Question for all the DU men

[liss681]

So I went to the bar Friday night with my brother and his friend. After about two hours, his friend bit my arm! WTF?! So I said, "Don't start something you can't finish..." joking around. He bit me two more times! An hour later, he comes up to me while my brother is on the other side of the bar and says, "What did you mean earlier when you said that, because I've been thinking about it for the past hour." Then a couple hours after that, he dumped an entire cup of ice down the front of my shirt! So is this like a very immature form of flirting, or is this guy a little loony? I am very confused by the whole thing.... it almost feels like I'm back in second grade being chased around by some little boy who is trying to pull my hair!

Any opinions?

:shrug:

I just wanted to add that later when I was drunk and not feeling good, he brought me water (to drink, not to dump down my shirt) and took care of me. I don't want everyone to think he is a complete ass, I was just wondering if he was flirting...

[hippiechick]

1. I'm not a guy but he sounds like an asshole.

n/t

[Raster]

2. I am a guy. It sounds like the asshole was flirting immaturely with you.

Kick him in the nuts next time. Tell him you take your ice in a glass.

[liss681]

3. I got him back....

I dumped two down his shirt and all over the front of his pants... he looked like he pissed all over himself... :evilgrin:

[Roland99]

4. Sounds like he hasn't left his frat house days behind.

Loser

[liss681]

8. He's only 24

I'm just wondering how to handle it the next time I see him... I hung out with him a couple times before this and he didn't act like this...

[Roland99]

14. Heck, when I was 24 I'd been in my full-time job for 2 years and my oldest

was already 4 ;)


This guy shouldn't be long for your circle of friends.

[liss681]

17. He has a six year old son

maybe he is getting his flirting skills from him LOL

[Roland99]

22. Must be!

[Catch22Dem]

57. When I was 24...

I was an E-5 in the Air Force, my daughter was 4, and I had been to Saudi Arabia twice and Jordan once.

[JohnnyBoots]

5. what was the conversation bfore hand?

[liss681]

9. before he bit me or before the ice?

[GreyPilgrim]

6. He was totally "flirting..."

I use the term "flirting" loosely. Sounds like he has some social skill difficulties. This is when the red lights should go off, "Warning, warning..."

[tuvor]

7. Not worth analyzing.

This DU guy says stay away from him.

[liss681]

12. He is good friends with my brother though

so I am sure I will see him around eventually...

[tuvor]

20. You mean your brother doesn't know?

Damn, if you were my sister I'd sure as hell want to know. And then I'D stay away from him, too.

Sorry. Dispensing advice where none was asked. I'll shut up now.

[liss681]

24. He knows about the biting

I had teeth marks on my arm, so he punched me in the arm to make the bite marks less noticable. He has threatened to kick ass before when his friends have hit on me, but he didn't do it this time. :shrug:

[stlsaxman]

53. he punched you to make the bite less noticable????

if he punched you once- he'll punch you again. be certain- it hurts.

any one who does acts of violence and thinks it's cute- especially upon a woman- is the lowest form of scum.

stay

the

fuck

away from him.

[liss681]

55. It was my brother who punched me

and he was drunk... maybe it seemed like a good idea at the time :shrug:

[dannofoot]

29. So does this one...

...Sorry, but biting isn't "flirting."

Ted Bundy liked to bite strangers. It's infliction of pain, and also an "alpha" response to show who's boss...in lower mammals, of course.

[no name no slogan]

10. i think it's God's little way of saying "STAY THE FUCK AWAY"

the guy obviously has issues. cripes, he flirts like a 3rd grader forgodsake!!!

i would stay away from this guy until he grows up or gets some help.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

11. He's an asshole who thinks he's funny and

is stuck at an emotional age of 12.

That's just the opinion of a middle-aged woman who has seen all kinds.

[DIKB]

13. Well...

The biting can be playful flirtation, but I'd only try it AFTER joking around for a while. So they know I'm playful. The ice though ? Yeah he's an asshole.

Playful flirtation that both sexes (imo) somewhat miss from when we were younger can be good, but you have to feel out the situation first.

I don't know what this guy was getting at, but his behavior seems rather strange.

[usedtobesick]

15. I'm a guy and I think

this guy sounds like a looney. You just got to be careful. I'd stay away...

[Chichiri]

16. It's a very immature form of flirting.

As you say.

[Joey Liberal]

18. He's a jerk

He sounds like a young republican.

[liss681]

25. lol

God, I hope not!

[Bok_Tukalo]

19. I guess you didn't have any pigtails to pull

Did he pull your bra strap?

[WhollyHeretic]

21. I've seen stuff like that before. Definitely immature flirting

some people just never evolved past middle school.

[chaska]

23. He's just a bit dorky on his technique. If u like him go for, if not don't

He sounds a little inexperienced. Look underneath that to see if there's more to him.

[liss681]

27. I'm married and he has a girlfriend

He has been nice every other time I have talked to him... maybe he was just having a weird night or something...

[chaska]

33. a sharp blow between the eyes is needed to jar him back to sanity.

