OK, I've given up flirting. What should I give up next?

[Tom Kitten]

Pandering?

[swag]

1. Despairing.

[Tom Kitten]

4. despair

is a word my body rejects! At best it's a temporary condition, like a sore throat.

[u4ic]

2. Panhandling?

:shrug:

[Tom Kitten]

12. I'll give that up

if you give me a bunch of money. Sound fair? :D

[u4ic]

17. Go to town!!

[Crazy Guggenheim]

3. Just try gandering ........

:popcorn: :popcorn:

[Tom Kitten]

9. the official name of my neighborhood is Gander Ridge

because it is just above Goose Hollow ...
But I'm moving soon, so I will soon be giving up Gandering as well!

[khashka]

5. Food, sleep, sunlight...

Pandas?


No more flirting? I like flirting with you TomCat! No more, huh?

Khash.

[Tom Kitten]

13. yeah those were the days, weren't they?

Even after I found out you were a guy I still kept it up, didn't I ?
However 911 changed everything!

[khashka]

24. Apart from me being a guy

I think what really ruined it was when I called you KittenBoy. But we could try again:)

Khash.

[Tom Kitten]

28. I have a thick skin

and a good sense of humor...
You've always been fine with me!
"kittenboy"? That made me laugh!

[Redstone]

6. Maundering.

Redstone

[Tom Kitten]

15. good choice

I do tend to wander around here incoherently pretty much all the time...

[sam sarrha]

7. not flirting..what you give up next is ovbious.unless yu get real obvious.

[Tom Kitten]

16. I've thought of getting a vasectomy...

but I'd like to put it off until I have some kids first...

[Liberal In Texas]

8. Sounds like sex. Give the flirting up and that will follow. n/t

[Tom Kitten]

19. the problem I have with that theorum is

I never expected sex in the first place!

[Liberal In Texas]

41. Kind of a tease then... n/t

[Tom Kitten]

43. yes a tease...or in other words a flirt!

that is the essence of my post...

[Liberal In Texas]

49. I see. Unusal for a guy to be a flirt and not "close the deal." n/t

[Tom Kitten]

55. what can I say?

I've always been shy and I want to end it! When I posted originally I only meant flirting in the Lounge...(at least that's what I meant)
I do not want to go into my upbringing and how I got to be this way, sorry...

[Liberal In Texas]

57. Ahhhh...OK. No problem. I never flirt on-line so I guess I was

projecting my own beliefs. You be fine. !

[Tom Kitten]

59. and you be fine with me also!

isn't it great being human? :D

[Liberal In Texas]

64. Absolutely. Nice post, now that I've figured it out.

Which is like life. Puzzles we have to figure out, all the time. Fun though.

[the_spectator]

10. You're one

sad panda!

(On Edit: Also, I'm totally sure that "pandering" means "pimping" - implying that you actually have mad access to the ladies, even though you may need to rely more on "direct action" than charm these days to rope new 'hos into The Life.)

[Tom Kitten]

21. I am sad, aren't I?

I'm a Virgin!

[the_spectator]

26. Now now now,

I can sympathize, single guy here, no actual dates over the past 2 years.

But still, look on the bright side. You're not 40 yet, are you?


Also, I will definitely post my Chart on this someday, but try to take comfort in this. Because of the nature of today's relatively unregulated sexual market, the different strategies imposed by nature on men and women in their drive to procreate, and other things, there are a LOT of "older" guy Virgins who really aren't half bad.

In the creeping neo-polygamy of today's dating world, a minority of sexually successful men, reinforced like rats in Skinner boxes by that success, take up a majority of the (straight) sex actually happening, while about the bottom 40%, perhaps %50 even, get almost nothing.

It's kind of equivalent to a Central American banana republic in sore need of "land reform".

But that's they way life is!

I'd use the "hug" smilie now, but from one single lonely guy to another, it might seem a little too "not that there's anything wrong with that." :hi:

[Tom Kitten]

30. oops

I can be obscure sometimes...What I meant when I said I was a Virgin (capitalized) was I am a Virgo!

and sorry I am over 40 but not yet 50!

[the_spectator]

32. lol! nevermind! /nt

[bliss_eternal]

11. Flashing...

:P

[Tom Kitten]

22. I can't help it

Our former mayor encouraged it!

[SeanQuinn]

14. Posting.

I kid.

[Tom Kitten]

23. we have so much in common!

I kid too!

