It's time to play: narcissist or NOT!

[Writer]

So there's this guy that I am itching to talk about here on DU.

Okay, maybe I'm crazy... but here, lemme explain the chain of events that I'm pondering.

So I am taking a class with this guy. We are working in a group together with another person. At first he seems nice so we chat about politics, etc. I realized during our conversations that he's a bit smug, but it's not much of a big deal.

About a month into the semester he starts to change. He began speaking to me in a condescending tone, rolled his eyes at me a few times, and began remarking on superficial aspects of my appearance.

So I treated him coldly, unemotionally in return. I avoided lengthy conversations with him and stuck only to our project. He began "befriending" the third member of our group, and in turn, they both retreated from me.

After a couple of weeks, he began warming up to me, but quite frankly I don't trust him anymore. He also slips in subtle, bragadocious comments about himself... "I'm going to speak to the head of XXX..."

I have dealt with narcissism before, albeit in much more overt forms. This guys seems to have a few tendencies. His odd hot-cold-hot change in personality leads me to believe that he might be.

So, ladies and germs... is he a narcissist or NOT?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

1. Everyone has narcissistic tendencies to a degree

but yeah...that sounds a bit malignant...the real clue will be if you acknowledge it and he acts as though he has no idea why you would feel that way

[Writer]

3. The interesting thing is once I started getting cold he gave me less...

reason to really CONFRONT him, which is what I'd prefer doing. "C'mon, bitch"... know what I mean?

[Whoa_Nelly]

2. Sounds more like a manipulator

IMO, narcissism kinda goes along with that... :shrug:



Ask him if he wants to be "The Decider". :rofl:

[Writer]

4. Oooh... fill me in on the reference!

"The Decider"

Gotta know!

[Whoa_Nelly]

5. Why...it's what Chimpy McFuckwad called himself today!

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=102x2233340

[Writer]

6. King of the Narcissists!

That man is the Maligno-in-Chief!

:rofl:

THE DECIDER!

Wait wasn't that a song by Destiny's Child?

I'm a DECIDER(What?)
I'm not gon give up (What?)
I'm not gon stop (What?)
I'm gon work harder (What?)

It's HARRRRRD WORK to be a Decider!

:rofl:

[Writer]

7. Kick.

Would anyone else like to play?

[gkdmaths]

8. he sounds more like

well...me. Sure, Ive got an ego, and I think that I've exceeded in accomplishing every goal Ive set for myself (hey, I'm just sayin'). The point is: hell, for a guy who was told in high school that all we was going to do in life was "pump gas", I'm pretty damned proud of myself.

okay, back to the point. Sometimes, I slip and realize that i might be paying a little too much attention to myself and clam up, all embarrassed. I shut up and try to behave, but then I get comfortable and do it again.

Now, I consciously know how to act, but sometimes the ego just lets loose, and I gotta control that.

so what if he's a little into himself? It sounds to me like he is, like me, trying to recognize his own insecurities and become a better person, more self-actualized so that he doesnt necessarily feel the need to be self-important?

okay, Ive shared enough about myself. :blush:

SEE!!!!! I just did it. Im shutting up now.

my $0.02

on edit: or, hes a complete ass. there's always that.

[Writer]

9. Well ego is one thing... flip-flopping between asshole and not-asshole

is another.

That's, in a word... psycho.

[NMDemDist2]

10. "or, hes a complete ass. there's always that."

that gets my vote :shrug:

[gkdmaths]

11. perhaps youre right.

it was more of a chance to reflect upon MYSELF!

:evilgrin:

its all about the opportunity!

[Writer]

12. Feel better after basking in your sense of self-importance?

Oh exalted fellow poster, better than ALL in EVERY WAY??? ;) ;) ;)

[gkdmaths]

13. Nope. absolutely not.

absolutely not. Just better than a few very influential people in my past thought I could be.

90% of the time I feel significantly inferior to most people.

Honestly.

[Writer]

14. You know I've had that experience, too...

I've also been told that I was too attractive (read: unintelligent) to be successful in my industry. I beat that person out for a managerial job after we all got laid off.

I was told in second grade that I was retarded. I am an honors graduate from the Univ. of Texas and am finishing her Master's.

Even my sister has dished resentment at me. When I left Texas for New York City, she told me I'd regret my decision... she tossed out: "then you'll look back at all this and think 'What was I thinking?'" It ended up being one of the best decisions of my life.

Yes. I know EXACTLY what you mean. But what's nice about it is that you can look back at those assholes and smile.

I am going to look back at this asshole... and smile.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

15. well we already knew YOU were a narcissist n/t

[Skittles]

16. that boy needs a good ass-kicking

yes INDEED