Hey Ladies...what kind of man do you look for?

[jeter]

Women always say that they love guys with confidence. Others say they want a guy with a good sense of humor. Others still like a dependable guy. Some women go for mystery. And the rest want a guy who is dark, tall and handsome.

So where do you fit in? What is the number one attribute a guy has that will win you over?

[THUNDER HANDS]

1. I've found

The number one reason women go for me is my sense of humor and my intelligence.

Then the love potion wears off... :D

[jeter]

Ha Ha, those love potions should definitely last longer huh?

A few hours is not enough. Waking up with a woman and having her scream, "how did you get into my bed" does not make for a good morning. ;)

[jeter]

3. Ha Ha, those love potions should definitely last longer huh?

A few hours is not enough. Waking up with a woman and having her scream, "how did you get into my bed" does not make for a good morning. ;)

[sendero]

2. Whatever it is ....

... that a woman is looking for in a man, I'm certain they cannot or will not articulate it, until you know them well :)

[MaineDem]

4. Money!

Yep, for sure.
I married for love the first time (almost 30 years ago) so if I'm going to have to go through it again and break another husband in, he'll have to have mucho bucks!

Just kidding. Sorta. :evilgrin:

There is no one thing. A combination of intelligence, sense of humor, and, of course, a nice car.

[jeter]

5. I find a nice car works

You don't get many second dates after you double-ride a girl on your bike on the first.

[Maple]

6. Other

Nice buns!

[rbnyc]

7. Just curious...

...is there a reason this poll is only for straight women? I don't think it's wrong to only want the opinion of straight women, if you're looking for feedback from people who share that with you. I'm just curious if you specifically wanted to do that, or if including lesbians, bisexuals, women who love women, etc. or asking it in general and not in a frame that specifies gender or sexual identity was just something you didn't think of.

[HEyHEY]

8. you need a "Money" option

just kiddin' ladies...id that sense of humour thing for real...I always make girls laugh and I have been single for like two years now.

[wryter2000]

9. I'm an old married lady and haven't dated for an age

My take on the confidence thing is that no one (gay/straight, male/female) likes someone with low self esteem. That's about the most unattractive attribute you can have.

When I was single, I always had the best relationships with men I liked, even before I loved them. The same qualities that you'd look for in a friend -- so I answered "dependable." If you can't count on someone, what good are they? Other things are common interests, ingelligence, and sense of humor.

I married a guy like that, and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary together. (24.5 years of that married.)

[scarletwoman]

10. HONOR! I would want a man with a strong sense of HONOR!

It's an old-fashion concept I suppose, but what matters most to me in my dealings with other human beings (male OR female) is whether or not they are HONORABLE.

Honor: That over-arching respect for ONESELF, AND for others, that absolutely precludes dishonesty -- either dishonesty about oneself, or dishonesty about others. Honor: That inner sense of ethics which compels a human being to stand by their commitments, to tell the truth, to hold to their principles.

Nothing else matters to me. If a person doesn't have HONOR, there is nothing else that they may have that is of any interest whatsoever.

sw

[Yaoi_Huntress_Earth]

11. Same here

Honor and morals (and not the stuffy kind) are big with me, too. I want someone with a strong inner-beauty and is not a mega-slob (the kind with so much trash in the backseat of his car that you can't even put your feet down). Then I'm told that I'm aiming too high.
Love,
Yaoi Huntress Earth

[scarletwoman]

15. Aim high proudly!

I'm old -- old enough anyway, at 54 years -- and the love of my life, my soulmate, died suddenly 3 years ago... So I'm a rather disinterested party in this discussion in any case.

I'm very glad you brought up "inner beauty", however. Beauty of SOUL, beauty of SPIRIT -- what else of true worth IS there?

So few understand, methinks... Oh well...

sw

[Yaoi_Huntress_Earth]

31. Sorry to hear about that

I hope to find somebody someday.
Love,
Yaoi Huntress Earth

[Scott Lee]

14. Yeah but....

What if the guy's honorable as the day is long, and ugly as the south end of a northbound mule? Wouldn't it matter?

[scarletwoman]

16. heh...

