listen to a lot of lies

i'm not gonna say diddly about yr hairstyle to your face

but this is the internet, you asked for gut level honest replies

you're gonna get 'em

most people look better w. medium length rather than short hair

that's my honest gut level response

sorry it wasn't what you wanted to hear

but if you want a fake answer from someone who has to make you feel good, ask your lover, not the internet

[WhollyHeretic]

87. I didn't say that everyone is beautiful I said that some people

have a very limited view of beauty and YES that is a very sad way to live.

"everyone is not beautiful

by definition of the word, most people are average

half of people are below average

rather than patronizing them and pretending we think they look good when they'll never look good

i have a really radical suggestion

let's treat all people with kindness whether or not they're physically unattractive"

I never said a thing about pretending someone was anything but what they were and you seem to be the person who is judging the worth of people on there appearance. From what you say in the rest of your post you have a real problem with getting older. I'm sorry but I'm not twisted with bitterness and yes I can see beauty in a lot of places. I'm not trying to be a goody-two-shoes for doing it, that's just how am.

Beauty 1. the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit

I too am just posting my opinion and if you don't like my critique of your opinion don't post it on a public board.

[progmom]

92. that's your opinion

and, for the record, i think you're a judgmental creep. but, that's just my opinion. :shrug:

[mcar]

73. Excuse me? Who has perfect bone structure in this universe?

My hair is very fine but has some curl. If it's short, it looks lush and curly. If it's even past my ears, it gets weighed down and look lank. Also, I have a square face, but high cheekbones (Irish heritage, anyone?). Long hair takes away the cheekbones, short hair makes them stand right out.

I have very far from perfect bone structure, but believe me, I look way better with short hair.

Sometimes I wish I could have longer, lusher hair, but the grass is always greener, isn't it.

[jmm]

85. So I guess this is how I should wear my hair

I've always had long hair but I never realized I should be using it to hide my imperfections so now I'll make sure it is always in my face. Yeah I'll create alot of time to pursue my own interests such as independence and not being on and sexual when I'm not bashing into walls and walking into traffic because apparently I should be wearing my hair as a mask.

[2bfree]

90. That is total crap.

And is only your opinion and not a fact like you are stating. :(

Most women look great with short hair. Sometimes it isn't the face that is the problem but the hair, either it is too limp or thin to look good long.

[Left Is Write]

113. Uh, sure. Okay. Thanks.

[WCGreen]

59. I do want to just add this....

when I had long hair, longer that it is now, there were woman who told me they wouldn't go out with me unless I cut my hair....

Oh well, I said, your loss....

I'm just saying....

[ghostsofgiants]

63. My theory...

Since it's generally taught from a young age that boys are supposed to have short hair and girls are supposed to have long hair, they think that a woman with short hair is masculine and they think that if they show interest in a "masculine" woman that it might mean they're really into guys. Or not, I dunno, haha.

[xmas74]

64. I dated a man who had the same attitude.

He couldn't stand women w/ short hair. He thought it looked manly. What happened when we had our first big fight? You guessed it-I walked in to the first salon that took a walk-in and had them cut it all off-barely enough to cover my skull.
I have thick, coarse, wavy-curly hair that frizzes all the time and is constantly tangled. It tends to look much better short because it is easier to manage. When it's long it looks like it's out of control(which it is). Short hair just looks better on some women.

[Orsino]

65. I prefer long hair om women, too...

...but I hope I'm not idiot enough to feel threatend by short 'dos, or women in pants, with jobs, with votes, etc.

[all.of.me]

66. that makes me crazy!!

i had a boyfriend about 20 years ago, who said he would PAY ME to not cut my hair! it was about to my waist, but i was wanting to try something new. he was opposed. needless to say, that relationship ended. and i chopped it all off. to my ears.

i grew it out over the years, but now it's very short again, and i get LOTS of compliments from guys! i was surprised, because i know they generally like long hair, but i was glad to see i have enlightened men in my life.

hair. abortion. it's all a woman's choice. no one else's.

[RetroLounge]

70. "Dude, ...You are a dick"

You husband has it correct.

and I don't care if it is long, short or shaved off.

RL

[hyphenate]

71. I tell you

I know some assholes who are like that. One is a conservative moron who wants to have that kind of power over his companions. He tends to lurk here and take tidbits "home" to other websites where he will frequently make fun of things we say. But at 33 (or 34) he is still alone, and probably still a virgin, though I don't know for sure. (When I saw the previews of the "40 year old virgin, I wondered if it was his life story)

The attitude that some people have is not even conservative--it's primitive. It harks back to a day when men definitively held more sway over women, who were essentially second class citizens. Women were wombs to the men, to carry their male children, and hopefully die in childbirth so that moms wouldn't make sissy boys of their manly men children. Men could then carry out their dominance, keep marrying new women, having more children (the girl children would just make more boy children down the line for some more manly menchildren) and keep conquering the world. They didn't need to have mistresses because their own wives would just die quickly, from some disease because women were much more fragile than men, and even IF their wives managed to survive the births of 9 or 10 children, they were likely too pooped to enjoy a sexual relationship with their husbands, so men could take on a lover with some impunity, because he controlled the household, paid the bills and only gave the wife a small allowance--not enough for her to run away on her own, or anything. "Disciplining" the wife was within the man's jurisdiction as well--can't let the women get too uppity!!

It sounds almost sick to me. And it certainly explains why, until relatively recently, the marriage vows were to be pronounced "man and wife" as though the "wife" was chattel and not a partner.

[barb162]

74. Guy needs to get himself in the 21st century

And maybe someone needs to tell him how to wear his hair

[Mike Niendorff]

76. I've been told long hair shouldn't be allowed on men, either.

I've also been denied jobs because of it, had strangers come up to me trying to pick fights, been told that the military should round up and execute people like me, ... etc ...


MDN

[NV Whino]

77. Any guy tries that with me

he will be singing soprano.

[CTLawGuy]

78. I like longer hair on a woman

but thats just how I am. I can't control what turns me on.

I think women have the right to wear their hair however they want to. I would never tell my wife/gf how to wear her hair.

[pitohui]

82. agreed, we can't control what turns us on

the people chopping off hair after a fight w. their partner are sending a message, and the message is pretty blunt: i don't wanna excite you any more

[TOhioLiberal]

84. No...

...What they're saying is 'You don't have the right to tell me what to do.'

[u4ic]

86. It'll start with the hair

then move on to "you've gained 5 lbs! You beached whale!" then to "you didn't clean the house today, you slob!" to "you just don't pretty yourself up all the time anymore and that's why I cheated" and on and on and on. It sure as heck won't stop with the hair. :eyes:

[Kathleen04]

88. What an ass.

Short hair looks great on alot of women. If I could cut my hair short, I definately would, but I have curly hair and it's liable to turn into an afro. :silly:

[AuntieM1957]

91. Perhaps your husband's friend

feels that a woman's long hair will compensate for his obvious deficiencies in other areas.

[Schema Thing]

93. Laugh.

cuz if you don't, you'll cry.

[Turn CO Blue]

94. I remember reading an article that said

something about "long" hair being preferred by men in a mate-selection kind of way -- kind of like how they subconsciously select for women with a 10" difference between waist measurement and hip measurement. It supposedly means that a woman is healthy (long, shiny hair) and can have healthy babies.

But the study went further to say that it wasn't "long" hair per se, but "full" hair that actually interested men. (I don't have a link, it was in a magazine at least 5 years ago.) So a short haircut with "fullness" to it would still qualify (that is, if you buy into this line of thinking at all.)

Anyway, when I had my really cute, chunky, short haircut two years ago, not a day went by when I wasn't getting 2-3 compliments on the cut and style (from men, too).

I've since grown it out long, and it's amazing how many people will express an opinion -- "I liked your hair when it was short" or "I really like your hair now that it's gotten so long".

I'm about to get it short again. It was just too cute that way.

[6000eliot]

98. Perhaps the guy is afraid that if he gets turned on by a short-haired

woman, then it's only a short step to his true homosexual desires.

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

99. i'd say i prefer long hair on women as well

but compared to what really matters, like soul and brain it's just looks...it's insignificant. I allways thought of them as the "sunrays" of the face.

How one (guy) could think he has a say on the haute coiffure of a woman is beyond me.

