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[Colin Ex]

So I'm taking it easy on Saturday, feeling kind of stressed and tired. And I have a story for you kids so we can stew together. :-)

I met this girl playing Capture the Flag at a neighboring college about a ten minute walk away, and she took interest to me. She asked for my phone number, we exchange, and I finally worked up the sack to go see her last weekend. I think we both had a pretty good time, and I ended up going back to my dorm with her coat-vest thing on because I was cold as fuck last weekend. (You may remember this as the thread "My hot date was awesome, ask me anything.")

Now I'm faced with a dilemma. I really want to see her again, and was considering giving her a call on Sunday to see if she wants to rock out again and drink coffee or something. However, I'm kind of averse to calling her because I'm afraid that if I call her again (I called her a few times between the CTF game and the Hot Date) I'll come off like a stalker.

So, DU Ladies and Men: WHat's the right course of action here? If you need details on something I'll be happy to explain.

-C

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

1. You still have her coat vest?

Then you need to call her to see about returning it. That leads, of course, to a date. Frankly, I'm sure the young lady could tell from your demeaner that you aren't a stalker but a nice fellow looking for good company.

[Colin Ex]

5. Yeah, I still have her coat.

It makes sense, but I still don't want to come off as crazy / desperate / motherfucking insane.

I hope she got the impression you state, though.
:-)
-C

[TrogL]

2. Call! call now, call often

don't let her get away

[Colin Ex]

3. What's the reasoning behind that?

Anything? Or is that just the general advice?

[Droopy]

4. You haven't called her in a week and you afraid

of coming off like a stalker? C'mon, man, I think you're just a little nervous about seeing her. Give her a call and see what she's doing tomorrow. You're not stalking, just interested. You better call her because if you don't she may think that you're not interested. It would be one thing if you were calling her a couple of times a day, but I don't think you're calling her enough if you want this to develop into a relationship.

[Nikia]

6. Call her

You haven't called her after the date yet so I don't see how you'd come off as a stalker. If you don't call her, she may not think that you had a good time. If you want to develop a relationship or even go on another date, it is really important that you call her.

[corarose]

7. Put the Coat & Vest in a box with a card and a rose

If you can't get a hold of her tell her what a good time you had and invite her to dinner.

[Colin Ex]

8. That's pretty damned clever.

Worth a shot, too.

-C

[wryter2000]

9. Did she enjoy your calls before?

If so, call her again. Since when is calling someone who enjoys your company stalking them? :)

[Colin Ex]

10. Here's the Verdict:

I did, in fact, finally work up the sack to give her a call.

Her roommate picked up, and gave the phone to her. I said hello, this is Colin, and she said something roughly equivalent to BAUGH. So I asked her if she was feeling okay, if she had a cold...

Turns out she's been pulling long as hell nights trying to get her papers and homework done and was running on the 5 AM to 9 AM sleeping schedule done.

So. Not this weekend, but I told her I'd try calling her back next weekend in hopes she'd be at least slightly more open. So maybe I'll do the card + flower + box with coat in it route suggested on this thread. :-)

-C