Inner beauty -- as Yao Huntress says... That's what counts. We are not our bodies, we are SPIRIT. And it is also true, that one's physical countenance reflects one's Spirit. So one who has a bright spirit, will not be so terribly ugly in any case...

The love in my heart has NEVER depended on phyical attractiveness. A true loving heart looks for beauty of SPIRIT -- physical attributes are secondary.

sw

[smirkymonkey]

45. I agree, and I would add

integrity. For me it's really about energy (or chemistry, or whatever you want to call it). A man can sound perfect on paper, but upon meeting, may leave you cold.

I want someone I can respect and who makes me aspire to be a better person.

[Skittles]

12. very intelligent guys

who can make me laugh

[VelmaD]

13. 3 things

1. A good sense of humor. If he can make me laugh he's ahead of the game.

2. Politically active - I dig guys who care about the world and are passionate about changing it.

3. Comfortable in their skin - I wanta guy who is in touch with his body. That's the beginning of so many other qualities - sense of style, self-confidence. Guy's who totally inhabit their body are sexy as hell. :-)

[populistmom]

17. Intelligence

That's a must. And if I was ever looking again, I'd want a non-drinker (or minimal drinker) and no drugs. Humor is important. A sense of adventure is important (because I tend to overanalyze everything). Feeling spontaneous in um....other areas...ahem...is important. Caring about the world beyond themselves is important.
Certain physcial things appeal to me more than others, but I wouldn't close myself off to someone because they didn't meet exact specifications.

[shirlden]

18. Just looking for one

who can write his name and is still breathing.


:hi:

[SOteric]

19. Balance, Perspective, Humour, Intelligence...

And a schlong like a T-Rex.


;-)

[VelmaD]

21. Well, yeah...

that last one kinda goes without saying. ;-)

[BritishHuman]

37. Covered in scaly skin?

Remind me to stop moisturising.

Ewww. Now I grossed myself out.

:puke:

[SOteric]

50. Oh you.

You are gonna get such a spanking.

[Kamika]

20. what I want

He has to be atleast 6.0 Minimum and ALOT of muscles. Brown eyes and dark features(like a really pumped italian). He must be a GOD in bed and always give me presents between our clubbing at the fanciest nightclubs which we go to in our limo.

Oh and hes ofcourse a billionair(millionair is ok I guess)

He shouldnt be much older then 25 either.


Anyway if you fit this your welcome to msg me

[Dogmudgeon]

32. Sounds like a plan

Now, if you're trim, athletic, submissive, under 19, can handle Kristal, Columbian flake, and correct punctuation, blonde and willing to have sex with me in the back of the limo the first time I drop $250 on you at a fancy restaurant, we might be in business. Otherwise, later, babe.

Or did you just cut-and-paste from Match.com?

--bkl
Yo. Just call me Vinny Muscles.
:-)

[Kamika]

33. damn

correct punctuation.. I have no chance..

[shanti]

22. honesty

gotta have it.

[tjdee]

23. Kindness--to waiters, little children, puppies....

You can tell a lot about a guy by the way he treats waitstaff and other random people he encounters. If he holds the door open for a little old lady with a bag of groceries. It's really easy to be nice to people you know and care about, but I find it is really wonderful and unexpected to find men who treat even strangers with respect and even liking.

Plus, you can never go wrong with a guy who likes children and animals and loves his mommy. :-)

Erm...and also if he's smart. And is Adrien Brody or Cillian Murphy. :loveya:

[Rhiannon12866]

54. Kindness does it for me, as well, especially towards animals

Also intelligence. A fixation on his mommy I can do without.:shrug:

[Catfish]

24. Details of other:

Honest, ethical, intelligent, energetic. Nothing is worse than a liar, in my opinion.

[KG]

25. jeez, i'm all of those things

so why am i so very single? :(


(except the 'hung like a t-rex thing'. would you settle for a hung like a pony? :) )

[pippin]

26. brains, classiness

(nothing to do with money or status) and kindness. Can't stand what my British relatives call "yobs." Gonna post a separate thread to find out what women can't stand about men.

[Lady Freedom]

27. All the above!

and more! hehe!

[bicentennial_baby]

28. Intelligence

Can't stand dummies!