[Jamastiene]

100. I know women who think that way,

believe it or not. It's silly. There are women who are more feminine with short hair than some of the ones who wear it long. And some women who have long hair act like it's some sort of sin or something for a woman to have short hair. I don't get it. No one else should make that decision for a woman. Only you know what is best for you. Period. If you want it short, go for it. It's your decision. No one else's... And as far as that guy with that attitude, your hubby was right to point out his prickitude...

[AtomicKitten]

102. My mother insists

a woman must not wear her hair long after the age of 30.

Plus she said I look terrible in yellow.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

105. That is the standard beauty theory.

As a make-up artist, I find it's true that the vast majority of women after a certain age don't look very good in long (below the shoulders) hair. As we age, gravity takes a toll on our faces causing the features to droop a bit and our jowls to become more full. All this gives the appearance of a face that is pulling down. Long hair worsens this appearance by pulling the appearance of the face down even further. A shorter, uplifting cut on can completely change that.

Also, longer hair on an older woman can look very dated and seem like she is trying to hang onto her youth.

There are very few woman over 40 that can pull off long hair. Jane Seymour is one -- she has very high, strong cheekbones and eyes that life up at the ends - all things that counterbalance the drag her hair causes on her face.

[intheflow]

116. Excuse me, but this is baloney.

There are other reasons for older women to have long hair than style. I keep my hair long because it's warm in the winter and can be put up off my neck to be cooler in the summer.

Even stylistically long hair can make sense for older women. It's more flexible for styling. Ponytail, bun, braid, loose... besides, I look like doofus in short hair. I'm over 40 and everyone compliments me on my gorgeous flowing silver hair--even strangers. :)

In truth, any woman looks good in whatever hair style she feels she looks best in. The person who has to be pleased with a haircut is the person wearing the hair. No one should feel like they have to conform to societal "norm" for style reasons.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

118. Well....

15 years doing make-up/hair in the film & TV tell me otherwise. :shrug:

[Dora]

104. When I had a flat top...

When I had a flat-top, I always had more men hitting on me than when I had a more traditional hair style. Even after I let the flat-top grow out, and just had short hair, men were coming on to me.

All of them said the short hair was a turn on. That it took a woman with nerve to wear her hair that short, they liked women with nerve.

There were plenty of the other kind too - men who would look only at my chest. Who wouldn't look at my face, ever. Who wouldn't ask me a question, but attempt to have a dialogue consisting of a series of one-sided statements. These are the losermen who will insist a woman should wear her hair long.

I have longer hair now. I grew it out because I wanted "wedding hair" when we got married a few years ago. In a casual moment recently I mentioned to my female boss that I was considering cutting it shorter again (short bob, nothing extreme)... her response? "Oh, no!" And her hair is comparatively short!

The short-long hair debate is about a power struggle. Anybody who says otherwise is still sleeping.

[ihaveaquestion]

106. Check out different hairstyles on yourself

at this nifty site...

http://stellure.com/hairstyle/

[Taverner]

107. I don't like short hair usually

But to paraphrase Bill Maher, no one has the right to legislate opinion. Not congress, not a church, not school, and not ones husband.

Despite this, I think Bicentennial Baby looks HOT in short hair - and perhaps she could throw you some ideas...

[Lilith Velkor]

108. ...

[Taverner]

109. An aside: doesn't BoJo (Bob Jones University) ban short hair on women

And require it for men?

[grace0418]

110. My husband loves short hair. Which is good because I look

terrible with long hair. Why are some people so weird? He's not going to allow his wife to have short hair?! WTF is that? Hopefully he'll fall in love with a woman who has enough sense to tell him to fuck off. Sadly, there are women who would go along with this ridiculous demand.

[Rob H.]

111. This part of what he said made me laugh

"I know when I am married, I will not allow short hair on my wife or girl children."

If that's the case, this knuckledragger probably shouldn't expect to stay married if he ever gets married.

FWIW, I love short hair on women even though, ironically, I'm growing my own hair long again. (It's been 8 months since my last haircut.)

[rene moon]

112. Thanks for all the replies!

Made me feel better:)

[edbermac]

115. I like chicks with no hair at all

[Avalux]

119. Locking.

A flame war over hair is a dangerous thing - highly flammable.