Question for hetero and bi-sexual females, and homosexual men.

[Floogeldy]

Is it sexy when a man cries?

[bicentennial_baby]

1. Personally....

No. That being said, I thought for a looong time that I was "allergic" to men crying, until I realized that it really depended on who it was and why they were crying...For me it's situational. But sexy, no, not really.

[Syncronaut Seven]

2. Still getting the hang of this, aren't you?

:rofl:

[Floogeldy]

3. Actually, . . .

I consider myself an expert.

[crim son]

4. Not sexy, but possibly heart-rending.

The cheer-up kiss could turn into something more fun!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

5. I don't think tears look sexy on anyone...

Regardless of the gender or orientation of the person who weeps, I want to give comfort to those I encounter...not have sex with them.

[Dangerously Amused]

14. GoG's got it right.

Jesus, sex is the last thing I'm thinking about when someone is in mental distress.


And guess what, when I'M crying... I DON'T want you undressing me. :grr:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

18. It sucks when you trust someone enough

to share your tears with them, and they pull crap like that...

[LeftyMom]

6. It makes me really uncomfortable.

That sucks, but I come from a really old school kinda family so I struggle with that.

[radwriter0555]

7. NO, when he's crying over a parking ticket, YES when he's crying about

telling the story of losing his oldest daughter in a car accident.

No when it's in a sad movie, although he can get choked up.

Yes when you're delivering your babies in the labor and delivery room.

See how it works?

We want you to be the man, please.

[Scout1071]

8. No. Makes me uncomfortable as well.

It's probably not fair, but there it is. I suppose there are exceptions, of course.

[bridgit]

9. it's not a 'deal closer', no...

[REP]

10. Is It Sexy When a Woman Cries?

[Floogeldy]

11. I edited the title of my post.

Homosexual men are worthy of chiming in this thread. :)

[deadparrot]

12. Sexy? No. But it doesn't make me uncomfortable,

assuming that reason for the crying was within the realm of normality.

[6000eliot]

13. I'm a gay man, but I never cry,

and men crying scares me. My students do it sometimes, and I never know what to do about it.

[amitten]

15. No, but it makes me cry when a man is too sexy.

:D

[Floogeldy]

17. You are a wild horse without a bridle.

Not that you personally, for any reason, need a bridle. ;)

[u4ic]

16. I wouldn't call it sexy...

I would be concerned!

I don't consider it 'unmasculine' to see a man cry. I think it's a healthy thing to do if one needs to, for both sexes.

[Floogeldy]

19. In other words, crying doesn't get a man laid.

;)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

20. My dear Floog!

Sure as heck it is!

I find it most appealing that a man could cry.......

He is showing his vulnerable side to me.......

And that is something that a confident sexy man can do.......

People who are fearful aren't sexy at all, IMHO.........

And that goes for either sex, or any sexual orientation....


:hug:

[TrogL]

21. Yes....

when he looks panic stricken and says "you're gonna put that where?!?!"

(this thread is so locked)

[pitohui]

22. no good lord no

it can be sad or touching (or cruel and manipulative) but sexy? no, man up, and stop w. the crying already


too often it just means he should have been cut off at the bar an hour ago

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

23. Why should he have to "man up"?

I don't find crying sexy for people of any gender, but why should a crying man have to "man up" and stop? Why should only women be allowed to cry without being told to "man up?"

Society should be beyond that.

[Rowdyboy]

24. The only time my man of 18 years has cried was about 6 years ago....

My mom (who we ADORED)had just died (she was 65). When we were finally ready to grieve, Michael and I both cried for a long time and held just each other. It wasn't sexy, but it wasn't entirely non-sexual either.

I don't find it "sexy" if Michael cries. It scares me. The idea of him being in pain hurts me.

[tjwmason]

25. I don't think so.

As GoG says, it's probably not exactly the best time for sex...but also I'm not that keen on any such displays of emotion.

[Guava Jelly]

26. I hope it is sexy

I well up a lot at movies.
Last time I cried I did it in the bathtub. And it was less then 2 weeks ago.
I hate doing it in front of people.
At my own mothers funeral I didn't cry (in front of anyone).But later it was ON!

[wildhorses]

27. I saw my Dad cry once and, my second husband went in the

bathroom and cried the night he found out about the death of his Granpa. Both times, I left them alone cos I could tell they wanted their privacy. I remember feeling very tender toward them and wanting to comfort them but, knew (instinctively) that it would embarrass and humiliate them. I felt the best way to comfort them was to pray for them. So that is what I did...:shrug:



what a weird question...some things just don't cross over very well, do they?

[xchrom]

28. depends on circumstance.

[In_The_Wind]

29. It can be.

But it depends on the reason why and the frequency of the waterworks.

[Sugar Smack]

30. Sexy? Damn, Floog.

:silly:

[Richardo]

31. Hey how was your flight?

Slept through it, I hope. :hi:

San Fran still as lovely as ever?

[Sugar Smack]

33. Richardo!

OMG- Not only did we not go yesterday, we had to come back because our flight was 2 hrs late and we would have missed the connection. So I was neck-deep in apricot brandy yesterday for NO GOOD reason at all. So it's the same thing all over again today.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Thank you so much for the good wishes, Richardo.

[Richardo]

35. Well, you don't really NEED a reason to be neck deep in apricot brandy

Have a good flight today, then, SS :hug:

[Mutley]

32. Not Sexy, no.

But it is nice to see a man who isn't all caught up in the "real men don't cry" meme. Though I wouldn't want to be around a man who cries all the time any more than I'd want to be around a woman who cries all the time. Save it for the right situation.

[lukasahero]

34. I have to admit it was unbearably sexy when my husband cried

while speaking his vows at our wedding.

Generally though, I agree with GoG up thread that the last thing on my mind when he is crying is having sex with him.

[NewWaveChick1981]

36. Not sexy, but endearing or heart-rending...

:hug: Crying is not a turn-on for me; however, crying shows emotion and sensitivity, which are endearing qualities... And my empathic nature means that my heart goes out to someone who is crying. :hug: