Hugs, please. In the most desperate need of hugs.

[kiraboo]

I know Sunday mornings are quiet but even one or two will do :scared:

[JVS]

1. what's wrong?

:hug:

[kiraboo]

4. I'm suddenly realizing that once I'm divorced,

I'm on my own. I think I've been in denial. I am so freaking terrified that I can't stop crying. I actually did the NordicTrak for thirty minutes this morning, bawling the whole time. Scared the hell out of my kids.

[JVS]

14. Sounds terrible.

[kiraboo]

17. It is. I don't have any family where I live

and very few friends. I'm kind of an odd person. Apparently.

[MidwestMomma]

2. Hang in there

:hug:

[kiraboo]

8. That's what I intend to do!

But sometimes my arms get so tired.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear kiraboo.....

OF COURSE you can have some hugs!

Wish I could help in more concrete ways, sweetie.....

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :loveya:








edited for stupid typo.....

[kiraboo]

7. Thank you CaliforniaPeggy.

The DU hugs work really, really well for me. I feel like you are my friends.

[miss_american_pie]

12. Of course we are

You can do this. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. We feel as though we are your friends......

Because we are.....

Just because this is an electronic medium instead of, say, the phone...

Doesn't make it any less real.

[miss_american_pie]

5. Be strong

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[kiraboo]

9. I am. I will.

I have to keep telling myself that I'm tough.

[miss_american_pie]

18. You are

and you will know just how strong you are once you are on the other side of this. :hug:

[Southsideirish]

6. Many, many hugs and a big lick from my maltie!!!

[kiraboo]

11. Thank you, and thanks for the wet one!

Hugs AND kisses!

[billyskank]

10. ...

:hug:

[kiraboo]

15. I appreciate it.

And the rockin' music too.

[RetroLounge]

16. In the same boat with you

:hug:

RL

[kiraboo]

19. You are?

Then you may need a hug too.:hug: :hug:
The thing is, I'm the one leaving. By myself. It's so awful and so necessary.

[RetroLounge]

24. I already left, moved out March 1st.

"It's so awful and so necessary" yes, I understand...

Now dealing with the fallout.

RL

[jobycom]

20. Oh, here's a big one. I know what you mean.

I've been separated for about ten months now, and I wake up sometimes with the worst depression. The usual "Who am I, what have I done, will I ever recover" routine. It's not so "routine" is it?

You will never be alone as long as DU is here! (Not to mention the kids you are scaring.)

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[kiraboo]

22. It's true. My daughter especially

is supportive, though I don't want to lean on her. I'm being treated for depression but every time I think I've got myself under control, something happens to scare the heck out of me.

Oh well. I'm starting to feel better. You guys are the greatest, as always.

[kiraboo]

27. Just remember that you're absolutely fine,

your kisses sweet as wine... ya know?

[jobycom]

30. Aarrgghhhh! Makes me want to

dance poorly!! :rofl:

[txwhitedove]

31. It's spreading everywhere like kudzu. Danny and Armi have..

the answer for everything, and it "makes the world a
better place to live in."

[helderheid]

21. BIG HUGS to you!

:hug:

[kiraboo]

23. Thank you helderheid.

I, too, am straight but NOT NARROW. Just a little lonely lately :)

[mdmc]

25. take care, and give care

my thoughts are with you... always...
:hug:

[kiraboo]

26. Thank you mdmc.

I'm trying to sell my house, going to school to get a job to support myself, have three kids, my husband is alternately supportive sad or furious and I'm in love with a man who is unavailable in every sense of the word. I keep thinking it will get better but then it gets worse again.

[mdmc]

37. your in love with a dead, married, gay man?

every sense of the word... :)

It might not get better, but I am praying that it does.

peace to you and yours...

:hug:

[txwhitedove]

28. Hugs & Kisses to you, Kiraboo...

I too raised 3 kids on my own.  Divorce is hard on kids, too,
so you must stay strong for them.  Be honest with the kids,
but attempt to keep the weep of despair private.  And, with 3
children you should be prepared for 3 different reactions to
the new family situaton.

[kiraboo]

42. txwhitedove

I sometimes don't know how to stop crying. I try to do it in the back of my house but it hits me, out of the blue, all the time, every day. I had a couple of weeks of being okay recently but yesterday it all fell apart again. But I will think about what you've said because you are right. I'm leaving because it's better for my kids, and I need to make the leaving as pain free as possible for them. Thank you.