[BuelahWitch]

29. I like a smart guy with a good heart

Intelligence is very important though. As well as a love of old movies ;-)

[corarose]

30. HONEST

Once he lies he means nothing to me anymore.

[buddhamama]

34. sense of humor

and a nice smile.

there are different levels and displays of confidence. they're not all appealing to me. if confidence is perceived as, or is cockiness, i won't be impressed. there have been occasions too, that this cockiness or over confidence has been an indicator of a know-it-all with a closed mind.

[supernova]

35. First 3 are good

plus must have interests and hobbies he's willing to share sometimes (just as I am). Must like himself, but not be cocky. Shy guys are cute too. ;-)

Easy-going. Someone who definitely has time for a relationship.

Oh yeah, and must be able to go all night! :evilgrin:

[GOPisEvil]

36. Go all night?

Does he have to wait until morning to come back? :silly:

[supernova]

38. Well what was I supposed to say?

Especially since Short Bus cleaned up the GROTTO?

LOL!

[GOPisEvil]

39. I dunno - you could have mentioned "endurance".

[supernova]

40. OK, must have

lots of "edurance." ;-)

[chefgirl]

41. I voted 'sense of humor'

I voted for sense of humor because intelligence wasnt there. The man who can make me stop and think will capture my attention every time.

I also place great importance on 'commitment to excellence'. For me to have any kind of serious relationship with a man, that HAS to be a priority in his life. I cannot tolerate people who are willing to give just enough effort to get by and nothing more.

-chef-

[GOPisEvil]

42. No George W. Bush for you then, huh?

;-)

[geniph]

43. A big man who is gentle with kittens

(something about the combination of strength and tenderness gets me every time), someone who is smart and articulate, someone who makes me laugh every day and pisses me off at least once a week, someone who cooks (since I can't), and mostly, someone who thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and smart.

And no, you can't have him. I married him. :loveya:

[Nikia]

51. Sounds like my husband

He doesn't cook that often, but other than that. You can have both a strong man and a smart nice guy in the same person.

[Fleshdancer]

44. He has to be very intelligent

Smart men can get sexier and funnier with time. Stupid men have zero appeal no matter what they look like or how confident they seem.

[tom_paine]

46. Confidence gets 0 votes?!?

Somebody's not being honest...

Perhaps that's just one of those things that's subconscious, eh, and no one wants to 'fess up to it.

I, however, am crying bullsh*t to our many fine DUers of the female persuasion...

(hey, who persuaded them to be that?)

:evilgrin:

[geniph]

47. It counts, it just isn't #1

The first thing I always notice about a guy is whether or not he's interested in me. The second thing I notice is whether or not he makes me laugh. Confidence is in there somewhere, but it's not the first thing I notice - if it were, I'd probably think the guy was egotistical.

[tom_paine]

53. Good point, geniph

[tjdee]

48. Most men have quite enough confidence, thanks!

There was a study out a few weeks ago (and I've seen similar ones before) that said that men already think they're better than they are--they have an overall better self image than women do. Even if they don't think they're the studliest guy on the block, they see themselves as smarter/funnier/etc.

In fact, I think most of us women have met men who are overboard on the confidence meter, and it's a really huge turn off. As I've recounted in the lounge before, the last guy who tried to pick me up made sure to tell me within 5 minutes of meeting him that he'd gone to a private high school, then Colgate, worked on Wall Street, and lived in Park Slope (and he also made sure to mention how great a neighborhood that was). Too much confidence, thanks.

On the flipside, I've never met a man who told me what a loser he was, how he was depressed every day, and that he wasn't sure he should even be talking to me because I deserved better than him. It's really hard to gauge how confident someone else is--so we take it as a given that someone has confidence in himself.

[Nikia]

49. I like a man with confidence

I am married now. I saw confidence as an important quality after dating two guys with very low self esteem. On the other hand, some people who appear to be confident are not really after you get to know them. Their image is confident but they really have some serious self doubts.

[tigereye]

52. has to be smart,

off-beat sense of humor, tall, arty, like alternative music and leftist politics. Hey, sounds like the guy I married. Although I did have a preference for some of the same qualities before I met him, though, but couldn't stay away from brooding music types.