Family gets me down.......

[Darth_Kitten]

I don't know.....gave my parents the final count for their anniversary dinner that I've planned.

No, so and so couldn't come......I don't know why......why is this about them, Mom? Let's not let them drag things down? We know they wouldn't come.....



sheesh. :eyes:

[Darth_Kitten]

1. Like, sheesh.........

:(

[speedoo]

2. You could see it coming, couldn't you?

Family sucks, sometimes.:hug:

[Blue Diadem]

3. going through it too Darth_Kitten,

:hug: I understand how you feel but I also can understand your Mom's point too.

My son's wedding is soon and certain in-laws are calling me wanting to know which other family members are coming and will they be seated near them etc. We've made sure to put plenty of distance between them.

I've made it clear to feuding family members that the day belongs to my son and his bride..and I fully expect them to show respect for the couple and forget their family disputes.

I'm betting your Mom will forget all about who isn't there once the day of the dinner arrives. I've dealt with my own sadness over certain family that can't/won't attend..but I know once the day is here I'll fully enjoy it and forget all about who isn't there.

[Darth_Kitten]

4. I'm just sick and tired of some people.....

and their usual reactions.

I told Mom, hey, we know what some people are like, like it's some surprise??
Some people expressed their regrets at not coming, and I told her that.

I don't know why or don't CARE anymore why my siblings aren't coming. :( I really don't.

[Blue Diadem]

5. I hear ya,

Who knows why they act as they do. The problem is theirs, not yours. That's the conclusion I came to a long time ago for our family. It's DH's siblings that are feuding..my two remaining brothers are the ones who never attend anything.

It's obvious you're the thoughtful one..I'm sure your Mom & Dad appreciate that.

[Mike03]

6. Family Issues

Family issues are incredibly difficult, so I empathize with what you are going through. My issues are different than yours, but probably caused by the same sorts of expectations/obligations/exploitations. It's just very hard. I wish you the best.

[Darth_Kitten]

14. Sorry, Mike.....Hey, do you ever feel like the only rational one?

Like you are on the outside looking in? That you SEE what everybody needs to be doing, but aren't?

I don't know, I hate feeling stuck. :(

[Darth_Kitten]

7. thanks everyone, I just let everything get to me......

I guess I'm just the anxious type, but hey...... :evilgrin:

I'm trying to look at the glass as half-full.....trust me, I try. :D

[Mike03]

9. Respect your feelings

What you are going through is real and you are right to have these feelings. Don't dismiss them as mere anxiety or neurosis.

[Darth_Kitten]

11. I guess I dismiss myself because I feel lately.....

that all I seem to do is complain or feel cranky about things. :)

Thanks for being kind. :D

[Mike03]

12. Please Be Good To Yourself

The feelings you are experiencing are real, not imaginary, and you have a right to feel them and react to them.

Thanks for posting this, because I am going through some similar things, and it is a relief to see how others respond to similar situations. Thank you.

[Darth_Kitten]

13. Sometimes I just want to let loose with the truth....

like, Dad, oh, thanks for catching you on the phone by the way (he hates talking on the phone) that maybe, just MAYBE if you called people, like your own kids, and talked over some things, then maybe they wouldn't be so estranged....or Mom, maybe it's time to stop taking it all on yourself, like you are doing something wrong and get your husband to be more involved in say, life? Stop making excuses and saying "Well he's just like that". HE has to make an effort, you can't make it all FOR him.

I'm tempted......

[Jamastiene]

8. Wow, you wouldn't think they would refuse to

attend just because so and so didn't come. They could still have had a nice dinner with their kid. well, I guess all you can do is wish them a nice anniversary and forget about it. Family can be a real downer at times. :hug:

[Darth_Kitten]

10. No, they would never do that........

it's just that there are some family tensions and my Mom like me can take it to heart.
I could just sense a bit of hurt when I was talking to her on the phone.

It's my siblings especially, only one of four? :(