Regret

[Shell Beau]

Do you have any major regrets from your life?

[bicentennial_baby]

1. nope

i don't believe in regret, personally. What's the point? What is in the past is in the past, and you can't change it, so why dwell?

Learn from your mistakes, integrate your new knowledge, and move on, that's what i say :)

[GOPisEvil]

7. That was well-said.

:hi:

[bicentennial_baby]

9. Well thank you, kind sir!

:hi:

:loveya:

[GOPisEvil]

12. I certainly don't regret meeting you!

:loveya:

[bicentennial_baby]

15. same here, of course

let's hope we can do that again sometime soon :toast:

:)

[GOPisEvil]

That would be nice.

Who knows when the GOPisEvil world tour will be rolling through your neck of the woods again. :D

[Shell Beau]

10. I do agree with you!!

[kick-ass-bob]

11. maybe I should read a thread before responding.

;)


I regret that I didn't.

:crazy:

[Shell Beau]

16. LOL!

:P

[bicentennial_baby]

17. well,

you did say the thing about 'living in the present' too, and that's really important. :)

[hfojvt]

24. but do you realize

I could bought Xerox at 8 and a quarter?!!!!??

[bicentennial_baby]

27. hehe

:hug: my sympathies.... :P

[Oeditpus Rex]

49. Regret doesn't necessarily involve dwelling

We don't have to spend the rest of our days after the regrettable incident thinking, "Oh, if only..." to experience regret. If we didn't regret certain mistakes — either our own or others' — we wouldn't have the capacity to move ahead of them.

I've regretted many things — most notably the damage I did to those I love when I was drinking and the mistakes I made in my most recent relationship. It's because I regret them that I can atone for them and vow to myself not to repeat them.

I carry the lessons from them with me, not the regret itself.

[GOPisEvil]

2. I try to avoid regrets.

Everything in my life to date has brought me to this point, and so far, life has been pretty good. If I had done things differently, maybe my life wouldn't be as good. Of course, maybe it could be a lot better. But, overall, no complaints.

[auntAgonist]

3. only one.

[Err]

4. Many.

My latest regret is the major I have chosen in college. I graduate this coming spring in a degree I no longer have any interest in (geology). I should've majored in psychology, history, business.

Makes me feel that my major will be worthless after I graduate because I don't want to do any work related to geology. You'll see a rant about that shortly...either today or tomorrow.

[hunter]

45. Many, maybe most people work in fields unrelated to their major.

Honestly, I think a science degree like geology is more likely to catch a potential employer's eye than a psychology, history, or business degree. As one employer told me, "I know you can do the math." My first job after college, and most of the work I've done since then has been mostly unrelated to my major.

It seems when I graduated from college (more than twenty years ago!) that friends with psychology, history, business and similar degrees had a much tougher time finding good work than friends with science degrees.

My wife and I are both science majors, so maybe I'm prejudiced. But I think once you graduate you'll learn that simply being a college graduate is more important to most employers than the specific major.

Even if you are thinking about graduate school, you usually don't have to start over entirely from scratch.

No regrets there, okay?

[Err]

46. Interesting...

so I'm not entirely screwed then?

My new interests lie in managing a store. Would I be able to do that with a science degree? That'd be pretty sweet if I could.

I'm thinking about going to grad school, but not until a few years from now. I need a break from school, considering i've been going for almost 20 years now (K-12, plus five years of undergrad)!

If you don't mind me asking a personal question...what did you and your wife get a degree in? And what is your job title?

Thanks for the advice, hunter. :) I greatly appreciate it! :hi:

[VaYallaDawg]

56. You are ABSOLUTELY not screwed.

Hunter's right. My degree is in English - parents squawked the whole time, what in the world will you ever do with a degree in English (back then engineering was viewed as the only worthwhile pursuit - early 60s, Russian threats, all that crap). My degree has been inestimably useful to me all my life (duh!) - I'm media director in an ad agency, have worked in advertising/creative field my whole life. If you want to take a break before grad school, that's understandable, but don't lose track of it. When I came along, finishing undergrad level was considered to be enough, but not for your generation.

Sorry to preach!

[hunter]

57. Check your messages!

My wife and I have both changed careers, so it's not like you get stuck.

When you have a wife and kids and a mortgage that's a stretch for you to pay, that's when it get's very difficult to change tracks.

[VaYallaDawg]

66. Apologies, looks like I responded to the wrong part of the thread.

[hfojvt]

53. my major in math has been worth

a little bit less than two buckets of spit. Ditto with my college degrees. When applying for my current job, which is relatively good paying, I did not even mention my graduate degree because it seemed like many employers were holding it against me.

An MBA seems to me much more valuable than an MA, and I am not sure that an MS would be any different unless it was in engineering or CSCI. Of course, my undergrad degree was a BA instead of a BS, but there was very little difference between the two degrees, especially if one considered all of the physics classes I took.

Also, maybe I am experiencing the low value of a degree from a State University when I am not in that state, but when I went to college in Minnesota I did not think I would be condemned to live there forever.

[raccoon]

55. Your experience sounds a lot like mine.

I believe some employers held my MS against me, too. If I got job-hunting again I may not mention that either.

My undergrad was as BA in English. That and $1.00 will buy you a cup of coffee. That was a long time ago when I got the degree, and I didn't know any better. If I had it to do over I'd get a degree in one of the sciences.

[RedCloud]

5. Regrets? I've had a few

[Heidi]

13. But you did it your way, right?

:hug: RedCloud. :hi:

[RedCloud]

21. Or took the highway! Maybe it wasn't my way after all!

:loveya: Howdy Heidi :hi:

And sadly, Heidi, the time warp is again calling me. :cry: Should be fixed this time next week though...

[Heidi]

36. I'm a dork.

I don't understand about the time warp, but I sure do wish you were a DU Nighthawk. :cry:

[kick-ass-bob]

6. No.

What's the point? If people would live in the present instead of dwelling on the past, they would be a whole lot happier, in general.

[hfojvt]

32. that is so wrong

What are you talking about?

Do you imagine that all the people can live for today?
I say you are a dreamer.

That is like an unexamined life, and when the present sucks dogs, and seemingly nothing can be done about it, it is nice to remember past triumphs and analyze past mistakes. Like a analyzed chess game, it is not just about kicking yourself, but about being able to avoid past mistakes.

[Hugin]

8. Not yet...

But, I'm working on it!

[RandomKoolzip]

14. I regret overeating as a youngster.

Still hard to kick this habit.

I also regret killing that homeless man behind the dumpst-OH NO, WAS THAT OUT LOUD?!

[kick-ass-bob]

18. no, you only typed it.

you're OK.

:yoiks:

[RandomKoolzip]

20. Phew!

Anyway, he had it coming. Did you see the way he was dressed?!

[GOPisEvil]

19. I saw NOTHING!

[anarch]

29. I regret overeating about 10 minutes ago

Ugh. I can't believe I ate the whole thing. :puke:

[hfojvt]

22. Just a few

1. not engaging the two women who were interested in me when I was younger.
2. not keeping my good paying job for five or six years and saving a ton of money like I originally planned
3. not staying in grad school and getting my PhD
4. closing my bookstore when the competition went out of business about a year later (if I had only known that would happen)
5. not pursuing the school teacher who was my 2nd date ever
6. moving to Iowa and buying real estate there on which I lost a fu$%load of money

I am sure I could find a few more. I also kinda regret the seven years and money wasted on my college degrees, although that kinda contradicts #3. But given an alternate outlook, I coulda stayed at home and worked for those five years and then started a bookstore in my hometown from the money saved on tuition.

[momophile]

23. I regret that I didn't start...

working on my thesis earlier 'cause now I have to get on it! And I will learn from this should I ever get another advanced degree again (ha! like bloody hell!).

[hfojvt]

25. "Creativity is not something you can turn on and off like a faucet."

"You have to be in the right mood."
"And what mood is that?"
"Last-minute panic."

[kick-ass-bob]

28. :-D

I love that!

[momophile]

31. oh so true!

If I thought that I could write it all the night before it's due, I would. Unfortunately, this requires more planning and thinking.

[Err]

33. Where is that quote from?

I like it. It describes what I'm going through right now, with finals on the way and all.

[hfojvt]

35. Everything I need to know, I learned

from Calvin and Hobbes. :D

[Err]

37. Calvin and Hobbes...

I should've known. :)

Thanks. :hi:

[raccoon]

26. Yes. Most of them relating to jobs/vocational choices.

They don't bother me now as much as they used to, thank goodness.

Some posters here have said things such as, "Why have regrets? you can't go back and change anything."

And that's certainly true. I believe that when someone perceives that a choice significantly affected the course of his/her life--and not for the better--is when regrets can really bother you.

[LSK]

30. yeah, that i didnt buy Yahoo! stock when it went on the market

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No major regrets here.

[Horus45]

34. Yes, way too many to list, but my biggest regret...

was getting married to that lying b**ch ex-wife of mine.

[VelmaD]

38. Lots...

mostly they have to do with not being open with people about how I feel. Of course a lot also have to do with being open with people about how I feel. I should maybe just avoid people. :)

[Patiod]

39. Heads up, college students

One of my biggest regrets is not taking a semester in Europe when it was offered at the same price as a semester at my home college. My friends have seen Europe back when it was affordable (and when tolerance for shabby accommodation and lots of cheap food was much higher!)

[RetroLounge]

40. If you don't, you haven't lived

RL

[Heidi]

48. I disagree.

You don't think it's possible to live a full life without incurring regret of some sort? :shrug:

[johnnie]

41. Sure

Regretting something is one thing and dwelling on those regrets is another thing. It's hard for me to think that someone would not have even one regret.

Saying something like "I should have learned to play piano" is a regret, drinking yourself into a stupor every night of your life because you didn't learn to play piano is dwelling.

With that said, I do have some regrets but I don't toss and turn at night over them.

[Bridget Burke]

62. And you could still learn to play the piano....

Assuming your vision and hearing are correctible & you still have ten fingers.

Perhaps you won't have a concert career, but you'll have fun torturing the cats!

[u4ic]

42. Yes

a number of minor ones, and one major one.

[RevCheesehead]

43. No regrets, no expectations.

They seem to go hand-in-hand.

[NMMNG]

44. Yes.

I try to stop regretting things that cannot be changed, as it does no good. However I inevitably fall back into the cycle from time to time.

[Omphaloskepsis]

47. Pretty much everything...

-I fucked up with the love of my life
-I fucked up the best job ever
-I fucked up school
-I fucked up with my family
-I fucked up my body

But, I don't really care.. The past can't be re-done.. All I can do is learn from my mistakes and try not to repeat them..

[Missy Vixen]

50. I should have worked harder when I was in school

On the whole, though, I tried to go "the road less taken," and it's worked well for me. I have a wonderful life, and I am blessed beyond my wildest dreams.

Julie

[ForrestGump]

51. Yeah. A few that really count. But I'm hoping to collect no more of 'em

Regrets
I've had a few
But then again
Too few to mention

[wildhorses]

52. way too many but, it was fun making them

[Redstone]

54. Nah.

Redstone

[ThatsMyBarack]

58. Plenty. Where to begin....

1. Not being diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome 'til I was 17, and not having the "right" therapy to deal with it 'til I was in my 30s.

2. Coming down with anorexia when I was 15. I got caught up in the myth that I couldn't have any friends unless I was as thin as a sheet of paper. As it turned out, I lost friends from beins so constantly obsessed with food, dieting, and my weight.

3. Eighth grade: Not talking more about how badly I was being teased and tormented by the entire school ever single day, and on the streets outside of school. My best friend in 6th grade had become my worst enemy in 8th. I tried talking to my mom about it, but she always suggested I brought it on myself, because of the shy introvert I was.

[hunter]

67. Shudder. Middle School and High School were hell for me.

I was way out in left field staring at my feet happily watching the daisies grow and random people would come by and beat me up. It was just like that -- I had no idea what was going on. Whenever I tried to be social I became a pest and people would be very cruel to me.

In college I connected up with people who looked out for me (although a few of them were actually using me :( ) which gave me an opportunity to sort myself out. I don't carry any regrets from those times. I know very well I hurt people with my cluelessness, but that's simply who I was.

It took a long time, but I learned to be comfortable with myself, and once I could do that I was able to reach out and touch other people.

[datasuspect]

59. the funny thing about regret

is that it's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done.

and by the way, when you see your mother

make sure and tell her i said, SATAN SATAN SATAN!!!!

[bertha katzenengel]

60. Egrets

I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention . . .

[loudestchick]

61. no major regrets. but alot of littele ones...mostly involving sex.

[Serial Mom]

63. I like this saying I found a few years ago

A man is not old until his regrets take the place of dreams.
John Barrymore

Keep On Dreaming!

[Strong Atheist]

64. Unfortunately, Yes.

:(

I wish that I had been more of a success while my dad was still alive, instead of being such a loser.:( :( :(


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[CaliforniaPeggy]

65. Well, no......

I've made more than my share of mistakes.......

But regret to me, is spinning my wheels. I try instead to learn what I can from my mistakes, and then move forward......

Life is too short to live with regret, IMHO.....



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