Pet peeve: Couples that say "we're pregnant".

[amitten]

Like the man is pregnant as well.

It just sounds freakin' ridiculous.

[Kerrytravelers]

1. Aw. He's just trying to share in the joy as much as possible.

Shame he can't have the swollen feet and aching back as well!

[amitten]

2. Well, it's usually the women who say it. I know they're trying to

make the guy feel included, but it still sounds ridiculous.

Men don't get pregnant! Couples don't get pregnant! WOMEN get pregnant! I hate that touchy-feely-overly-PC kind of crap. :eyes:

[Kerrytravelers]

3. Yeah. It does sound kinda funny now that I've said it out loud!

I never thought of it before! But, I've never been pregnant!

[Floogeldy]

5. That's interesting.

Rush Limbaugh and Tony Snow hate that "touchy-feely-overly-PC kind of crap," too.

[amitten]

6. Yes. As should we all.

Regarding every other subject though, they are completely incorrect.

But still, men don't get pregnant any more than women get boners and it sounds stupid to say either one when being perfectly serious.

[XemaSab]

20. We've been having problems with our prostate

and we have an appointment with the urologist next week.

:bounce:

[amitten]

25. Eggggggg-zacktly.

Stupid beyond belief.

[AngryAmish]

40. We ate too many hot wings last night

and we have been on the hopper all morning.

[reyd reid reed]

4. LOL

Why stop there? Give him the morning sickness...the 30 extra pounds...the baby-bladder syndrome...the heartburn...the bloating...the jabs in the ribs...the leg cramps...

We can keep the warm fuzzies and the little fluttery kicks.

Sounds fair to me.

[amitten]

7. No shit. Just say, "We're having a baby." Is that too much? Too

many syllables, maybe? Are American couples now so lazy that all they can manage is, "We're pregnant"???

[Floogeldy]

9. Silly. Men don't have babies. Only women have babies.

;)

[amitten]

11. No, both men and women parent children. But only women are

PREGNANT. It's a medical condition, for God's sake!

Next time a man incubates a living fetus within his own body, I'll be more than happy to hear him say "I'm pregnant". Until then, no, he's not!

[Floogeldy]

14. Yea

And until a man squeezes a baby out of his asshole, I'll say that only women have babies. ;)

[amitten]

15. Thank you. This isn't a question of feminism. Just grammar. n/t

[ikojo]

41. This may start a flame war but I am not so sure both

men and women parent. From what I observe at work and in my family, when a kid is sick it is the mom who stays home, except in rare cases. When there is a problem at school, the school tends to call the mother who then must take time off from work to deal with the problem.

From what I've observed it seems easy for men to not think about their kids. My roommate has a 15 year old he has not seen since last summer and it does not seem to bother him in the least. He has time to go see his married girlfriend but not his kid.

I don't understand it.

[BlueIris]

8. Yeah, I hate that.

Non-pregnant partners? One of you is putting your life, quality of life, and physical health on the line for the sake of the pregnancy and the nursing and for opposite-sex couples, the primary childcare for the first five to seven years. The other one? Not so much. In fact, from what I've observed, the other one usually just stands around a lot. It disgusts me when the non-pregnant partners try to equate their "sacrifices" during the other partner's pregnancy, delivery and time in early-parenthood with what the non-pregnant person in the situation is doing. Too often, what the non-pregnant party, especially for the hetero folks I know is "contributing" is roughly jack shit. Jesus, fellas, YOU ARE NOT THE STORY HERE. I know that's an alien concept for many of you guys in this world, not being the center of attention or not getting fawned over, adored, praised, and entitled to equality (or superiority) in every situation, but "you're" not pregnant, "having" the baby, nursing, or really doing anything near as strenuous or important as what your partner is doing to create, give birth to, fuck up her body for or raise the child. Pick up the slack on your end where you can, support your partner where you can, and stow it. Despite what our misogynist Patriarchy may have programmed you to believe, not everything is about you.

[reyd reid reed]

12. Heh...and one other word of advice for all the non-pregnant people...

Three weeks following delivery, don't even Think about mentioning your *ahem* "Needs."

Not if you want to remain intact, that is.

