I hate my situation

[jiacinto]

I am starting to get ready for my move. Shipping belongings is so expensive.

I wonder how my financial situation is going to survive this. If I don't declare bankruptcy before this is all over I'll be happy.

I am okay and am posting this for people to see. But frankly my wallet isn't and I feel like I will probably need counseling once I get to where I need to be and find a job.

[THUNDER HANDS]

1. glad you're still with us

Where are you moving to, back home?

[jiacinto]

2. With family

That's all I can say right now.

[Droopy]

3. Good idea, jiacinto

I'd strongly recommend counseling after all that you've been through. Good luck finding a job and I hope you enjoy your new home.

[roguevalley]

4. I am so glad you are going out of there, sweetie.

Where are you headed? North?

Keep us posted. :)

[Just Me]

5. I am sorry for you,...

,...I have had to manage through similar circumstances. It's tough.

[XanaDUer]

6. I think you're doing the right thing

living in a bad place is really stressful.

[jiacinto]

11. and dangerous

nt

[MuseRider]

7. I have missed a bit

of your story but got some of it. Please take care. You have been through a horrible experience. Get some help and learn to use it. Man, I am sorry but glad to know you are OK.

[ShaneGR]

8. Out of curiosity, where do you live that is so bad?

And what area (No specifics needed) are you going to? BTW, what happened?

[jiacinto]

9. S Florida

Somewhere far from there.

[hussar]

10. Good luck

get the counseling, I'm getting some Monday morning 9am (much needed)

[jiacinto]

12. I just am so stressed right now

When will things change? I wonder what bizzare astrological alingment appeared.

[XanaDUer]

13. Forget astrological alignments for now

Just learn from what happened, and be careful who you make friends with.

Things will start changing when you get a positive outlook and positive surroundings. The whole thing was a disaster, the job, the area, the "friend"...

[jiacinto]

14. I know

But why now? I mean--my other friends have everything perfect, or so it seems. Bad things seem to only happen to me.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

16. I think the counseling is in order both to get you past the trauma but

also to take a look at your internal conversation which you often share with us. Granted we all feel picked on and abused at times and especially when one has gone through something hard like a robbery and a mugging, thoughts like "WHY ME?" are bound to occur.

But I noticed you had a similar conversation about the friend who got a better job as well.

If anything has a HOLD on our life it is the internal conversations we have with ourselves. Those conversations virtually DICTATE what our reality is.

[DemExpat]

19. I agree with NSMA......it is absolutely vital to become aware

of this internal dialogue, Carlos, and to steer it away from negative to more positive or at least neutral-toned statements.

I also believe that much of our reality is created by these thoughts, so learning about them is a key to empowerment.

All the best, Carlos!

DemEx

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

22. It all ties back into this notion that language matters

the things we language to ourselves matter most.
If I told most people the issues and incidences I have overcome in life, they'd never believe it.

[jiacinto]

23. So hard to be positive amidst so much negativity

nt

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

24. There is a VERY big difference between BEING POSITIVE

and simply NOT being defeatist.

I don't really believe in being "positive" ...they are two sides to the same coin.

But for every situation that confronts us, there really IS another way of looking at it beyond the manner in which we "automatically" interpret our circumstances.

[jiacinto]

26. did youg et my PM yet

nt

[Droopy]

17. Bad things happen to a lot of people

It would take a book to describe all of my bad experiences to you. One thing is I have this horrible mental illness that I've almost killed myself over three times. It took many years of suffering and three hospitalizations before they finally figured out what the deal is. Things aren't all rosy now but there is a huge improvement over what I was like just 5 months ago.

Things will turn up for you. Just give it some time. I expect to be hearing positive posts from you in the near future.

[jiacinto]

18. Trying to

but don't see anything.

[XanaDUer]

20. Believe me

what seems "perfect" to an outsider is usually anything but. I cannot tell you how many people who seem to have it all are living lives of quiet desperation.

You have a brother you can go to, you have your health, and you have the ability to start over.

Some people would give anything to start over.

[jiacinto]

21. I know, I know

but I am feeling conflicting emotiosn.

[David Zephyr]

28. NSMA's Advice is Most Helpful.

And here's mine, Carlos:

Take one day at a time knowing that each day brings a world of good possibilities and that it puts the bad events still another day in the past.

We get life only one day at a time. That's the sweetest thing about.

Every morning, we all get a brand new deck of cards regardless of our income, backgrounds, health.

Here's wishing you a great new day tomorrow. And here's wishing you love.

[Nikia]

15. Mentally start over

Everything happened because you lived in a crappy place that you didn't like. You are getting away from there. Now you can start your life again. Things will be better. A couple times when I felt like I hit rock bottom, I actually felt pretty confident. Be confident that things won't be as bad as they were in Florida.

[Forkboy]

25. If you can afford bankruptcy

you one up on me.I'm too broke to be that poor :)

Seriously though,the counseling may be a good idea (and I'm not saying that as a wise-ass...it can really help).I hope wherever you're going will work out better for you than Florida has.Life has dealt you some crappy cards but how you play them makes all the difference in the world.

The thought of shipping belongings is foreign to me.I'll be 36 next week and I can still move all my belongings in a single trip using a pickup truck :shrug: I've moved 31 times in my 36 years...I've learned to live light and always be prepared for the next move.

As Bad Religion says,we're "on the tip of a continuum moving wavelike through disorder".Learn to enjoy the ride as best you can!

[Wcross]

27. For what its worth

I moved from the D.C area to Tennessee 10 years ago with 60 bucks in my pocket and all I could fit into my car. I lived cheap, in a trailer, drove 20 year old cars and saved my money. I worked any job I could get- I spent a summer inserting small metal tubes into bigger metal tubes. I saved enough to buy a delapitated farm house and some acerage- for cash. I went into limited debt rehabing the house and did all the work myself. In two more years, it will cost me 4 dollars a day to maintain my home (taxes,insurance and electricity).
I grow alot of my own food, and could survive on minimum wage if forced to. I know I am a bit different from the average american, I like it that way. I don't give a fat rat what others think, I live according to my standards.

[sleipnir]

29. Good luck...

I'm still unemployed, but I just got out of living at my parents place for 3 months. I took a big risk and moved to increase my chance at a job, if it doesn't work in two months, I'm basically screwed...

Don't give up!!!!!! It will turn around, we've got Karma on our sides!!!

[Cleita]

30. I'm happy to see you are working toward improving

your situation Carlos. I must tell you it won't be the first time life throws you a bad line. I believe the ability to solve the problems we encounter in life makes us stronger for the next time we run into something we hadn't planned. Good luck.

[dsc]

31. I am going to give you a piece of advice

that I was given early in sobriety. Don't compare your insides to other people's outsides. We are all adept and hiding what is bad in our lives from other people but we can't hide them from ourselves. I know what I am going through but often have little to no clue what other people are going through. I can't count the number of times in early sobriety I would see someone and think how lucky they were based on what they said was going on in their lives only to find out they were in terrible pain. Things, can and will get better for you. You have much going for you. Work on the things MSMA has pointed out and good luck.

[merry_jane]

32. things will look up

Hi jiacinto. I didn't catch what happened but I understand in life sometimes things can go all bad all at once. They don't stay that way forever...just always keep that in mind -- it helps in getting through it. Good luck and keep us posted.

[RebelOne]

33. Wish I could have warned you before you moved to South Florida

It's what I call "The Hell Hole of the South." And believe me, I know. I lived there most of my life until I saw the light and moved to Georgia.

[XanaDUer]

34. I thought Jacksonville was "The Hellhole of the South"...

South Florida is the "Tenth Circle of Hell"

and I have had the displeasure of living in both places.