[Ptah]

29. A hug and some promise of color

:hug:



:hug:

[kiraboo]

34. That's beautiful Ptah.

We've had rain here for almost two months straight, or so it feels. And not one rainbow.

[spooky3]

32. You won't feel this awful forever. It will get much better.

I've been there and I feel for you.

Positive vibes+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ and hugsoooooooooooooooooooo.

[kiraboo]

33. Thank you spooky3.

I just fell asleep and woke feeling sturdier. Must be the effect of your good vibes & hugs.

[maveric]

35. Hugs for kiraboo

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I need a few myself today.

[kiraboo]

38. Thank you maveric.

I actually wrote a lengthy post on your sad thread today, but must have hit a wrong button because it just disappeared. But do I ever feel your pain. My life of late has been so full of hope, alternating with crushing disappointment. I know this is the worst thing to say, and I have ignored the same advice given me many times here on the board, but don't let her do this to you again. I realize it's almost impossible not to keep hoping when the one you love makes a reappearance, but whatever made them leave in the first place always seems to take them away again. I've been to absolute despair and back, and I don't like to think of you going through anything like it.

There is someone out there for you. You are too obviously a kind and good man for that not to be the case.

[gordontron]

36. sure

:hug:

[kiraboo]

39. Thank you gordontron.

The nights are the worst. I was just thinking how torn I am between going to sleep so I stop feeling this way, and staying awake so that I can postpone a rerun of this same day tomorrow.

[In_The_Wind]

40. How about a Sunday afternoon hug.

[kiraboo]

43. Still in dire need! And that's one monstrous hug.

Thank you Joan_Alpern. I appreciate it.

[Redstone]

41. Then here's one from me.

Redstone

[kiraboo]

45. Thank you Redstone.

I hear your wife is feeling down. I hope she feels better soon. The best thing you can do is just be there, strong. She has to work the rest of it out on her own, IMHO.

[Redstone]

47. She's feeling better for now. there will be a next time, and when

there is, I'll be there.

Hope you get through this as easily as possible, I do.

Redstone

[wildhorses]

44. here ya go

:hug:

[kiraboo]

51. Thank you wildhorses.

You are very kind!

[sendero]

46. I'll bet you have a lot of friends...

.. who will help you get through this. And if not, make some.

Divorce sucks but it is much, much, much, much better than staying in a relationship that does not bring you happiness every day. When you find that relationship, you will know you did the right thing!

How could I forget! :hug: :hug: :hug: :)

[kiraboo]

50. sendero, I hope you're right.

my marriage has been unhappy for years. The only thing that makes me sadder than what I'm going through is the thought of not doing it. Thank you for the hugs.

[tinfoilinfor2005]

48. OK, here's what you do...

put on some striped pants, a flower printed blouse, a fur hat with ear muffs and a pair of stilleto high heeled shoes. And make-up, lots of make-up with an emphasis on blue eyeshadow. Find your way to the nearest supermarket. Stand in front of the store and start singing the Star Spangled Banner, with a little tap dance between versus.

By the time you get home, you will realize that no matter what happens from here on in, you have just gotten through the stupidist moment of your life. Everything from here on out is a piece of cake.

:grouphug:

[kiraboo]

49. Okay, that's the first time I've laughed all day.

I don't actually have to do it... just picturing it is punishment enough. Although if I'm gonna dance, I'm gonna dance to "Love me Tender" and no other song.

I've been in so much pain that I've taken up serious exercising. In the past, I'd always quit after a week or two because it hurt too much. But now nothing hurts as much as my heart, not sore muscles, overworked lungs or bleeding blisters.

[Deja Q]

52. I'm so sorry.

:hug: :hug:

Men are scum.

[u4ic]

53. Hugs for you, kiraboo

:hug: :hug: :hug:

I left a long term live in relationship a year ago (no kids), and it's been tough, there's no two ways about it. However, I don't even want to imagine the state I would have been in had I not left (it literally saved my health).

I think you'll find, in the long run, it was worth it. Doesn't feel like it now, but it will.

Hang tight, we're here for you. :hug: