...but it absolutely kills me that "they mostly stood by as others fought for rights like civil unions or domestic partnerships."
I understand: They considered marriage more important than a mere civil union -- as I do. However, I (and my partner) actively work to get what we can get, when we can get it, while keeping our eyes on the prize.
Sincere congratulations to them on their marriage. But it just pisses me off that they spent all those years in the closet, while everybody else laid the groundwork and got dirtied up doing it. Sure, I understand the generational thing that kept them closeted 60 -- and 50, and 40, and 30 -- years ago. I really do get it -- but it's been a long time since lesbians and gay men were jailed or subjected to electroshock just for
being gay. (And the article says their families had already figured they were queer, ages ago.)
Lokkins said it himself:
"Living a lie was the hardest part," Mr. Lokkins said.
Well, better late than never, I guess. At least this story might make an impression on a few straight folks -- 'cause it sure wasn't written for queers like me -- who have been
out and working for the benefit of people like
them for the past 25-plus years.
Sorry, but I've always had a very low level of sympathy for closet cases; they make it so hard for the rest of us, when we really
need their help -- especially their visibility.