Where are single people most likely to find someone?

[Deja Q]

Just curious.

[grannylib]

1. had to vote grocery store, since I met my hubby in one...

a convenience store, really, but that was as close as I could get on the poll since there was no "other!"

[Maple]

2. Other

Online.

[Demobrat]

3. Seems like everybody I know met their spouse

at work. Maybe that's because nobody else can tolerate people in advertising, I don't know.

[HawkerHurricane]

4. Other

Bus stop. But don't tell her mom, she thinks I was a night school student.

[fairfaxvadem]

5. I wish I knew!!

I can't bring myself to do the online thing or answer an ad from the back of Washingtonian magazine.

Most of my girlfriends met their spouses at work or college. Most of the folks in my evening law classes are a lot younger than I or if they are not, well, let's just say I already know Mr. Right isn't among them. I was at the same large employer for 8 years and Mr. Right didn't work there either.

Thought I'd met someone decent through some political activity, but as it turns out, once again, I was wrong.

I think my man radar is seriously broken.

[HEyHEY]

6. What about the drunk tank?

:-)

[SmileyBoy]

7. I'm already happily involved, thank you. I LOVE YOU, Mr. Right Hand!!!

Oh, you are a filthy whore!!! You LIKE to be naughty, don't you???

OK, I'm a pathetic loner. Sue me, already.:crazy:

[Deja Q]

9. aka Mayor Adam West, of course!

:evilgrin:

Now now, I'm far more pathetic than you, and you're not pathetic! But that doesn't mean I'm not! :-) You're an extrovert in the real world! I'm so introverted, I can't even talk to the rock I crawled under! :D When I go to parties, I can't even make conversation with the potted plant in the corner! And that's if I'm ever invited to a party! :7 (I'm like Reginald Barclay, except I lack the charm...)

[SmileyBoy]

12. It's not exactly like that. I'm comfortable around guys...

...and I hang out with my guy friends a lot, and have no trouble around them. But with females, it's a different story. I can't speak more than a sentence to a girl for the first time without having to piss my pants. For many years, I used to think I might be gay, but I have the physical attraction towards females, so that's not it. It's just an extremely profoundly severe aversion towards socializing with women on a casual basis.

[JohnKleeb]

17. Youre an Aspie just like me man

I never thought I was gay though. :hi: thanks for bringing family guy back lol. Oh and I thought I was bad, I dont piss in my pants. BTW me and you need girls dude, :shrug: come to me cutie where ever thou may be lol.

[bratcatinok]

8. Other

He's the Maytag man and since I had bought a used refrigerator when I moved into my rental house, he came out and fixed it when the thermostat went out 7 days after I bought it.

As he was leaving my house he asked me if I liked Chinese food and I told him I did. I had to wait 4 months before I was taken out for Chinese but it was well worth the wait!

We ate Chinese in March '01 and will get married sometime around after the new year.

[pasadenaboy]

10. church is great

if that's your kinda thing.

[Deja Q]

11. Oh, I tried a GLBT friendly church...

And was hit on...

By people over the age of 50, looking for a good time. (which isn't bad, but if I do pre-marital, it's going to be with someone with even a slight amount of meaningfulness involved.)

A few around the age of 20 stared and made comments and laughed.

Later, they made a sermon which catered to the right wing. So I've decided not to go back. I know, early on, they made some statements and prayers that Bush would do the right thing, but I sure as heck didn't suspect they SUPPORTED right wing ideology.

But it's been a couple of years since. I'm older, wiser, far more left-wing as well and damn proud of it. :D

[mac56]

23. church, by all means

Even if - especially if - that's not your kinda thing. It just works out that way.

[Birthmark]

13. The last place they look, silly!

[SOteric]

14. Definitely "Other"

I've never met any of the guys that were important in my life in the places you list.

I've met them in night classes in subjects where we share an interest, in a gym, at parties of mutual friends, and baseball games, at company picnics, in the bank, in the parking garage when my car broke down, etc.

I know a guy who's constantly complaining that at 41 he can never meet anyone to date. (He's hetero, but the principle still applies). The thing is, he's constantly invited to social events where he gets to meet a lot of people. But his focus is very narrow. He only hit it off with some guys, so he doesn't think it was successful. He only met one woman and she was married, so it wasn't successful. But guys and married women have sisters, and cousins and best friends. If you find someone interesting, it behooves the single individual to further the friendship.

If you wait until you find a guy to have a relationship with before you start living a life and doing the things you enjoy, you won't find him.

If you live a life and do the things you enjoy, you'll very likely meet a guy with whom you could have a relationship.

Volunteer for a political campaign.

Take a night course in something like photography, painting, writing the great American novel, -whatever you like. Learn to cook Thai like a native. Join a wine fancier's club and go to wine tastings. What do you love? - Go do it. Chances are excellent you'll make some friends who also love it, and if one of them isn't Mr. Right, he might be Mr. Right's brother, or best friend from school.

[GOPisEvil]

15. That is excellent advice.

Although, I met my date for this evening on Yahoo Personals. :shrug:

[SOteric]

21. If it turns into something wonderful,

then who cares if it didn't fit the plan?

[GOPisEvil]

22. Exactly. In the end, it just happens to be how we met.

Heck, we both golf, we could have met there. We are both state employees - we could have met that way. It just so happens that this is how it happened.