[ScreamingMeemie]

35. Ouch. How'd you explain the bite marks to hubby?

MrG would be a little peaved. :hi:

[liss681]

37. My brother punched me

so it wouldn't look like a bite mark, and I told my husband I fell down when I was drunk. It's a HUGE bruise!

[Redstone]

39. Uh, Liss, I'm getting bad vibes here that resonate around

a seriously dysfunctional community that includes your family, your family's friends, and most of all yourself.

I'm also real close to calling bullshit on this one. You keep getting people more and more wound up, to the point where I suspect you're making the whole incident up.

Prove me wrong.

Redstone

[liss681]

40. I will take a pic and post it

okay?!

[liss681]

46. Here is a picture of the bruise

You can kind of see the outline of his mouth

[Redstone]

49. Someone's trying too hard, I think. Let's see;

a guy bites your arm in a bar, so your brother hits you in the arm so your husband won't see the bite mark?

I've been in a whole bunch of improbable places and seen a whole bunch of improbable things happen, but I still call bullshit on this one.

Even moreso after the picture.

I'm alerting on this one.

Redstone

[liss681]

51. I told my brother my husband would freak if he saw bite marks

on my arm, so he punched it to make it look like a normal bruise. Keep in mind that we were both drunk when he did it....

[Redstone]

54. If this is indeed true, which I still doubt, let me tell you

something: You need to stop drinking. If you drink to the point where you get that stupid, you have a real problem.

Redstone

[liss681]

56. It's actually the first time I've been drunk

since I was 16. I can't say the same for them... they are in their early 20s and work at a fast food place. They are pretty immature. And I am not making it up. That's why I posted it, because I thought it was a really odd thing for him to do.

[liss681]

50. I'm not trying to get people wound up, I just thought

it was a little odd and wanted to get some opinions on it. Flirting with someone is one thing, but biting someone seems a little strange... even if you like someone, would you show them you like them by biting them?! And we are not talking about some cute little love bite, if you look at the picture.

[Wetzelbill]

26. he totally wants you

probably just for sex though. He sounds pretty immature. He's not disturbed or anything, probably not really an asshole either. He just is picking on the little girl on the playground who he has a crush on. I do that a lot, mainly teasing, I think he was playing around and it got a little too far. But, if you got him back, you might've encouraged him. Depends on if you were angry, it didn't sound like you were. So he probably took all the immature antics as a screwball flirting ritual. If you aren't interested, next time, when the flirting starts let him know, also let him know if some of the more excessive messing around - getting iced poured on me might piss me off a little too much- is unacceptable to you.

[liss681]

28. At first I thought it was kind of cute

but I was drunk, he wasn't. Now that I'm sober, I'm kind of wondering how to approach this the next time I see him. Hopefully, he won't behave that way again.

[Alcibiades]

42. Act like all is well

and then bite him. Clearly, this is normal where he is from. I think we should be sensitive to people who are culturally different from ourselves. If he exlaims "Golly, why have you bitten me?" just tell him that he bit you first, and that you thought it was normal where he comes from.

Also, a rabies shot may be in order.

[liss681]

43. .... I thought about it!

:rofl:

[ltfranklin]

30. Possibly one of the Bush cousins?

Feed him a pretzel and see what happens.

[liss681]

31. ......

:rofl:

[Greyhound]

32. He was definitely flirting, however if you & he are old enough to be in...

a bar drinking, he is seriously immature, and you should run like the wind away from him. He will make several women miserable until he grows up, if he ever does. He is still a little boy and not ready for anything except maybe a quickie. :eyes:

[NNadir]

34. Run, don't walk, away from this guy.

I am a man, and I've seen something on this level only once or twice in more than 5 decades on the planet.

It isn't pretty.

He's immature and it may be flirting, but if he's this physical when trying to pick you up, you're looking for trouble.

[BikeWriter]

36. Yep, I outgrew that at about twelve years old.

[Redstone]

38. You should have hit him in the face with a beer mug,

really hard, the first time he bit you.

I'm serious. Never allow yourself to be treated that way. Demand respect.

Redstone

[leftofthedial]

41. describe the biting in more detail

[liss681]

47. Well, I just posted a pic

I was sitting on a bar stool and he came up behind me and bit me. He didn't say anything before he did it, so it was kind of shocking.

[Chicago Democrat]

44. Yes, rather ineptedly but girl.... get a clue!

Yes, duh....


its like 5th grade flirting but hey, could be good, sounds drunk.

[tjdee]

45. He wasn't drunk and he was pouring ice down your shirt? Aw, HELL naw.

He probably thinks you're into him because you responded to his immature flirting by saying "don't start something you can't finish". Which could translate to "come on, if you dare" seeing as you're both attached.

So now he's thinking about you in a "Whoa, I could have me a piece of that?!" way, which either is freaking him out or turning him on.

But that ice thing....not cool.

[liss681]

48. Yeah, after I said that (I was joking and drunk!)

he bit me again...

[ghostsofgiants]

52. My money's on immature, drunken flirting

Though I've never been drunk and try to avoid immaturity as best I can. So I'm just guessing.