My husband is leaving. I am so sad.

[debbierlus]

Just needed to dump. Sorry.

[NMDemDist2]

1. oh Debbie

that just stinks, I'm so sorry

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

2. Never be sorry!!

Trust me i feeel your pain
:grouphug:

[Mutley]

3. Sorry!

:hug:

[debbierlus]

7. I am trying to be strong

It is hard. I am letting him go because he seems really unhappy. This is so hard.

[Mutley]

17. It'll get better.

:hug:

[Road Scholar]

4. Thanks for sharing. damn! You don't have enough to do? LOL

[LeftyMom]

5. Don't be sorry, we're here if you need us

:hug:

[debbierlus]

8. I've lived through heartbreak before

I was just hoping I wouldn't have to again.

[bigwillq]

6. .....

:hug:

[wain]

9. Very sad for you

I did that too. Lasted one day. Over twenty years ago. Quickly realized what a jerk I was. So there was a limit to my stupidity.

Hoping the best for you.


:hug:

[debbierlus]

10. I think he needs more then a day

I don't think he is a jerk. I think he is lost, and trapped within himself. I have become the source of the blame for it. I am not perfect, but I try. The only loving thing to do is let him go, and let him wrestle his demons without the option of having a scapegoat.

I am not angry. I am sad. And, I am scared.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. My dear debbierlus......

:hug:

I am so sorry.....the loss of love is never easy.....

I hope that a brighter tomorrow is coming for you......

[debbierlus]

13. Well, maybe I will meet a political hottie at the Dem Convention in MA

[laheina]

34. That sounds like a plan!

:hug:

[mduffy31]

12. Debbie I can sympathize

My wife walked out recently too. I know that I am still very broken by it, but with the help of friends and relatives I am get over it.

[debbierlus]

15. How long ago did that happen?

[mduffy31]

18. March

and I am still a wreck, but I am getting better, just because she is being really bitchy and spiteful.

[debbierlus]

20. Hang in there!

It's tough.

[Scout1071]

14. I'm so sorry debbierlus.

Hang in there.

[Xipe Totec]

16. May I share a personal story with you?

My sister in law was dumped by her husband when she was very young. She was left to take care of a one year old boy on her own. She just had a high school education at the time.

Nevertheless, she picked herself up, dusted herself off, and went to work as a cashier at a home improvement store.

While working there, she met somebody who was very interested in her. He courted her for years. She finally grew fond of him, they dated, and eventually married and had a second child. Her new husband adopted her first son.

My SIL continued to advance in the company, went back to school, got her college degree, and became a manager in the HR department. When the chain was acquired by a national chain, she advanced again and became regional director of HR for a fortune 500 company (I can't say which one).

While celebrating her 10th wedding anniversary in Hawaii, her second husband died of a heart attack while snorkeling. She was left alone again, had to send her kids back to the states alone and remain to claim her husband's body after the autopsy and fly back with him for burial.

A few years later she met someone else, they fell in love, married, and now have an even larger family with her children and his combined.

A few years ago, her first husband died of cancer.

She is still a regional HR director and, frankly, very well off.

Think for a moment, what her life would be like right now, if that first SOB hadn't decided she wasn't good enough for him; Would she occupy the position of power she has today?

What do you want to do with the rest of your life?

[debbierlus]

19. Thanks for sharing. I need inspiration right now

I have several things going for me that many women do not.

I own my own home (it is in my name and he has no interest in it). Granted it needs TONS of work, but it is mine.

I have a bachelors degree.

I have a steady source of income.

So, I am in a better place then many who face the same thing.

Just hard to keep perspective in the midst of the heartbreak.

Your sister sounds like an amazing woman (quite a lot of rocky times)!

[Xipe Totec]

23. She is an inspiration to me

One of the toughest, kindest women I know. As tough as my mom, and my wife.

Go easy on yourself. I know it's hard to recognize your own value when somebody just took a dump on you. But remember, this isn't about you, its about him. If he couldn't recognize the wonderful human being that you are, there's something wrong with him; not you.

:bounce:

[Deja Q]

21. My condolences.

:hug:

You will find somebody better. You found somebody once; you'll be able to do so again. :thumbsup:

[In_The_Wind]

22. I'm very sorry that you're hurting, debbierlus.

May the healing process be a gentle one for you.

[BikeWriter]

24. This really sucks, but it does get easier with time.

I've gone through it three times.

[AccessGranted]

25. Some Advice

I know how you feel. Stop and think about the things that you will miss about him and your life with him and the things that you are glad are going away when he leaves. I know it's hard, but try to think of this as a new beginning, an open door, freedom. Start right away to think of something you've really been wanting to do for you and go for it. When I was in a similar situation, to keep busy and not wallow in self-pity, I went back to school and now have a college degree along with some other credentials. That along with work and my children kept me so busy I didn't have time to be sad and by the time I did have some free time I met someone unexpectedly and we're happy. I am happier with this person than I've ever been in my entire life. Staying busy with something that is very important to you will help you get through it and come out stronger. Also, be careful not to get caught up in a rebound relationship. Take your time and "do you"! One door closes and others will open. You have the key.

[miss_american_pie]

26. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[NewJeffCT]

27. I'm sorry

As somebody who got dumped about 7 years ago, I know it's not easy. Hang in there. It will get better, though it doesn't seem like it now.

[Roon]

28. My hubby has been gone for a couple of weeks

So I know how you feel :-(

[indigo32]

29. I'm sorry

:grouphug:

[graywarrior]

30. Feel for you, babe.

Abandonment feels awful.

[Left Is Write]

31. ...

:hug:

[rustydog]

32. I know how you feel...I will get better. good thouoghts for you

[debbierlus]

33. Thanks everyone for all the kind words and support

It has been a tough night!

:hangover:

[Robeson]

35. Good thoughts coming your way, Deb....

...:thumbsup: