My little sister called the cops to file a complaint about her ex

[HEyHEY]

She has answering machine messages of him threatening a new guy she's seeing. So, he's not to have any contact with her period. Says the cops. He best not, because the cops in my town are good cops and won't put up with shit from a scumbag like this...especially since my family all put together probably knows the whole force.

I feel wierd, I went to high school with this guy and back then he seemed okay. In fact he was known as the most friendly guy on campus. So, I was happy when I found out they were dating....when my folks asked me about him I said he was a good guy.

Now I find out he threw his last girlfriend new boyfriend through a second story window...

This creep best back off.

[GOPisEvil]

1. Good for her!

I hope she can rid herself of him.

[Guaranteed]

2. Yeah, with the guy's history, you might want to

get those friends together, like you were saying, and pay him a visit. At first I thought you might have been overreacting, but, he seems like the kind of guy to be worried about. Definitely show him it's not in his best interest.

[HEyHEY]

3. yeah I may call my future brother in law

He's a big bad mofo and adores my little sis...I think a visit might be a good idea.

[Divernan]

5. Cops yes; vigilante justice - will make things worse.

Remember me? I'm the one who on this morning's post who suggested you get in touch with the cops and get a Protection From Abuse order? I'm glad to hear your siser's OK and was willing to contact the cops. Also glad to hear the cops will get on his case. However, you could just inflame the whole situation and greatly prolong the ugliness, and escalate the ex's obsessions if you & your sister's guy confront the ex. You already know the ex has a history of violence. I don't know the Canadian law, but in the US, you would open yourself up for charges filed by the ex for harrassment at best, and assault at worst. Îs this worth jail time for you? You and her boyfriend can't protect your sister if you're in jail. Stay cool.

[HEyHEY]

6. It just pisses me off so much

I have thought about it possibly inflaming the situation though...I don't know

[Booberdawg]

10. You really haven't been yourself lately

Stay cool. Keep a level head. Don't get testosterone and get yourself in trouble.

[HEyHEY]

11. grrrr!

Me want beer, and violence....I liek ...boobies

[Guaranteed]

13. Dude...

I understand the escalation argument, but this guy needs to have his testosterone countered-balanced by someone else's. A little fear of bodily harm never hurt anyone that was threatening someone without defense of their own.

Cops are great and all, but if there's any question in your mind about your sister's safety, you need to take care of the problem yourself. If you know he won't do anything, fine, let it be (which is what I had figured at first). But this guy throws people out of windows. He's obviously not afraid of cops. He NEEDS an ASS-BEATING- for his own good, even.

Sorry to all those advocating peace. I'm usually with you.

[HEyHEY]

14. well....the cops just were contacted today....

So I'll wait and see if anything else happens. I've calmed down a bit..I can get jumpy and have a temper. But I'll see what happens. If anything does though....he better watch it

[Cooley Hurd]

16. Since the cops are now involved...

...taking matters into your own hands wouldn't be wise. The last thing you need is for this bozo to have you arrested for harassment, which would hurt your sister's case against him.

[SaddenedDem]

15. However....

Let one speak from experience when I say that piece of paper signed by the judge is useless when the ex comes through the door with violence on the agenda.

A "talk" with the jerk is definitely in order. Abusers rely on separating their victim from the family members. Letting him know you are around and prepared to act is important.

[Swede]

4. When two of my closest friends were breaking up,

the guy wanted me to choose,his friendship or hers. I wouldn't choose,so we became enemies. Death threats,yelling confrontations,he even poured coke in my gas tank. He threatened her co-workers,her family,it got ugly. Once the cops got involved he backed off. He now lives on skid row,skinny as hell,looks like shit. Funny thing is I hardly see her.

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. I am very glad to see that she has taken this step.

It saved me a lot of trouble when my ex came a calling last year. Good luck to her and I hope her troubles with this guy are soon over. :)

[HEyHEY]

8. Luckily he isn't a citizen

So the thought of being deported may further keep him from ebing a creep.

[displacedtexan]

9. Glad She Got Home Safely!

seriously, insist that she answer her phone when you call!

[HEyHEY]

12. I think it's alos that she has turned it off because of his calling