GOING BALD SUCKS

[AntiWarPoster]

22 and going bald

I am on Propecia to stop it- is that vain? I just don't want to lose any more hair for a few more years. I'm not very far gone, just some slight temple recession, but my family has a history of baldness and I wouldn't look good with a shaved head.

The drug should keep me from losing any more hair for a few more years and then thin slowly after that. If I wasn't on it I'd probably be slick bald at 25. :(

I'm probably switching to Avodart in a week or so. Even though it's not FDA approved for hair loss, I can get my doctor to write me an Rx for it. It's supposed to be stronger.

[AntiWarPoster]

1. Anyone else balding who can relate?

nt

[Skittles]

2. someone answer AWP or I WILL kick some ass

all I can say is I've known and dated plenty of handsome, sexy bald men in my time; yes INDEED. And whatever you do, don't ever try to style your hair to hide anything - it simply does not work and draws attention to your hair.

[AntiWarPoster]

5. no i would never do that or wear a toupee

right now i have my hair buzzed down to stubble.

i am just taking the drug to keep my hair for as long as i can until stem cell coning of hair comes out. then there will be no more baldness for those who can afford it.

[Evoman]

3. Lol...I'm not going bald, but I am bald.

I shaved my head months back....and man, did it change how much attention I got. If I didn't have a girlfriend, I could totally pick up more than I used to.

Shave it off....shake your hand at the hair gods and say, "I don't need your fucking hair". Being a cue ball is a hell of a lot sexier than having a bald spot with hair around it, or having a comb over.

On edit: I forgot to tell you...I teach Science Labs at the University...my asssistant TA did a poll and found that everyone thought I was way hotter. Ha.

[Book Lover]

53. This chick endorses this post

Shave it all off, baby. (Well, not the places where you'll rub... you know what I mean!)

[Robeson]

4. O.K., O.K., I'll answer because Skittles threatened to kick our asses...

...sorry, I'm 42 and have a full head of hair. Probably not the answer you wanted, but then...fear the Skittles...:scared:

[AntiWarPoster]

6. nice genes man

hehe

[Skittles]

14. I'M GONNA KICK YOUR ASS JUST FOR THAT RESPONSE

YOU LOSE EITHER WAY ROBESON :o

[LiberalHeart]

7. I love bald men -- there's more skin, and I'm really into skin...

But when I had chemo, I went bald and noticed how cold it was that winter till I started wearing a knit cap, even in the house.

I also plumped up from the steroids in the chemo. I was so bald and round, my daughter told me I looked like a tube of Ban Roll-On.

My hair grew back and I was no happier with it than I'd been without it. That is, I was happy both ways. It's not what's on your head, but in it.

[MrScorpio]

8. Shave your head

Save yourself the indiginity of fighting it

[Robeson]

9. I agree. Though I'm not bald,, or even getting there, if I were...

...I'd love to look like this guy...

[crim son]

31. Oh YEAH!

As long as you don't try to compensate for going bald by letting what remains grow too long, or refuse to wash your hair because you're afraid of losing more, who cares? Well-groomed bald/balding men are very sexy.

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. Except I've got Dave Barry stuck in my head...

"Men who shave their heads end up looking like giant thumbs..." ;) :hi: :hug: I haven't seen you in forever!

[ScreamingMeemie]

10. Hey! Hairstylist checking in...

I bet you don't even need that hair. Some of the best looking guys in the world are bald. Some of my favorite clients were men that I talked out of combovers. :hug: No worries!

And don't think you're vain. Not ever.

[Heidi]

12. Right on!

CMW has been bald on top for as long as I've known him, and he's hella cute. :thumbsup:

Nice to see you, L. :hug: :loveya:

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. CMW's a keeper!

:hug: :loveya: Good to see you too Heidi!

[Skittles]

15. YOU KNOW IT MRSGRUMPY

when I have a combover in my life I am RELENTLESS and have always been successful at conversion - man, they always look SOOOOOO MUCH BETTER

[Brewman_Jax]

37. Thank you

:hi:

[Ohio Joe]

16. I love my bald spot

I've never even considered doing anything about it, except to keep my hair shorter so it does not look like I'm trying to hide it.

[NewWaveChick1981]

17. I just have to chime in here and say that completely bald men are

extremely hot. :loveya: I also know some mostly-bald men that are totally hot too. :) I know you wouldn't do this, but I find (as do most people) combovers and other coverup methods totally unappealing. :( If you're talking hair, all you have to do is mention Donald Trump to make me gag.

If Propecia and/or Avodart don't work for you, just follow Evoman's advice and let it go. You will indeed find women chasing after you. ;) My ex-boyfriend was going bald when I met him (he was 21 at the time) and now has almost no hair (age 47). But he's kept it natural and never tried coverup methods, which I applaud him for.

[jobycom]

24. Hey, I'm mostly bald!

See, you post those naughty threads and we guys just can't stop following you around like little puppies... :rofl:

[NewWaveChick1981]

50. That's OK. I love puppies.

:P :rofl: :evilgrin: And mostly bald is just fine by me. :)

[jobycom]

58. Great.

Now I'm doing that thing puppies do with the tongue hanging out and drool going everywhere.

