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Thtwudbeme Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:51 PM
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Women of DU!!! What's the MOST annoying thing about getting older?
Me?

Chin hairs...where the HELL did they come from???? I spend about 10 extra minutes with the tweezers every freaking week!

Also, have to shave more often on the back of my thighs....why??

Zits...I really thought I would be done with this crap!

Any others?
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:52 PM
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1. Younger men who get freaked out by a number
when they find out I'm not as young as I look. :shrug:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:55 PM
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5. That's it for me too!
However :evilgrin: it's lots of fun when they like older women!
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:57 PM
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8. How much age difference is acceptable?
I mean, I don't want to get arrested... :evilgrin:
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:50 PM
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35. Lemme put it this way ...
I find anything more than a 25 year gap in age puts a strain on conversation. That would still mean that all of my younger lovers are well past the legal age of consent. ;)
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:25 PM
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20. I have to agree with you there Joani
Younger fellas can be fun. :blush:

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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:54 PM
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36. Absolutely!
I don't wanna keep 'em ...

Well not forever ... :rofl:
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:09 PM
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54. I don't ask ages anymore
I just count the rings.
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 07:38 AM
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75. LOL
I just make sure there's no telltale white ring on his finger from a missing ring.
One thing that's very important to me is No Lies, No games!

:hi:
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MalachiConstant Donating Member (368 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-01-05 02:02 AM
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122. personally,
i think older women are pretty hot.
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:53 PM
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2. Gaining weight more easily, despite not changing my eating habits
and exercising MORE regularly.

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Thtwudbeme Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:55 PM
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6. Oh, tell me about it!
metabolism! Bleah.....
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:00 PM
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11. Yup, that's it for me, too.
:wtf: It's sooooo unfair.

I've definitely noticed a change in my metabolism now that I'm in my 40's.

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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:13 PM
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111. Just wait until your 50s!
The weight thing is it for me, too, as I've posted below. And it's so much harder to exercise.
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:59 PM
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116. I AM in my 50s, and yes, it's worse than when I was in my 40s
:-(

I hate to think what I'd look like if I didn't exercise. Probably like some of my relatives. :scared:
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 07:15 PM
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118. It's been a rough year for me
I've put on 30 pounds since the election, can't stop eating and have stopped working out. I actually stopped other than walking in the summer about a year and a half ago. I was having trouble with my sciatica and dislocated my shoulder shortly after Labor Day in 2004. I'm really having trouble getting back on track. I used to go before work every day, but I just can't seem to get up that early anymore.
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-01-05 10:29 AM
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124. Yeah, one of my best friend in her 50's was bemoaning the
injustice of having to deal with not only a bratty teenage daughter, but also the trials of menopause...at the same time!

My daughter is 9 now. I'll be 42 in a few months. You do the math. You get the picture.... :eyes: Actually, she's a really good kid. I'm probably worrying, unnecessarily. Well, it wouldn't be the first time... hehah.

Regarding weight, yeah, I feel like I have to bleed, sweat and cry for every damn ounce I lose! Ugh. My mom really piled on the weight between her 50th and 60th birthdays....

Well, all we can do is what we can do, right? It's all part of the ebb and flow of life......

Hang in there, sister! :hug:
Shine
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Serial Mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:11 PM
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102. same here, nice (not really nice, but ) to know I am not alone!
this is really the worst!

:banghead:
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:55 PM
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3. You named my most annoying thing
For the most part I love being older and not worrying about the crap that doesn't matter.

But what is with all the extra hair?
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Lady Freedom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:55 PM
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4. gravity
That says it all.
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:03 PM
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15. Here you go
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:43 PM
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24. That is too funny
:rofl:
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:50 PM
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95. Yeah. When you sag there, your spirits sag all over.
*sigh*

Four years of breastfeeding didn't help. But, hey, my kids are healthy.
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Serial Mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:16 PM
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103. makes me think about teacher on South Park
Miss Chokesondick and the kittens always playing with her sagging breasts!

:rofl: - sad but gravity does take over




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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:55 PM
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7. The ungrateful, annoying teenage daughter at this point...
Exasperation has set in. sigh.... Not to mention the battling hormones between the two of us. And, when she uses the last of the "necessary items" she never tells me...Grrrrr.


:hi:
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:28 AM
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67. Take heart, Mrs. Grumpy. My annoying teenage daughter now has
Edited on Wed Nov-30-05 02:29 AM by Radio_Lady
annoying teenagers of her own. It's fun to watch all the drama and then say, "'Bye-bye, guys -- see you later -- work it out -- have fun!"

:grinning:

I'm 66 years old now and I don't have anybody grumpy around me any more. Thank God.

In peace,

Radio_Lady
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:15 PM
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112. I feel for you, Mrs. G.
The teenage years aren't easy on mother/daughter relationships. Mine was just home for a few days and she's 28 now. It doesn't always get better. And she's coming home soon for a year or so. I can't wait. :sarcasm:
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 08:36 PM
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121. She is either my baby (mostly because she wants something) or
rolling her eyes heavenward because I have asked her to do/stop doing something. The day you met her she was on her best company behavior believe me. :hi:
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:58 PM
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9. Oh god, stupid fucking chin hairs
I have one. I pull the damn thing out regularly. It grows ten times thicker, darker and faster than any other hair on my bod.

Lord I hate that thing.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:51 PM
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96. At least you only have one.
Try battling those suckers every day.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:07 PM
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108. Well I'm 24
the little bastard has many years to multiply- and I'm Italian, so multiply he will.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:11 PM
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109. Yep. That's what happened to me.
One little bastard somehow showed up and started bringing in all his friends and family.
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Rising Phoenix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:05 PM
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99. I'm gonna get chin hairs....
:wow:
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:15 PM
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113. I have a couple of those, too. n/t
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 06:58 PM
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10. For me, the most annoying thing is knowing that I 'm more than
half-way through my life.....

However, that does give me incentive to make the most of whatever I have left!

Most of the rest of the things that annoy me tend to fade in light of this....... :shrug:
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:00 PM
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12. OK, I am
Edited on Tue Nov-29-05 07:01 PM by cwydro
:rofl: because I saw the title post (re chin hairs) of the thread and that was going to be my answer....but never mind!
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Debi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:02 PM
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13. Facial Hair, that belly pouch that sticks out and lack of clothing options
for women who are no longer 25 but definitely not 65. I don't want spandex and I don't want poly-knit...:grr:
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:02 PM
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14. The fact that there is apparently NO GRACE PERIOD
between zits and wrinkles.

Also, I'm having a hard time with the idea that the decision whether or not to have more children is being taken out of my hands. Yes, yes, I know - we weren't planning on having any more anyway. But I rather liked knowing the decision was mine and not that I was too old to have more babies.
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:54 PM
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38. Amen sister
What is up with the zits and wrinkles at the same time.

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Zookeeper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:45 PM
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93. Me, too.
It's really shocking to me to realize that I could possibly still have a child, but it's unlikely enough that the event would merit a mention on the morning news.

I'm still raising my children and wasn't planning more. But, like you said, I don't like having the decision taken out of my hands.
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SoCalDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:05 PM
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16. You shave your THIGHS???
:)

I quit shaving above the knee ages ago...never wear shorts :P

and once the big M hits you, body hair starts to vanish:) of course the hot flashes totally negate that positive thing:(
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:27 PM
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58. No kidding
Night sweats kill me!
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:17 PM
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114. Amen to that, SoCalDem!
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:12 PM
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17. My eyesight... I now hold things away from my face to focus on them...
:(

I'm lucky in the hair department though... aside from one mysterious chest hair that keeps appearing since I was about 14. I never seem to notice the damn thing until it's a couple of inches long.

