There are things in life we cannot change.

[Deja Q]

So why do we complain about them?

So I've got to stop complaining. There's nothing I can do and it's distracting me anyway.

Whatever happens is going to happen and then and ONLY then does one make a choice. Until then it's just empty fearmongering, which leads to miscommunication or worse. Nor do I want to "scare myself to death". I just want to live my own private happy life. And being worried about the future is a big distraction.

I've been told to put on proverbial blinders to ignore the rest of the world. And that is what I'm going to do.

[kwassa]

1. The classic serenity prayer comes to mind

"God grants me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

and my version, which is worrying about things I can't change or can't know is a huge waste of time and energy.

[KitchenWitch]

2. or this version

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those that pissed me off!"

Just kidding.

[kwassa]

4. If you love somebody, set them free ....

and if they don't come back to you, hunt them down and kill them!

(semi-popular bumper sticker from years ago)

[caty]

3. If you made a list

of all the things you worry about over the course of a year, and, at the end of that year, checked off everything that actually happened--you probably would only check off 1 or 2, if that. We waste of lot of good thinking and sleeping time worrying.

[Left Is Write]

5. Because we are human.

Sometimes those complaints are simply a reaching out for reassurance or commiseration.