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first off, thanks karenina for helping me to understand. your posts are frankly difficult for me to read, and yes, i do feel personally attacked and completely misunderstood -- both by the conductor and to a lesser extent by you.
but i want to understand this, not only to better understand such concepts as 'white privilege' but also to make sure i understand all the sensitivities (on both sides, actually) so that i (we) can get to the point where i can interract with people of all races without inadvertantly offending.
i have had quite a bit of such interractions over the years, especially in college, and when i was an emt. but my career has been as a computer programmer, up the management chain, and now as director of analytics for a small financial firm. there has been an unfortunate overrepresentation of white, asians, and indians in the labor pool, at the expense of other races/nationalities. so maybe i'm losing whatever perspective i had in my younger years.
anyway.
what you detected as 'a sutble assumption of superiority' was intended to communicate a bit of defensiveness instead, though i can certainly see where you got that inference after rereading my earlier comment.
let me clarify what's going on in my brain. i do not make judgements about other peoples worldviews. i understand that different people -- different for all sorts of reasons of which race may or may not be one -- have different perspectives because they have different experiences. in mind, all i do is analyze (hey, i'm director of analytics, that's what i do, lol) to ramifications of the worldviews i encounter. all worldviews have plusses and minuses, aspects that work well or don't work well for those who have any particular worldview and for the people around them. i obviously also try to do the same for my own worldview, although equally obviously, that's more difficult because far more intense emotions can come into play and complicate or confuse my analysis.
my own worldview includes a profound desire to interract with all people as individuals. i do not appreciate when people lump me into one category or another -- whether it's white, jew, male, programmer, american, short person, yankee, ivy leaguer, whatever. i am all these things, but there are certainly many attributes typically associated with each of these that i do not share. so i try not to do this to others. by this age, it's fairly well ingrained, to the point that i honestly didn't realize that the conductor was black until he said the word 'servant'. i'm usually fairly oblivious to my surroundings (i do share some characteristics with the absent-minded professor) and being so tired made me more so. i'm not going to try to convince anyone, myself included, that i didn't notice on some level his skin color, but it certainly didn't register at first.
one of the advantages of my worldview is that by ignoring categories such as race, i can better interract with people as individuals without offending. well, usually. one of the DISadvantages of my worldview that i am coming to realize is clearly that it's not good enough to ignore race, sometimes you do have to notice and be properly sensitive to race. i guess it's a bit like the whole 'appearance of impropriety' thing. it's not good enough for public officials to BE ethical, they also have to APPEAR ethical. so they have to consciously think about what would be LOOK unethical and then make sure that they don't look like that, quite aside from whether or not they actually behave ethically.
as for the "i can't even get credit for my own accomplishments, because anything i ever do or achieve is at least in some tiny part aided by my skin color?" comment: i can see how someone would get offended by that statement, especially in isolation from the rest of this thread. my statement appears to try to dismiss the notion that my skin color helped me. that was not my intention. i am very much aware of the many advantages i have had (and actually the many advantages others have had that i haven't) and i do accept that YES, my 'own' accomplishments HAVE been at least in some tiny part aided by my skin color. i don't at all mean to dismiss that. what i do mean to ask, is, how do we get beyond that? how do we recognize that my accomplishments aren't JUST due to my skin color and so on. and how do i make jokes that steer clear of racial sensitivities. better still, (further down the road to enlightenment) how do i make jokes that poke fun at these racial sensitivities without offending?
thanks again for helping me to see the way.
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