Now isn't this a fun thread? :rofl:
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:22 PM
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44. no matter how much i beg....
i'm just kidding- so don't show it to me!
:P
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:45 PM
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46. LOL!
:rofl:

Imagine the scene.... hahaha
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peekaloo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:15 PM
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18. Chin hair? I thought they were antennae!
:dunce:

Those crazy hormonal rages are my new enemy.
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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:17 PM
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19. They're not chin hairs.. they're stray eyebrows
:D

Some comedienne said that once but I don't remember which one.

AND you lose your eyesight as those freaking things appear.. hissss


:hug:
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libnnc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:34 PM
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21. for me at 35 its not just the chin hairs...
Now I'm getting old man eyebrows.

but the bright side is--my orgasms are more intense...:shrug:
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wildeyed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:52 PM
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25. A worthwhile trade, IMO. n/t
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GrumpyGreg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:58 PM
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62. God almighty,35-----my youngest kid is older than you--do not
complain about aging problems---please !!!!!!
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libnnc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 07:54 PM
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120. I'm a woman with chin whiskers and old man eyebrows
and a spare tire jelly belly that I didn't have at 25...I have every reason to complain

...just not about the orgasms. I'm okay in that dept.
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MsUSA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:32 PM
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91. I cried I was laughing so hard about this one libnnc.....old man eyebrows.
:rofl: My husband who is 5 years older then me, has them. I always tell him to try to train the buggers to lay flat....no such luck, they poke straight out. LOL
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:37 PM
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22. Elasticity (our ability to bounce back)
What happened to it? I mean, I used to be able to party, stay up, stay out all night and sleep for a few hours and then go to work and just keep blowing and going. I had no trouble bouncing back.

Hell, my friend from college and I went out 28 nights out of a 31 day month while her fiance was working off shore. I mean, what else could we do, she was so depressed and it was my responsibility to help keep her cheered up. :beer: :toast: But heck, we kept going, got up, showered, dressed, went to work, worked and then came home, only to go out again.

But now I have found that I can not bounce back like I used to. Too much partying, too many drinks, too late of hours and I am drained, I don't want to think about bouncing back, let alone am I able to bounce back.

Elasticity is the first to go. :-(


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Sanity Claws Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:38 PM
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23. I need more heavy duty industrial strength bras
I used to be able to wear those cute little lacey things. Now I need something with more support to keep my girls hoisted.
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wildeyed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:54 PM
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26. See, I don't even need a bra anymore.
I was never any great shakes in that department, but after nursing two babies, I am nearly flat as a boy. Just wear undershirts these days.
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Texasgal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 07:54 PM
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27. " that time of the MONTH"
Get's worse it seems!!!

:mad:

I never got PMS when I was younger... I have it really bad now, along with cramps that seem to last for days on end!

SCREW YOU AUNT FLO!!!!
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RebelOne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:01 PM
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28. Oh, please!!! A multitude of problems.
Hair is thining, eyesight is getting bad and teeth are falling out I don't have the excess hair problem because I am a blonde, so I do not even have to shave my legs anymore, but I do have the excess hair on my face because I am taking biotin and vitamin B-12 for my hair, which seems to make hair grow everywhere but on your head.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:01 PM
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29. I can't drink as much as I used to.
:beer:
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Draill Donating Member (360 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:04 PM
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30. All those you mentioned are at the top
of my list too. I'm not real happy about the direction my boobs are starting to point, either. I guess I'll get used to it.
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TallahasseeGrannie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:26 PM
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31. stiff joints
(don't go for the cheap joke, okay?)
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astonamous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:35 PM
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32. Hot Flashes...I woke up at 2 am this morning thinking someone
had turned the heat up to about 110 degrees. Nope, it was down to 60. And how about running with droopy boobs? I am thinking that I should seriously consider ace bandage wrapping myself before I go running to prevent getting smacked in the face!
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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:48 PM
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47. *snort*
the bouncing boob scenario reminds me of P.E. when we were kids. the teacher had enormous breasts and a crappy bra. Jumping Jacks were always very amusing. :rofl:



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astonamous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:25 PM
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57. Hehehe...
I had a music director with the same problem, only he was male!

