Pushed To The Left
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Sat Aug-26-06 07:49 PM
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Just got dumped after seven years. |
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It was actually more of a mutual breakup that she initiated. I knew this was coming for several months, but I didn't realize it would be as ugly as it was. That "fiance" that I asked the poll question about last week was actually me. As she was breaking up with me, she admitted that she had actually been seeing him and that she "let him" kiss her. I told her that there was no chance of us staying together now and she said, "I'm breaking up with you!" I asked if she had done anything like this before the last time we had been together. She said she hadn't, but became irate that I asked the question. She called me a "pathetic loser" and hung up the phone. (She has always said she couldn't break up in person)
I'm sort of stunned, but I realize I'm probably better off. I had a feeling that things might end between us, but I never thought they would end like this. I'm actually feeling better now than I did a few hours ago, though I might not be feeling good at all later on.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:00 PM
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1. I'm sorry it ended in such a nasty manner. You are most definitely better |
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without her. If you had gotten married, it would have been a marriage filled with her lies/deceit. My husband learned that with his first two wives. I'm the third and we've been together fifteen years. That's what honesty and fidelity produces. Keep trying and you will find someone who deserves you.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:10 PM
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2. I'm hoping that you will continue to feel better...... |
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And that someone who deserves you will come down the pike soonest.....
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:12 PM
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3. I'm sorry. That sucks. |
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It'll get better. You deserve so much better. :hug:
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:13 PM
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And sorrier that it ended badly...although they rarely end nicely. The amicable part of something like that usually comes later.
Sometimes much later.
Keep your chin up and stay strong. You've got us.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:15 PM
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5. Sorry you're going through that |
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My 6 year relationship ended this summer too. I know it's hard, but you'll get through it. It does get better. And you'll be better off in the end without someone treating you like that. :hug:
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:16 PM
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Darth_Kitten
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:18 PM
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7. She's one to call you a loser....... |
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she doesn't seem to have any guts, sorry. :(
anyways, I'm sorry for any pain you are feeling. It can't be pleasant. :(
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:18 PM
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..... and it sucks. Even when truly amicable, it sucks. It sucks to feel like years of your life were wasted. But of course they weren't. You were learning so the next time around would be better.
You'll have to take time to grieve but then you will come back stronger than ever. And of course, you just took a .22 to the gut, but you dodged a .45.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:19 PM
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You sound like you may be in shock. Hugs to you. Even if you know it wasn't right, it has to hurt after seven years. Please visit us if you feel like sharing. :hug:
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:19 PM
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It just wasn't meant to be.
It'll be hard for awhile but time heals all wounds and you will get through this.
Sorry this happened.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:33 PM
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11. I'm sorry you have to go through this |
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And saying "she couldn't break up in person," would really upset me. That's the least she could have done after 7 years. Hang in there! :hug:
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:42 PM
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12. If your relationship couldn't handle *this much* conflict, |
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what are the chances that it could endure? And that you'd be happy? ... not necessarily looking for a reply.
One thing that's helped me is to look at how I may have participated in this so that she acted the way she did. I find that helpful in not repeating myself.
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:44 PM
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Rejection sucks.
Here's an extra hug for the road... :hug:
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Sat Aug-26-06 08:46 PM
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Have a shot of your favorite poison on me.
I'm so sorry :(
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Pushed To The Left
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Sat Aug-26-06 09:06 PM
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15. Thanks everybody. You truly are a great group of people! |
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Sat Aug-26-06 09:08 PM
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16. You deserved to be treated better, period. |
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:hug:
Again, I think you will be better off without her.
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Sat Aug-26-06 09:23 PM
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17. so when should all the single ladies of the DU start asking you out? |
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Nice Democratic men are not easily found you know!
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The_Casual_Observer
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Sat Aug-26-06 10:10 PM
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18. You are a lot better off this way. Somebody better will come along |
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they always do. Pathetic loser my ass.
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Sat Aug-26-06 10:25 PM
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For what it's worth you have my electronic condolences.
Not long ago a five year relationship dissolved for me. It's never easy.
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Sun Aug-27-06 02:27 AM
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I could never stand to know I was with someone who would be untrue. It's hard, after so much time, but you know it's for the better for you.
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Sun Aug-27-06 03:25 AM
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21. I agree with those who say you are better off. Wasn't meant to be. |
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Edited on Sun Aug-27-06 03:26 AM by BlueIris
'Cause your ex is a big, fat, lying, cheating--you can do the rest. What your ex did reveals a lot about said ex, namely that this person does not understand the fact that relationships come with responsibilities, and that you are responsible for not being a cruel, dishonest asshole when it comes to ending important, long-term relationships.
Come join us in the Astro, Sprituality and Alternative Healing forum, if you get the chance. There's a nice video about relationships that's very popular in there right now that seems to be helping a lot of people find or enhance relationships.
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Sun Aug-27-06 03:27 AM
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22. Wow, seven years must be tough. I'm sorry man. |
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The closest I ever came to that was getting dumped after four years.
Sorry you're going through this. :pals:
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