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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:30 PM
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Why do girls see something that they think is better in other girls
And despise it?

Why do girls see something that they think is worse in other girls

and despise it?


Is this confusing, or what?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:30 PM
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1. Are you referring to teenage girls
or women?
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:31 PM
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3. Teens to young women
There's a whole stupid phase that they go through about this
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:34 PM
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6. In that case, I'd say
They're jealous of the other person, so they mock them.
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libhill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:31 PM
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2. Can't say -
not a female ?????
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:32 PM
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4. Some men aren't much different.
They just express it differently--usually with threats of violence. For instance, "Look at that scrawny little bastard over there. Who's he think he is, comin' in here? I'm gonna kick his ass." Or, "look at that cocky bastard, all those gym muscles he probably can't use and never done any REAL work...bet I could take 'im."

Human nature, I suppose.
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:34 PM
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7. I never went through that phase
I didn't look at other guys.

There were too many interesting ladies about.
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:39 PM
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9. Eh. It's insecurity.
I generally haven't been concerned with other guys, either, but I HAVE seen it. And not just in teenagers, either. But it comes to the same thing, really. A perceived threat to popularity, unwanted competition for sexual attention when the hormones are raging, maintaining a place in the pecking order...human behaviour is really not much different from that of most other social animals; we just fool ourselves that it is, since we're intelligent and supposedly civilised...
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:44 PM
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15. My motto was always, "Popularity is overrated".
All that social climbing would have cut into my drawing time.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:58 PM
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23. You got it, my friend
It you're worried about popularity, you're worried about a senseless thing...
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:33 PM
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5. insecurity
happens all the time
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:37 PM
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8. I'm looking at this stupid show on MTV, Laguna Beach
And I'm appalled at how stupid and shallow these people are.

It's utterly ridiculous
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WannaJumpMyScooter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:40 PM
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10. Because I am Roger Lodge, dammit!
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:41 PM
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12. Why aren't you playing the game?
I've been waiting for a reply
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:40 PM
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11. I lived with three young women at one time and...
plus all their friends were over 24/7. Damn, at least two of them at any given time hated each other, you want to talk about vicious and jealous. Women do not fuck around. Guys, we're pretty stupid ok. Our way of solving a fight is to throw a few punches then have a beer together. Women will practically cut each other's hearts out. Why they don't rule the earth I don't know. Women are great though, 99 percent of the time. I'm just saying, do not piss one off. I have seen first hand the wrath. I may have said too much already. :hide:
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:49 PM
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17. The sports thing, too
When I was playing either in High School or other sports leagues in my teens and 20's, alot of the guys who I hated in RL I came to respect and even become friends w/ playing against them being on the same team. One guy on another High School football team in our conference I hated became a good friend because of the battles we had on the field. I respected his drive and sportsmanship, even though he mostly got the better of me in our one on one matchups (he was a CB, I was the 3rd down possession receiver). We brought out the best in each other on the field, and it's hard not to respect somebody like that.

He was a great guy, too..
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:49 PM
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18. dupe
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 11:53 PM by enigmatic
I'm not even drunk..
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:54 PM
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19. I hear that too
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ofrfxsk Donating Member (817 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:43 PM
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13. Why do you care? Aren't you old enough to be their father?
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 11:43 PM by ofrfxsk
Just asking.
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:45 PM
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16. If I can't understand something, it bothers the shit out of me
I've never understood it.
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LoZoccolo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:58 PM
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22. Yeah me too.
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 11:58 PM by LoZoccolo
I also think that unraveling these little mysteries will unlock larger truths about how society works that people don't generally notice.
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:00 AM
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24. I've always thought that I'm a pretty good observer of the human condition
Edited on Wed Aug-10-05 12:04 AM by MrScorpio
But, teenagers have always confused the fuck out of me.
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WannaJumpMyScooter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:03 AM
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27. That's their job, man
And they get better at it all the time.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:43 PM
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14. Desiderata
By Max Ehrmann

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:56 PM
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21. Deteriorata.
You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.....
Deteriorata! Deteriorata!

Go placidly
Amid the noise and waste.
And remember what comfort there may be
In owning a piece thereof.

Avoid quiet and passive persons
Unless you are in need of sleep.

Ro-tate your tires.

Speak glowingly of those greater than yourself
And heed well their advice,
Even though they be turkeys.

Know what to kiss.....and when!

Consider that two wrongs never make a right
But that THREE.........do.

Wherever possible, put people on hold.

Be comforted that in the face of all aridity and disillusionment
And despite the changing fortunes of time,
There is always a big future in computer main-te-nance.

Chorus

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.

Remember the Pueblo.

Strive at all times to bend, fold, spindle and mu-ti-late.

Know yourself.
If you need help, call the FBI.

Exercise caution in your daily affairs,
Especially with those persons closest to you.
That lemon on your left, for instance.

Be assured that a walk through the ocean of most souls
Would scarcely get your feet wet.

Fall not in love therefore;
It will stick to your face.

Gracefully surrender the things of youth:
The birds, clean air, tuna, Taiwan
And let not the sands of time
Get in your lunch.

Hire people with hooks.

For a good time call 606-4311;
Ask for "Ken."

Take heart amid the deepening gloom
That your dog is finally getting enough cheese.

And reflect that whatever misfortune may be your lot
It could only be worse in Milwaukee.

Chorus

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.
Therefore, make peace with your god
Whatever you conceive him to be---
Hairy thunderer, or cosmic muffin.

With all its hopes, dreams, promises and urban renewal
The world continues to deteriorate.

GIVE UP!

Reprise

You are a fluke
Of the universe.
You have no right to be here.
And whether you can hear it or not
The universe is laughing behind your back.

Performed by National Lampoon on "National Lampoon Radio Dinner," a 1972 recording by Blue Thumb Records. Lyrics by Tony Hendra.
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AussieDave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:02 AM
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25. I LOVE Deteriorata - seriously twisted stuff
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:14 AM
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28. Back when Lampoon was good.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:03 AM
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26. Ha ha!
I remember that!

Hilarious. :)
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:17 AM
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29. That entire album is hilarious.
I also saw "Lemmings" live. Belushi, Chase, Guest. I couldn't breathe by the final curtain.
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LoZoccolo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 11:55 PM
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20. For the first one, competition.
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 11:57 PM by LoZoccolo
Why do I hate the fact that I'm competing in the job market with people from India and China?
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:40 AM
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30. SERIOUS insecurity.
I know this because I swear being an exotic entertainer is trial by fire in this department. Either you get a grip on yourself or you lose yourself completely. Hence the drug problems many of my fellow entertainers have.
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 12:43 AM
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31. Some people never grow out of it emotionally
Despite the maturing of their bodies
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entanglement Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 01:44 AM
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32. Pictures, please!
:evilgrin:
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 02:29 AM
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33. Don't know.
:shrug:

I always marched to the beat of my own drum (even when I was young). I'm happier that way. In some ways I'm hopelessly "standard". In others (maybe the more important stuff), I'm not.
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