How would you feel (a scenario)

[Deja Q]

You've been with your lover for a few months, or perhaps years.

Perhaps you have had children together.

Your lover comes to you saying he/she is homosexual and wants to break up/divorce.

How do you feel? (Poll for anonymity but feel free to comment, inquiring mind wants to know...)

[Rowdyboy]

1. We've been together 15 years....

There's no way he could be gay...We're both guys!

[Nikia]

2. I would be devestated

I would wonder if everything in our relatiosnship was a lie and if it wasn't, why he wouldn't want to stay with me especially if we had a child together. On the other hand, a particuliar teacher at my high school had a homosexual husband whose lover lived with them. Although that might seem like a good compromise, that would probably be rather hurtful as well.
As for my actual reality, I asked my husband several times before we got married if he was homosexaul at all and he denied it everytime. He is tolerant and accepting to homosexuality with the deaths of two of his homosexual friends by suicide as a big factor in his acceptance. Even if he is lying, with how he responds to me, he would be bi at the most. If he were leaving me for another man, I'd be equally devestated as if he were leaving me for another woman.

[Rowdyboy]

3. I've had a couple of women say it would be more devastating

because they could compete with another woman, but not with a man. Don't know how true it is generally.