:-) <--- Me, not complaining.

[fortyfeetunder]

25. Precisely...get a life first

There are more things to do in life that don't require the opposite sex for fulfillment. Sports, music, art, travel, there are so many things out there!!

If ever single again, I'd stay that way indefinitely and take up where I left off before I met Mr. FFU.

[populistmom]

16. There's a lot to be said about being open and positive

I'm in a bit of a complex place in my life, but I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, but I also find I attract people easily. (I've had two people say they'd ask me out if I wasn't married in the past month.) I'm decent looking, but no perfect super model person either, but I do talk to people in a way that's positive and open. I listen and respond to them. I'm not afraid to be myself.
I've seen your picture, HypnoToad and you put yourself down a lot, but as a hetero-woman, I think you're a good looking guy. I can't help but think there would be plenty of gay men that would feel the same way. Live your life, have fun, be open and nice, and they will come to you.

[bratcatinok]

18. Be open!

I wasn't looking for anyone when I met my Maytag repair man and he wouldn't have been someone I'd have been interested in if I wasn't open to all possibilities.

After all, he was there to service my refrigerator and as such was kind of invisible as far as getting to know someone. Don't get me wrong, I'm always friendly with service people simply because I've been there, done that.

If I had been writing a personal ad and listing my criteria, he wouldn't have made the bill. I went to college, he took his GED. I'm 51, he's 45. I'm big city born and bred, he's always lived in a small, rural town. I like rock n roll, he likes country. I enjoy fine dining, he wolfs his food down. Hopefully you get my drift!

In being open and exploring a relationship with him it turns out we have core values that match. We also have found things we like to do together.

The thing is, you never know when, where, how or who 'they' might be and if you close yourself off you may be overlooking the person who's perfect for you.

[Kat45]

19. I wish I knew because I'm single and haven't found anybody yet.

And I'm in my forties. Just about everyone I meet is married, and that even includes people in their twenties. (I get the impression kids are marrying earlier these days.)

For the most part, none of the usual things have ever worked for me (except that I did meet my last boyfriend in a bar). I took adult ed classes and didn't meet anyone; didn't even make friends with anyone. I worked on a political campaign, and most of the folks I met were either women or gay men. I did volunteer work, and the other volunteers were women or Greek seminarians. I've never even dated anyone I met at work. I recently worked a temp job in a place with a lot of good looking men, but they were ALL married. Most of my friends are married and/or live out of state. I almost never get invited to parties. Not one friend or acquaintance of mine has EVER introduced me to anyone.

So I'd also like to know the answer to your question.

[Rabrrrrrr]

20. Wherever they are at any given moment!

That's where opportunity will knock.

[HEyHEY]

24. Only one vote for school?

Jeez if it wasn't for school I'd be unaware of women

[JohnKleeb]

28. I guess the kids are all asleep

*has fake id on him so he aint a kid tonight* lol I guess the others my age are sleeping. I think school is a great place honestly, oh and through friends too is a good one too, thats how I met these two girls I know, lol no I aint dating em.

[Deja Q]

31. My inclusion of 'school'

was originally about high school/college kids for high school/college kids. You know, people who marry their 'high school sweetheart' and the other sweet sappy sap you'd find every other week on "The Brady Bunch"?

Sick thoughts of Michaelina Jackson NEVER entered my mind. Until now. :evilgrin:

[Piperay]

26. Bar...

well actually it was a nightclub disco but falls under the bar category, been together ever since. :loveya:

[Dogmudgeon]

27. They DON'T

They remain alone, and lonely, for the rest of their miserable lives, seeking the love and beauty that everyone else is heir to, but never finding it, watching their friends' and siblings' marriages grow in depth and beauty, and the children grow up cute and handsome, while they themselves exist in a stasis of unfecundity and isolated despair, becoming ever more bitter and twisted, until Death mercifully terminates the endless, agonizing longing they suffer from so deeply inside.

Oh, wait a minute. That's just me.

My bad!

--bkl
Tra-la-la

[REP]

29. I Ran An Ad in the Paper

He was lucky caller #2. We've been together 12 years.

I met my ex while waiting in line at the local arthouse theater. Oh how I wish I'd followed through on my first instinct to tell him to piss off!

[MissMillie]

30. fixed up by friends

that's where all my married friends met their spouses....

[mlawson]

32. HypnoToad, do you know of any place (bar) that features

trivia games?? There is a nationwide bar/pub satellite network called "NTN". You can play this trivia game in many public houses, and it is a guaranteed ice breaker!!! I met ALL the close friends I have now, right in my neighborhood brewpub, playing that game. Otherwise, I tend to just SIT there and say virtually nothing, which I did for years, until the pub owner subscribed to NTN.

Also, some watering holes have team trivia once a week. We have "Quizzo" at Jack of the Wood here in Asheville. I am co-captain of our team and we play every Monday night at 8. And we *almost* always win, as well.

[rbnyc]

33. Anywhere, but only when you're not looking. (nt)

[arwalden]

34. Met My Partner At A Funeral

... so take my advice. Start cruising funerals.

-- Allen

[T_i_B]

35. Once pulled on the London Underground

but mostly it's bars, clubs & gigs.