I've got an issue

[windy252]

I hope this is the right forum. A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine who I hadn't heard from in a long time broke up with his boyfriend because he had been bitten by him. He also said that his boyfriend had been evicted from the previous apartment for not paying his rent and that he wasn't allowed to do things he liked like watch news or listen to any music but Reba McEntire or depressing country. I turned my back for about one week and he was back together with him and is wanting to participate in a civil union with him this coming August (our bigot amendment passed here in MO with around 70%, I was in the 30% that voted against it). His boyfriend still doesn't let him watch news and this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. Is there any way to advise him of this without sounding like I'm jealous?

[Floogeldy]

1. There is nothing you can do.

Do not concern yourself with it.

[crispini]

2. Well, you just have to carefully pick your time and place,

and calmly tell your friend that you don't think the boyfriend is right for them. Be cool, be collected, have a few cogent reasons to toss out, and then drop it, don't drag it on and on. And expect your friend to totally ignore your advice, because that's kind of what happens in these situations.

[bigwillq]

3. Don't get involved.

If you haven't heard from him in a long time, then there's no reason for you to get involved.
He's a big boy and should be able to make his own decisions.
You can't change the situation for your friend. Only he can.