[amitten]

13. Well, as I said earlier, it's actually usually the women that say it.

Like somehow through some strange osmosis the man is also now carrying a baby within the depths of his own person. x(

[pitohui]

18. maybe you know some weird women

most of the women i know would cut nuts off if the man tried indulged in this usage

[regnaD kciN]

22. Indeed...and also...

...I can remember when that way of putting it became commonplace, and it was supposed to be a "pro-feminist" attitude -- as in both partners are in this together, rather than the woman being thought of as "breeding stock" whose natural role was to bear children for her man. :shrug:

[sandnsea]

24. Yeah, me too

"We're pregnant" is the man's way of acknowledging he's got a role to play, pickles to buy, feet to rub, nursery to paint. I guess this is one of those can't win for losin' things guys go through.

[amitten]

26. Well, pregnancy is a medical state. It's not shared...by anyone!

Male or female! Only one gets to be "pregnant". Both can be "expecting", but "pregnant" can't be applied to males!

[Left Is Write]

39. Wow.

I don't like the term "we're pregnant" either (largely because it sounds stupid), but the "non-pregnant partner" you have described sounds nothing like my husband.

[asthmaticeog]

42. What happened to you to make you so consistently

such a screed-prone misandrist gasbag?

Just curious.

[Misunderestimator]

46. Hmmm... well as a gay woman, if I and my partner decided to have

a child together, and she were to become pregnant (because, after all, only one of us could do that unless we wanted two more children), I certainly would do everything I could to qualify as "pregnant" myself by participating in the entire pregnancy as a supportive and loving partner. Sure she would be the one taking the larger risks and making the larger sacrifices, but wow, the non-pregnant partner is "jack shit" to you? I hardly think that a man who says "we're pregnant" means it in the misogynist way you describe. (And I have very keen misogyny radar.) I think instead he would more likely mean it in a supportive and participatory manner. I know I would.

[Neoma]

10. ...Yeah that is weird.

[REP]

16. Cutesy-Poo

I loathe cutesy-poo.

[pitohui]

17. yeah it makes them both sound like idiots

what's wrong w. people? i guess they think being stupid is cool

[951-Riverside]

19. Its just PC Bullshit

I think we've reached a point where we've become too politically correct, I can understand if they said something along the lines "We're expecting a little boy (or girl)".

[AlienGirl]

21. We're sitting on eggs...

Actually, we're just incubating them, but Xen shares equally in the turning duties. We already have one bird together...

Tucker

[Pithlet]

34. I wish smilies worked in the subject line.

:) That was cute.

[MelliMel]

23. I don't have a problem with it.

But we never said "we're pregnant" for any of our 5 kids.

[amitten]

28. And we all thank you for that. n/t

[Shell Beau]

27. I think the man experiences some of the effects too!!!

It does take 2!

[amitten]

31. Yes, but he isn't physically with child, which is the only meaning

of the word pregnant in this situation. So, it's a dumb thing to say. It's like saying "we're having problems with our prostate", as someone posted upthread! :D

[uppityperson]

29. I have no problem with it, both have had input, so to speak.

[amitten]

32. But both are not pregnant., as the phrase implies. n/t

[Shell Beau]

35. Well, it is inclusion & I bet the man feels pregnant sometimes!!

Technically he isn't, but come on.

[uppityperson]

36. I hear it as "we (have gotten) pregnancy achieved"

what I hate is people who think they can touch a pregnant woman's stomach without being invited to. Was visiting a place I did contract work for, 1 person touched my stomach and asked "is there something you haven't told us?" My reply "yes, I'm getting fat." One of the few times I have managed to say the right thing at the right time. If you are rude enough to touch me, I'll be rude enough to answer straight. Embarrased apologies followed, bet she doesn't do that again.

[latebloomer]

30. Well, my husband was highly pissed

when he went with me through my grueling 20-hour-labor followed by C-section, and I was the one who got the morphine pump afterwards! No fair!!!

[johnnie]

33. Yeah yeah

Or when they say something like : "After we were preggers, we got blue balls".

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

37. You must lead a pretty good life if this is what gets you so riled up!

Jeee-sus!

[amitten]

43. I'm not riled up...it's just a pet peeve.

Like the way Republicans dress.

[Burma Jones]

38. My Wife is pregnant for the third time

but We are having a baby.

I think my wife refrains from the phrase "We're Pregnant" because I'm overweight and she doesn't want to hurt my feelings.


I would never say "We're" pregnant, it's too new age wussy. She's Pregnant and I do everything she tells me to do - period.

[amitten]

44. Thanks for your sane take on the matter. n/t

[amitten]

45. Hey, on the same note...should a widower say, "We're dead"?

Just askin.