An apology from Salinen

[salinen]

I feel I must apologize for some of my latest threads. Actually "Salinen" is both my husband and I. I being the person who has been a little over the top lately. My life has been a roller coaster of emotions lately, and I've displayed that here. I think it's a combination of frustration over bushco. and my degrading relationship with my mother. She pushes all my worst buttons with her insulting behavior towards me, and I've used this forum to vent at you. She lives a life of priveledge, shopping is her only passion, and showing off her wealth is her goal. She belittles everyone beneath her, like that pissed off rich lady that goes into stores just to intimadate the help. And I'm sorry that I came here to let my anger fly. I feel that sometimes you fine people are my only friends. I have become a hermit and that's probably not good. Yesterday I visited a psychiatrist, and he perscribed some meds to relax me. I am banishing myself from du until I can be more reasonable. So my husband will be the only salinen posting and he is the calm type (although still very angry at bushco.) I will continue to read posts here because I respect all of you and want to keep informed. Thanks.

[Jacobin]

1. Stay cool and

come back soon!!

Everyone here gets torqued up a bit from time to time.

[eissa]

2. Take care of yourself

Bad mothers are the worst! Get well and don't worry -- bushco will be gone next year!

[tom_paine]

3. I guess I owe you an apology, too, salinen(s)

It's just that many Freeps come in here making "over-the-top" statements like wishing ill for the soldiers in Iraq or saying liberals are superior in attempts to get people to agree with them, thus making DU look stupid and providing cannon fodder for the members of the Party-Loyal Right-Wing Sub-Media who troll and post here sometimes.

DU has wound up in such Bushevik Pravda as Limbaugh, Hannity and Sullivan in this way. Because of this I am sometimes too itchy on the trigger.

(although, to be fair, somtimes the "over-the-top posts come from DUers themselves)

Anyway, I don't know whether it was you or your husband whom I pelted with a bellicose barrage.

But I do apologize to the both of you.

[salinen]

8. Thank you

Tom. My eyes are clouding up.

[DUreader]

4. I say keep Posting!

We can take it.

we are all pissed off and frustrated

[prolesunited]

5. Why don't you just create your own identity

and post under your screen name to avoid any confusion? There are a number of couples who post here but they each have their own screen names.

Why banish yourself from participating?

Hope you feel better soon. A lot of us are under stress these days, so you're not alone.

[Cleita]

6. Just a word of advice about mom.

I don't know why some mothers like to push the anger buttons on their grown children but they do. Maybe someday when you are feeling mellow sit her down someplace where there aren't any sharp objects around, and where there is a witness. They usually don't like to show their true colors around witnesses.

Make sure she has the lowest chair in the room against a wall or in a corner. You stand up and explain to her that you love her and that you would like to have an adult relationship with her in the future. After all you are a married woman and no longer a child, but her words (whatever she says to rile you) cause you grief and are causing problems in your life because of the anger they cause. Tell her you will have to sever any relationship with her if she doesn't stop doing it.

If she is willing to have a reasonable conversation with you to hammer out these problems then that's good. Don't let the witness leave though even though she requests it. If she can't meet you on your terms then leave the room and tell her when she is ready to have an adult relationship with you, you will make the effort to hammer a relationship with her. Until then, you don't want to have anything to do with her and stick to your guns. You'll find your life is much better without her in it at this point.

I know. I didn't talk to my mother for eighteen months until she called me one day to ask how I was and we went from there. Things were much better until she died. She didn't know she was being such a thorn in my life and it took her all those months of soul searching to realize it.

[salinen]

10. Thanks

Cleita. I'm not afraid to sever all ties with Mom, but I have a little brother and sister who I adore. My sister is a very bright 15, and my mother will only allow her to read teen fashion magazines and the bible. My parents are almost legendary is our community as being corrupt. They will ruin lives without remorse to get the goods they desire. It is almost surreal. They are not your garden variety bad guys.

[Cleita]

11. You don't have to sever relationships with your siblings,

just your parents. Do it for your own peace of mind until you can deal with them objectively and dispassionately in spite of your disgust for them. You see you are being manipulated at a very emotional level. If you are seeking therapy the psychiatrist will be able to walk you through these steps.

[BiggJawn]

7. I feel your "Bushco Frustration"....

I get it, my girlfriend gets it, nobody else we know gets it...
Take care of yourself first and deal with us later!

[wryter2000]

9. I guess I missed it

So, no need to apologize to me. Sounds like you have things under control, though. Why not stick around. I would recommend two different screen names if there are two of you posting.

[salinen]

12. I feel so much better

now. Thanks for listening. Thanksgiving came a day early this year.

[nini]

13. here's a hug

:hug:


hang in there.. you shouldn't leave DU as most people here are understanding and will let you vent - just let us know you need to!