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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:44 PM
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33. Becoming socially invisible.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:50 PM
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34. That would be mine too!
I remember a female friend of mine, older than me, told me that after 45, women "disappear", whereas men don't. I don't buy that that is a true statement across the board, but I have experienced it at times. Damned guys don't know what they're missing!
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:54 PM
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37. If you disappeared
I'd find you. :hug:
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:57 PM
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39. Aw, shucks!
:hug:
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Corgigal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 08:57 PM
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40. actually at times I enjoy it
When I'm with my 16 year old redhead daughter who wears a size 1 then I become even more invisible.

I like not worrying about going out and getting errands done. I couldn't give a flip about male attention because I'm not shopping for any. I would think it should bother me more, it doesn't for some reason.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:09 PM
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43. If I'm on errands or something,
then I don't care so much, especially if I have a lot to get done in a short period of time. But if I'm in a social situation and no one notices me, that kind of bothers me. However, I have enough confidence in myself that I'll usually go up to someone and strike up a conversation.
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Zookeeper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:23 PM
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105. I find that at business/social functions...
I have attended with Mr. Zookeeper. Twenty years ago I was much more interesting to the men in the room than I am now. These days, I'm the generic wifey, who probably doesn't have anything important to say. Which means if I'm in the mood to care (not that often anymore ;-) ), it takes extra energy to assert myself as the full, human, adult individual that I am.

However, I seldom attend business-related social functions anymore. They're boring, pointless for me and at this age, I don't want to waste any precious time. I've also noticed other wives and S.O.'s who look like they are thinking the same thing.

BTW, Ocelot, I noticed you right away at the meet-up and I really enjoyed meeting you!
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OregonBlue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:00 PM
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41. Fading eyesight, hotflashes, nightsweats, zits, gravity, aches and
pains, having to color my roots every 4 weeks, etc., etc., etc., wish there was only one.
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:00 PM
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42. yes
all of the above.

My stray hair is on the inside of my fore arm - I never notice till in some kind of social situation then it seems like it is lit up and wiggling around, although I am pretty sure I am the only one that sees it. (please)
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latebloomer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 09:30 PM
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45. Let me count the ways!
Weird irregular periods, a belly pouch that never goes away, a neck that is starting to show signs of wear, increasingly parched-looking hands, those aforementioned gray roots, the realization that my life is probably way more than half over.

Whenever I consider the idea of plastic surgery, though, I just have to watch one of those real-surgery shows for about 30 seconds and it cures me of that notion.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 10:01 PM
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48. Well, the furniture problem ...
when your chest falls into your drawers.

:rofl:
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 10:13 PM
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49. Simultaneous wrinkles AND acne
:grr:
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 10:13 PM
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50. The fact that I love life (maybe not the one I'm living this last year)
and it's getting shorter every day. I love everything about it. Even stepping bare foot into a puddle of ice water trying to take out the garbage. It's all slipping away too fast.
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barb162 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 10:25 PM
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51. When the body doesn't do things it was once able to do with ease
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spacelady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:01 PM
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52. The lips that thin down into lines pointing to my chin. *sigh*
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nashbridges Donating Member (349 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:08 PM
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53. Throwing in one for my wife
But me too, because I've noticed it (and we're only 35-40, so we ain't dead yet!)

Neither of us, no matter the conditions, can see as well as we used to at night. An inoppurtune flash of headlights from an oncoming car is going to kill us one of these days. It's not glasses, since we both wear them, we just don't adapt to changing light conditions as fast as we used to, such as when an oncoming car has their high beams on.

