Great DU conversationalists: How did you master your craft?

[BlueIris]

Throughout the last year, I have been working to build and refine my conversational skills. It seems as if I used to have them, sort of, but they've been paired down by, well, having to deal with assholes as a part of my daily life for a long, long time. This self-improvement activity is designed to help me be a better, more successful individual, as well as a better activist (to quote a great American, having the skill and grace to hold meaninful conversations is an essential part of being an effective contributor to the Democratic Party). As part of my quest, I have been attempting to align myself with excellent conversationalists, and read up on the advice given to them by experts. Some books I've explored include Deborah Fine's "The Fine Art of Small Talk," Susan RoAnne's "How to Work a Room," and James A. Morris' "The Art of Conversation." If any DUers wanted to suggest additional books, web pages or other resources, I would love that, although this thread is open to comments from anyone who considers him or herself a great conversationalist and wants to share histories, experiences, and tips.

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1. This is rather ironic, wouldn't you say?

[BlueIris]

2. Nice.

Anyone else?

[Lady President]

3. Read the paper

While I wouldn't consider myself a great conversationalist, I can talk to almost anyone. I grew up in family where we sat around the table every night and talked about our day, current events, and life, in general. Also, I'm dyslexic, so writing a message is here is very difficult for me, but I would happily talk to anyone.

My advice is simple-- read the entire paper every day. To be a good conversationalist you must have some basic knowledge in a wide range of areas. Once you have that knowledge base, then you can ask other people thoughtful, open-ended questions which is the real key. You don't want to give a lecture, but have an interchange of ideas.

If reading books makes you more comfortable, then certainly continue. I would prefer an average conversation with a genuine person, rather than have chapter 4 tested on me. (In other words, be yourself. If you have the desire to talk to people, then you're already set.)

[BlueJazz]

4. I've been watching "Deadwood" on HBO.

I greatly enjoy the conversations and script...but alas..I'm not so sure I retain the verbal intricacies and colors....