Anyone see this in today's Dear Abby?

[Love Bug]

DEAR ABBY: My sister needs help. Her husband, "Dale," who has been in the Reserve for 15 years, is being deployed to Kuwait next month, and she's a mess. She went to the emergency room this morning because she thought she was having a heart attack. It was an anxiety attack. One minute she's distraught because he's leaving; the next she wants to divorce him.

"Andrea" was always proud of Dale's service. She has happily bragged that she's an officer's wife, about the pay, the retirement that will come their way, and the travel deals they have enjoyed staying at Army properties all over the country. Until now, she has supported the action in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Now, however, she has kicked Dale out of the house because she believes he has chosen the Army over their family. She says he won't be allowed to call or e-mail her or their two kids while he's on active duty.

Andrea refuses any suggestion of support services through the Army because she doesn't think the session will be kept confidential. Although I want to support her, I believe she's denying Dale the support he deserves. It infuriates me that she has been in favor of the military action as long as it involved other people's families and not her own.

Andrea and Dale have been married 20 years. She has never lived alone, nor does she have the means to support herself. She has been seeing a therapist for the past few months for depression, but her next session isn't for a few weeks. How can I help? What can anyone else do to help? -- CONCERNED SISTER

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/

I feel sorry for her husband. He's the one that has to go and fight. She's lived off the goverment teat for 15 years and now that he has to go up she's punishing him. I'll bet she's one of those insufferable officer's wives who thinks SHE has the rank. She needs to get her shit together -- her husband and kids need her support. She also needs to talk with other wives in the same situation. God(ess) knows there are enough of them.

[CBGLuthier]

1. He is in the reserve

Just how is she living off the government teat????

I think your whole rant is wrong.

[Love Bug]

2. Ok, well, maybe "government teat" is a bit too strong

but if you read the letter she has benefited from his time in service through perks. I don't know why she's taking it out on him -- it's not like he has any choice about going unless he wants to go to jail.

[Orsino]

3. I guarantee that she's paid for every perk in tears and worry. n/t

[Rabrrrrrr]

4. Wow. What an irrational self-absorbed immature clunkhead she is.

All was well when the hubby was bringing her vacarious honor and nifty little perks for her to parade around to her "friends" and family, and all was well while other people's loved ones were dying and killing and getting maimed and maiming; but now that he has to go full-time and she's gonna be left behind to find work on her own and, God forbid, grow up into an adult, she's all batshit crazy and punishing the guy through whom she has defined her life because her own life, apparently, was just a piece of shit.

Well, I hope he divorces you. He deserves a hell of a lot better, lady.

[Felix Mala]

5. She needs immediate counseling, hubby, too. If she won't go, he

should go by himself.