[sundog]

18. never ever give up flirting

flirting is like breathing :P

[Tom Kitten]

63. I don't think I ever will, actually...

the problem I have is I like to jump into people's laps without asking first...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

20. Give up relinquishment.

[Tom Kitten]

25. best advice yet

come to think of it, why should I relinquish anything?
Damn it, I'll flirt if I want to!

[the_spectator]

27. The Buddha would NOT agree

"no attachment" and all that. And he wasn't talking about email etiquette either.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

31. Unless one becomes attached to relinquishment...

[the_spectator]

33. Yes, buts that's advice for down the road, isn't it?

If we try to cross THAT particular bridge before we come to it, we'll never get started, and never come to it, will we? :crazy:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

39. Only Tom can tell whether that bridge has been crossed...

but I think giving up stuff could be a little like "dieting" if one isn't careful. Do you know what I mean?

[Tom Kitten]

46. Yes

I've been working on improving myself for quite awhile...I am by nature a mature person yet still I dilly dally with trivia...
I've always come here for fun and I really need to get serious and do something for the good of us all...I just feel like I've been wasting my life and talents...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

54. Do you come here for fun, or

do you come here to criticize yourself for "wasting" your life?

I'm finding I can more effectively relinquish self-destructive behavior by relinquishing self-denigration. Passing judgement on ourselves serves no positive purpose.

And if coming to DU helps you become kinder to yourself, it's not a total waste, is it? :hug:

[Tom Kitten]

58. I come here for fun, yes...

I feel like I am not alone in this regard...I have genuine affection for so many people here...sometimes I think I offend or hurt people here though, even though I never mean to do so...

Basically I come here to learn, though...in the greater scheme of things my voice is just one of many after all...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

66. That's the trouble with this medium of communication...

When you can't read a person's body language or hear the tone of their voice, it's very easy to offend or take offense in error.

Still, I think it's a great way to get ideas across; and when misunderstandings come up, most of the people here are willing to apologize and accept apologies.

Too bad we can't do that with Iraq...

[Tom Kitten]

35. I just want to be better...

that's all, really!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

37. better as in well?

[Tom Kitten]

42. I am well

do you see signs that suggest that I am not well?

[GoddessOfGuinness]

45. I was just wondering what you meant by "better"

[Tom Kitten]

48. simple...better than I am now...

My personal philosophy has always been "be as good as you can and help others as much as you can"

and frankly I can do better than what I have done so far!

[Tom Kitten]

34. the Dalai Lama liked me...

at least that's the feeling I got ...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

36. You met the Dalai Lama?

May I scratch your ears?

[Tom Kitten]

40. yes I did

only a moment but it was transcendental...I did post about it but it was long ago...probably in the archives by now!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

44. I'll bet it was...

Too cool! :D

[Tom Kitten]

50. I'll tell you about it sometime...

it happened completely by accident...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

67. I'd love to hear about it!

You can send me a private message if you like. :beer:

[bliss_eternal]

29. Um,...talking back to the movie theater screen.

:crazy:

[Tom Kitten]

38. I am not a movie theatre screen!

I'm a flesh and blood human and I really like talking with people here about things!

[Parrcrow]

47. celibacy --- afterall, its been an hour and a half

[Liberal In Texas]

51. Braggart. (LOL)...n/t

[Parrcrow]

53. Not Me!!

I'm advising our pal Tom Kitten. He started this thread an hour and a half ago. He must be about ready to explode by now, and that would be gross.

I'm not even interested in trying celibacy. Its like when your mother tells you not to cross your eyes because it may become permanent.

[Tom Kitten]

60. One of my favorite bands is the Celibate Rifles...

they are great to sublimate to...

[Parrcrow]

62. All rifles should be celibate

:hi:

[Tom Kitten]

52. that would be great...

here I am caving into my libidinal desires! :rofl:

[In_The_Wind]

56. yee gads ... you've already given up one of the best parts of life

... clearly ... you've taken leave of your senses ... so ... what wisdom can I offer you


if 'Pandering' is bothering you ... give it up


*giggle, while backing slowly out of thread* I know it's not nice to flirt with someone who can't flirt back *shaking head* so sorry, sorry, sorry *giggle*

[Tom Kitten]

61. dear Joan

I can always change my mind! There''s plenty of room in there to think up some exclusion clauses!

[Greyhound]

65. Hope. n/t

[SOteric]

68. Kitty Porn.

[Montauk6]

69. Farting on the elevator and then glaring accusingly at the other guy

[JVS]

70. Eye Contact.

Tis the devil's plaything!