I'm also pretty sure she's going deaf, or she's just figured out how to ignore me. I don't know that she considers this a problem.
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:40 AM
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68. Jeeze, Louise! Number one: Go to an ophthamologist and get your
vision checked (both of you). Sometimes this happens to us when we go from bright light in the daytime into a dark theater (we review films for a public broadcasting station). I can't remember the medical name of the light accommodation problem, but what you describe CAN BE symptoms of difficult diseases. Many of these symptoms can be managed... but you HAVE to know what you are dealing with.

For hearing problems, you need an good otolaryngologist (EAR-NOSE-THROAT) doctor. Sometimes it's just simply debris (wax) impacted on the eardrum which can be removed easily. We have this done routinely every six months. The doctor can refer you to an audiologist to check this out. That will reveal exactly what sound frequencies you are missing and make some suggestions.

I'm 66, and my husband is 71. We've both lost some hearing and have some vision problems, mostly corrected by glasses.

You guys sound like you're in tough shape and you're both DECADES younger than we are. I think you need some medical work-ups. If I were your mother, I'd beg you to go and check these things out!

In peace,

Radio_Lady

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nashbridges Donating Member (349 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 03:07 AM
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72. Man, jokes just don't go across the web
I know all about night blindness - we don't have that.

What we have is a steady inability to react to quick changes in brightness of light. That's completely normal. Since we're both blind without glasses, our eye doctors assumed we just had a harder time focusing in the dark.

It turns out we just aren't reacting to light levels as fast as we used to. Something about our pupils not contracting as fast as they did in our youth. We've both been tested already, and it turns out that age is indeed a bitch. We still test inside average ranges for the vision tests.

As for the deafness - that was a joke. I'm absolutely certain my wife is simply ignoring me. She's probably just as certain. I'm also still convinced she doesn't consider it a problem.

Thank you for the concern, but we aren't hurting THAT much. We hit the physicals every year and neither one of us has any of the problem conditions: high blood pressure, heart trouble, circulation issues, overweight, diabetes, or anemia. We're just getting older!

Otherwise, as of October 20th, I'm a perfectly healthy 31 year old man. That includes the blood tests, and the unmentionable test. My wife is just the same.
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 03:38 AM
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74. Oh, were you joking? OK, I get it. You need the SARCASM smiley
for that:

:sarcasm:

or maybe you can say "Just kiddin'" or something.

The web has no "intonations" or something that you can judge when hearing a voice.

Let's hear it for good health! It's the best gift you can give or get!

I hope you become happy grandparents (if that's what you want) just like us!



In peace,

Radio_Lady
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:17 PM
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55. it's the clothes
there should be something between Britney type clothes and stuff that is so non-descript and dowdy that I can't imagine anyone wanting to wear them.

I keep saying, I'm over 40, but I'm not dead yet. That "middle-aged" moniker is pretty tedious. I prefer "experienced." ;)

Otherwise, I like it.
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:51 AM
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71. I just googled "classic clothes for women" and came up with the most
delightful list of links.

This one is fun (out of a whole pageful).

http://fashion.about.com/od/classicclothing/

Maybe it's time for you to find out what you really like at this time of your life -- and go for it!

In peace,

Radio_Lady
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 09:45 AM
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77. thanks for the tips!
generally I am pretty content, but might like to change careers. Just haven't quite figured out what.... jazz drummer might be a pretty intensive project! :)
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GrumpyGreg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:23 PM
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56. I don't have a nice butt anymore -----it just disappeared. Poof !!!
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:28 PM
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59. You can have some of mine; I have way more than I need.
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GrumpyGreg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:56 PM
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61. Thanks---very generous of you LOL !!!!!
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Scout1071 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-29-05 11:30 PM
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60. I get pudgy in places that never were possible before.
But I started back to the gym this week!
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:47 AM
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63. Having zits and "fine lines" simultaneously (they aren't bad enough to be
called wrinkles yet

Having presbyopia since I was 31 (I am not getting bifocals this early on!)

