My wife hates me...............

[Old and In the Way]

24 years married....any ideas?

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

1. Sorry, I have the same problem at 14 myself

I was just informed I was an 'asshole' because I was waiting to wrap her presents.

[Booberdawg]

2. Are you sure she hates you? Or is it just a temporary spat?

[Old and In the Way]

3. 24 year tempaary spat....I'm pretty sure............

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

4. Geologically and Cosmologically everything is temporary

and rightly so.

[wanderingbear]

17. Ya..I know that.. THats childs play.

[Booberdawg]

What does that mean?

"24 year tempaary" spat?

Well, 24 years is a long time to be having the same fight. There must be something keeping you together all this time. Or something causing this 24 year old fight. I really don't pretend to understand something this complicated.

Doesn't she post here? Isn't she going to see this?

[wanderingbear]

18. On the universal scale 24 years is meaningless.

[Booberdawg]

13. What does that mean?

"24 year tempaary" spat?

Well, 24 years is a long time to be having the same fight. There must be something keeping you together all this time. Or something causing this 24 year old fight. I really don't pretend to understand something this complicated.

Doesn't she post here? Isn't she going to see this?

[Old and In the Way]

19. Ask her....she posts as "WWW"

Soetimes she hates me, sometimes she loves me.....

That's life....

[koopie57]

15. I don't think she can

hate you very much if she stayed with you for 24 years. Right now my husband is snoring, I have earplugs in, and am ready to stick a pillow over his face, but.....well, in the morning I'll be glad I didn't *LOL* .... and so will he I think!

And so far as her being angry with you for not wrapping her gifts yet, I think she is trying to say that she wishes you were feeling more excited about sharing Christmas with her and exchanging gifts. Her expectations are different than yours. But now that you know, it is a simple matter to wrap her gift earlier and think about it earlier.

But, these are just my thoughts relative to my relationship. But maybe they will give you a clue or an idea that will help????

[Old and In the Way]

20. Yeah, I think you understand,

Key is to be able to give ground....I do that very well. But I can hold what's important to me.....

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

5. Wait until after the holiday season to give it much thought...

For me, emotions are always whacko this time of year.

Good luck.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

7. For those of us married to women, emotions are ALWAYS

whacko. At least in my house.

[wanderingbear]

6. Marage counsiling

[eileen from OH]

8. Put the seat down. . .

sleep in the wet spot
make dinner as a surprise for her
take the trash out without being asked
put a rose on her pillow
hug and cuddle without expecting it to lead to sex
tell her she looks thinner
replace the goddam roll of toilet paper (sorry, that's just be one of mine)
make her laugh

TALK TO HER. LISTEN TO HER.

Find out what you can do to make it better for BOTH of you. It ain't enough to try for HER. Gotta try for YOU, too.

Marriage is a comedy - that is, it has a happy ending. If it's all DRAMA, then you gotta help re-write the script.

eileen from OH

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

11. It is never enough. Does not matter what, it is just not right

no matter if I do nothing, or do something, it is the wrong thing.

Do you know how tiring it is to hear that?

[Old and In the Way]

12. Geesh....perhaps you could counsel my wife?

I'm cool with all of the above.........

[FDRrocks]

9. Why does she hate you?

Sexually? Intimately? Personally? If she is generally burnt out maybe you guys should spend more time apart. Or have you guys been spending too much time apart? I'm sure she still loves you after all that time.

[Old and In the Way]

14. Are you kidding me?

Jesus, she's had the best sex one could imagine. Still not enough.

I'm open to suggestions....damn it, she's as liberal as I am....but we're all outta tricks....

[koopie57]

16. write her a naughty message to her e-mail

eom

[Old and In the Way]

21. I'll be in so much troucle if she reads this threads tomorrow....

I'm couchin' it tonight.

[Old and In the Way]

10. Whatever.........

Seriously, can you image how lucky one could be, married to this wet computer?

[newsjunkie]

22. It's just this stupid commercial holiday

'Christmas' sucks. Jesus birthday is great to observe and remember as a wonderful thing and all but what this day (or MONTH) has become has nothing much to do with that anymore.
For God sakes dont go to Walmart or the mall from Dec 15th on or you'll get stampeded from crazed 'shoppers' trying to prove something. Everyone in the public starts to suddenly have to prove how religious they are. It's ridiculous.

[SheilaT]

23. I have a husband who honestly does not

understand the point of wrapping gifts. He prefers to hand them over inside the bag they came home from the store in. Several years ago he discovered gift bags and that's an improvement.

Maybe 24 years on geologic scales isn't much, but it's a long time married. It's 23 years here and it can be hard not to be bored with the other person, tired of his/her jokes, supremely irritated at his/her snoring and other bad habits. Only you two can decide if it's worth staying together, or if things are really and truly at an end. Good luck.

But if she's always saying that nothing you do is good enough, then at least one of you needs to be asking the question, Am I better off without the other person?