I don't care what anybody says : cutting off toxic people is healthy ...

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

I just have to vent.I don't see a law where it states that just because someone is your relative that you have to put up with their BS.I am tired of putting up with BS - especially when its not my own .In two months I will finally be moving out of the house and into my own place .I am never really here - I am more at peace when I am at work .I don't eat any food in the house ,I always eat take out or I buy my own food .I feel like I am being punished because I have my own life and the toxic people are stupid and damn fucked up that they hate me because I have my stuff together and they don't .I really wish it was as easy enough as erasing them with a remote control . People tell me that I don't have furniture so I should just wait to move out - wait for what ? I need my peace ,I have a bed and lots of clothes , my computer and cell phone - thats all that I need .I have been on Paxil ( I am not ashamed ) for 2 1/2 months now and its working but it can't remove the toxic people - only I can do that and that's what I am going to do .Even though I will be living in the same city ,I don't want to have anything to do with these toxic people -I want to break free .Misery loves company and I don't want to be a part of anyone's misery .And I am so tired of being awakened for some stupid comment/question at 6 am when I just went to bed - leave me the hell alone .And I am not the Bank of CarolinaPeridot .I don't care how much money I make ,its MY money and I don't have to let you borrow any damn thing .People are so fucking stupid -I know I am agitated -FOX news is on in the background and not even that is getting under my skin ... Today better be an alright day or I might just go shell on someone ...


Thanks for letting me vent .

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. CP....

:hug:

I know that feeling, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. Only you can say for sure what is right for you. It sounds as if you are very stressed with your current arrangements. Thinking of options is a great idea. Egg crates make excellent tables and chairs.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

2. The thing is I can afford furniture ...

I just believe that I should'nt get it until I move out - other people think that since I am single and I don't have furniture that I should stay put - I don't agree but according to others , I am wrong . I think I am on the wrong planet because I am always in the minority with my thinking .

I am stressed because I want to be respected and people can't spell it . I need Aretha on line 1 quick .

[Courtesy Flush]

22. Furniture just makes it harder to move

Buy it later

[Rabrrrrrr]

3. Might wanna change the "of" to "off".

:7

But I hear you and agree absolutely - you don't have a responsibility to be with anyone if the experience is intolerable or in any sucks your energy, demeans you, or wastes your time or are, as you so perfectly and wondrously put it, toxic. Even your family, and yes, even if it's your death-bed sick parents. No responsibility whatsoever.

You're only real responsibility is to tell people who are jackoffs that your time with them isn't very fulfilling, is detrimental to who you are as a human being, and that if they don't like that then too bad, because you aren't gonna feel guilty about it, because you don't have any reason to feel guilty.

We all have a right not to have to be with toxic people, no matter what the biological relationship.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

6. Ooh thanks for the edit ! LOL I did'nt even notice it LOL .

I think in my mind " the cutting of " is right LOL . But yeah I won't feel bad because I am a person who strives to get better and I really can't deal with people who drain my positive energy . Like I said , I won't be the company to anyone's misery - its not worth it .

[Rabrrrrrr]

9. I consider the ability to ignore toxic, shitty people to be an evolution

in one's maturity.

To be able to say, "This is who I am, and you don't fit it" beyond all social bullshit that would tell us we don't have that right, is a sign that one has taken a MAJOR step in maturity.

Kudos to you!!

Welcome to the world of the truly evolved adult human beings!

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

10. Thank you thank you LOL

I deal with enough BS at the job you know and I leave it there because its not my life - but when I come home and have to deal with it , that's where I draw the line .

That's why on Memorial Day weekend , I plan on getting lost :hide:

[Sugar Smack]

4. Honey, I for one am glad you've got your head on straight.

And I'm REALLY glad to hear you're moving out of that situation. I'll bet you're really excited about that. Everything's going to change for you after that, I promise. No one will be able to scrutinize you, and you have the choice of whether to answer the door and pick up the phone. The freedom's going to make you bloom. :hi: :hug: :yourock:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

8. Yes I am really excited .

Its making me work extra hard .

[xchrom]

5. you are going to be all right in spades!

people who are really good to you make you feel that way. period.

[Strong Atheist]

7. Agreed. nt.

[MissHoneychurch]

11. You are moving out finally?

That is so good :hug:

Now repeat to yourself "Two more months, two more months". Time will pass by fast and then you are out of it. I am so happy for you.

And about the furniture ... save some money and one by one you can get yourself some nice furniture.

:pals:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

13. Guten Morgen .

It was either moving back to Germany or getting my own place . And I chose getting my own place because I need my own " base " in America LOL . Yeah I had planned on moving out months ago , not because of this particular situation , its just getting on my nerves thats all . I really hate being awaken at 6 am for stupid BS .

[MissHoneychurch]

17. You should have gone already

but I know it is hard to find something good and payable. You are doing the right thing. Amazingly you could deal with it as long as you did. I remember what you told before what is going on partly.

[Rabrrrrrr]

12. I'm also interested why you put spaces around all punctuation.

You actually don't need to do that - makes things harder to read.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

14. Fixed .

that's just the way that I type.See.

[Rabrrrrrr]

15. Well, it's certainly against every style book.

It truly does make your writing more difficult to read.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

16. Its FIXED .

Sorry.Going to bed.

[jukes]

18. *fine* for a rant...

gives it a run-on feel. sets a tempo for the emotional rush of venting.


don't bow to the style-nazis!

[matcom]

20. the enter key must be broke

:hide:

[jukes]

21. and

MY shift key (not really, just always got a cat in my lap, so i have to type 1-handed)

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

26. delete

[Spider Jerusalem]

19. And removing all the spaces doesn't help much, either.

Standard rules for punctuation: no space before punctuation marks (except for quote marks, that is), no space before OR after an em dash or ellipsis, space after comma, colon, and semicolon, full stop, query mark or exclamation mark (the last three take a double space if using a fixed-width font like Courier instead of a proportional font like Helvetica or Palatino, and, obviously, if there's an end quote the spacing comes after and not before).

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

25. Ok I admit I am not the best person in typing posts ...

maybe thats just another reason why I should cease posting and if my other posts were difficult to read , sorry.Now was the punctuation right that time ? Probably not and again I am not perfect. Sorry if my original post was difficult before and after the edit.Bye.

[Courtesy Flush]

23. There was a popular article recently

I wish I had bookmarked it. It had to do with finding success and happiness. One of the keys was to avoid toxic people. That really rang true with me. I had similar issues in my family, and I moved out in 1977 at age 17 and never moved back. I like them just fine now... from a distance.

I've also had toxic friends. I don't make friends easily, and that bothers me, but I'd rather have no friends than be subjected to people who unload all their negativity on me every time they see me. I just broke all ties with them.

Get out now!

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

27. I don't have friends either.

I've been that way since HS because its been one backstab after another.Whenever I let someone get close to me,here comes the storm.

[wildhorses]

24. ................

:hug::loveya::hug:

[AbsoluteArmorer]

28. it's the best thing for you

Congratulations! You figured out the correct process for pursuing what's right for you. It is all about the company you keep. Those who are around you in your daily life influences your decisions and outcomes. I've found this out 15 years ago myself. You're on the right track and I wish you the best for it shall happen for you!!