Chin hairs



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mykpart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:05 AM
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64. I really don't mind getting older or even looking older.
But I hate that there are some really cute fashions that are now just "too young" for me. (I'm 58)
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:48 AM
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70. Who said so? I still wear all the bright colors I used to wear, although
they require more cloth (!) to cover my body. I never did like shorts or bikini bathing suits and I don't like them now. I still have classic suits and cute casual outfits. I did have to give up the high-heeled shoes. Never should have worn them in the first place, either.

No doubt you know about the Red Hat Society and their little poem about wearing purple and red, etc. when you are old. If not, I'll try to look it up for you.

I could have been your big sister -- 66 now still feel like a young sprout much of the time. Wear whatever you want -- damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!

In peace,

Radio_Lady



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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 06:32 PM
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117. Bright colors are good for us!
Bright colors can reflect a youthful glow on our faces, making us appear even more vibrant.

I'm only 39 and have mostly given up high heels. Whenever I do wear them, I remember why it's a rarity these days. I wore them all the time - sky high heels - when I was barely into my twenties, and I'm sure I did some damage back then.
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BamaGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:12 AM
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65. So glad I'm not the only one with the chin hair thing
and my eyebrows are getting bushier. Plucking doesn't even hurt anymore.

Acne and wrinkles...together!? What the hell!?

The hair color...where to begin? I'm trying to give up dying it, cause really who has very dark natural hair throughout their lives? But it drives me up the wall. I have two silver streaks right in front. It just looks weird.

Insane pms and apparently my metabolism has ground to a screeching halt.
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Zookeeper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:58 PM
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97. Silver streaks in the front of your hair sounds gorgeous!
I'd go for that look. Didn't Susan Sontag have distinctive silver streaks along side her face?
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:17 AM
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66. The excruciatingly long wait for menopause. (nt)
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Vektor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 02:41 AM
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69. Back pain.
Yeeeoowch.
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fleabert Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 03:08 AM
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73. gray hair and the increased sex drive.
I have too much of both.
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gmoney Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 11:12 AM
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82. Tell me about it...
No, I mean TELL me about it. :hide:
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Z_I_Peevey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 08:33 AM
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76. I can't believe I'm the first to note
the inadvertent peeing after sneezes. And sometimes just by itself, the peeing out of nowhere.

Oh, it's lovely.
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schmuls Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 10:50 AM
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78. Having to continue to fight zits while the fine lines are appearing;
playing at freezing and roasting all night long (night sweats) and those wierd hairs appearing!
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 10:56 AM
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79. this is how we know God has a sense of humor
Having zits at the same time as wrinkles and gray hair.

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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 10:57 AM
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80. Being at my sexual peak while men my age are in sexual decline
not to mention the fact that there are so few available men my age left to be begin with.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 11:25 AM
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84. That would be my biggest complaint as well.
The boob / gravity thing would come in a close second.
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samplegirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 11:06 AM
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81. Lets see do we have to pick just one?
Mine would be more like a list.
Starting with being tired way to much.
Then crying at every single thing.
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Missy Vixen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 11:19 AM
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83. Oh, the joys of aging are many
The current one is perimenopause ;-).

On the flip side, one of the better things about being 45 is that there are many things I just am not interested in/will not tolerate socially anymore. The biggest one? I am truly not trying to start the flame war of all time, but here goes. We've all met them: Members of the opposite sex who think that polite, friendly conversation = obvious sexual invitation.

"Yes, I'm being friendly to you. This means that I am being friendly. I am enjoying the conversation. This does not mean that I'm flirting with you, I think you're hot, or I want to sleep with you. Truly. I'm otherwise involved and happy with someone else."

Julie
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NV Whino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:12 PM
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85. All of the ones you mentioned, plus
having every bone in my body ache.
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El Fuego Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:14 PM
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86. Death.
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soleft Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:48 PM
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94. That and it takes longer to heal nagging injuries
I pulled my calf muscle in August and damn thing still isn't healed.
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:15 PM
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87. everything you said plus getting tired easier, having 2 drinks and then
needing a week to recover, the furrow between my eye brows, my husband claims thats from thinking too much, and not bing able to eat certain foods anymore becasue they don't agree with me.
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:18 PM
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88. That creaking/grinding noise my bones make
when I haul my boney little ass out of bed.
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ThatsMyBarack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:19 PM
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89. These two things....
1. " Crow's feet."

2. Gray hairs.



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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:20 PM
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90. Pieces parts wearing out.
My knees are going. Aarrggggh!!
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Catchawave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 12:35 PM
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92. LOL.....love getting older...
...especially that my kids now know I was right all along *snork*

Seriously, I'm series !!ll!!
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eyesroll Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:02 PM
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98. People at the cosmetics counter telling me there's something wrong with me
because I have some little, teeny tiny lines around my eyes. And that there's something even more wrong because I do not want to shell out $25 for a cream to make them go away for 6 hours.

(I have a baby face otherwise. I *like* the lines.)

That bugs me more than the whole "getting older" thing itself (although I should add I'm too young for the health problems, etc., that come with age).
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Lochloosa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:05 PM
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100. Watching You
Ducking the flames...:evilgrin:
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Thtwudbeme Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:09 PM
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101. Nope. Been here too long. I don't duck flames.
I throw them.

Particularly when I have been drinking.
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Serial Mom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:20 PM
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104. The dry skin!
and what about the "age spots" on that skin!

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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 01:24 PM
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106. Not having the stamina I used to.
When I pull a muscle, etc., takes longer to recover.

Wish I could shift some of the flesh from my stomach to the bottom of my feet, where I could use the padding.

Plus some of them posters have already mentioned.

On the plus side:

I'm more contented with life in general. I enjoy the moments more. I value time spent with loved ones because I know they (and I) won't be here forever.



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Patiod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 03:31 PM
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107. Fibroids
I consider the uterus, the knee and the back proof positive that there's no such thing as intelligent design.

Fibroids -- okay, she's over 40, let's just design things so she pretty much bleeds to death.
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:11 PM
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110. Weight gain -- and it's so much harder to lose now
Plus all the usual aches and pains.
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neweurope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 04:34 PM
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115. Oh hell- it's ALL of the above. But the worst is the damn belly
above the belt line that I cannot hide anymore - T-Shirts are definitevely out but even blouses hardly hide it any longer - and the neck and breast which look like a plucked chicken.

I've been sick since 1990 and have known for a while that I won't get to be 80 which is the reason I'm visiting friends and relatives much more often than I used to. But belly and skin strike me worse than the heart attack I had 5 weeks ago. Hell, I'm only 51 - I don't want to look like a fat dead chicken...

-------------

Remember Fallujah

Bush to The Hague!
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mtnester Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-30-05 07:29 PM
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119. Tampons AND pregnancy tests under the sink, cause you don't know if
you are late because things are weird or because your BC failed. It kind if sucks. Even worse? Having more than one cycle a month. All those X's on the calendar.

Chin hairs definitely, also those cute ones on my neck, and a couple other places.

Also, the instant weight you get overnight when you turn 40. What is up with that? No eating habit changes, just POOF. I had to work my ass off (and still do) to get rid of it.

Zits too...get em more now than when I did as a teenager. They last longer too, and are usually in singles for me..right up front and huge!
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-01-05 02:27 AM
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123. at 48 I am not sagging, size 6, no gray hair
but lord do I pay for a night out on the town. :( Also, my eyes - I simply cannot read without reading glasses.
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Thtwudbeme Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-01-05 10:31 AM
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125. Good looking blondes
have always been a pain in the ass to other women.

;)

no gray hair....I am SOOO jealous!!!!!! If I could have 3 freaking months without "roots," I would be grateful!
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