[NewWaveChick1981]

59. Just as long as you don't do any butt sniffing like a puppy....

:rofl: :hi: :loveya:

[CanuckAmok]

44. I have a "widower's peak"....

It's easy to style over it, but I prefer to accentuate it. Makes me look kinda evil, which I like.

[NewWaveChick1981]

51. Mmmm..... Evil....

:9 :loveya: I'll bet it's really hot. :D

[Maine-ah]

18. I had a teacher in HS who did the back to front

comb-over. I bet, that if he combed all of his hair back, it would have been to his shoulders. EWWW.

My brothers both got nailed with the bald gene in my family, one of them just shaves it completely, since he was at least 25 anyway. He's 36 now. Hubbie is going bald to, but he won't stop wearing his stupid baseball cap. I don't care if he's bald or not, just as long as he doesn't do the comb-over.

For the women in my family, well, we have a bald gene too. I don't know as of yet if I've got it, but I've never had the thickest hair to begin with, I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

[Bassic]

19. MEh, I just shaved my head.

I had a buddy who was totally bald upside his head at 17.

[BOSSHOG]

20. I'M BALD AND CHICKS DIG IT

I consider myself a 52 year old Sean Connery with a reverse Mohawk. Throw that Propecia away. I bet in 20 years we'll be reading about some weird side effects. Be proud of that head of yours. It is a very distinguished look and you got it for free.

[Richardo]

27. "reverse mohawk"

:rofl:

I myself have the Friar Tuck tonsured look
:hi:

[av8rdave]

21. My issue tends to be more graying than balding

Though I refuse to do anything about it. I've always vowed that if I lose enough hair, I'll just shave my head.

However, I dont think I'd look good with a shaved head either.

Guess getting old sucks no matter what!

[meegbear]

22. Shave your head and grow a goatee ...

then you'll look like my smiley.

[jobycom]

23. Didn't bother me much. I started losing it in my late teens.

It's all a matter of confidence, really. If you see yourself as defective, you come across that way to others. If you don't, then you won't. The worst part is, if you are so worried about "going bald," then you are already coming across as lacking confidence. The "going bald" mentality is worse than being bald.

People will only worry about it to the extent that you do. You will lose a few dates because of it, probably, but you will lose more dates out of fear of balding. The thing is, no matter how you look, you won't be attractive to everyone. You can spend the next ten years wishing you were attractive to the people you aren't attractive to (and that would be true whether you were going bald or not), or you can spend them living your life and having fun with people who want to have fun with you. And no, you won't have to choose lower "quality" when it comes to dates, if that's your concern. Plenty of people will find you attractive as you are.

Been there, done that. Don't overestimate the impact your hair has on your looks. Just consider it a different hair style, and make the most of it. The hardest part is understanding that just because you don't look the way you used to look, it doesn't mean you look bad. You'll look different. Work what you have. The longer you try to fight it, the longer you give the impression that you expect people to not like the way you look. 90% of attractiveness is confidence and attitude. Assume people will find you attractive, and they will. Heck, Sean Connery was once named the Sexiest Man Alive. Hair had nothing to do with it.

[Brewman_Jax]

25. Sorry to hear

and I've known a few guys who were bald by 25 or had salt&pepper hair by 30. My slacker younger (and not-as-good-looking) brother and freeper dad still have full heads of hair, while me and my youngest brother have receeding hairlines. I have my head buzzed every 2-3 weeks. I do that to hide the gray.

I see the old photos of me and I can't argue that going bald sucks. But, I relented and found that I'm a handsome bald guy. My girlfriend doesn't seem to mind at all.

Like the ladies who've posted above, being bald doesn't scare the ladies; a lot like bald/short haired guys. In fact, I've noticed that the less hair I have, the more attention got.


BTW, you might want to double-check the side effects of those prescriptions. They may be worse than the problem you're dealing with.

[William Bloode]

26. Nothing like being an egg head!

I started shaving my head when i was 29-30. 10yrs later i still shave my head almost daily. I always said when i was young i would not be one to try and fight it when the time came. I can still grow a decent covering acuatlly, but i like bald better.

[dropkickpa]

62. hubba!!

:loveya:

[William Bloode]

67. Hey now!

Stop that yer making me blush :blush:

I'll take it and thank you as it will do wonder for my self esteem. Thanks! :pals:

[Lowell]

28. Bald is good

It is more comfortable and aerodynamic. Enjoy it and quit worrying about going bald. I wouldn't want to take those drugs. In a few years you will probably start growing hair on your palms, and you know what they say about that.

[dropkickpa]

63. hubba part deux!!

:loveya:

[RazzleCat]

29. my guy is bald and I love him

I met him and he was bald, and it did not bother me in the least. I have to say much older than you, he is 51, me 47, but I never would have judged him on how much hair he has or has not. Now I have seen photos of him with a full head of hair, and I think he looks better with out any on top, but then again it could be that 1970's feathered hair he had been sporting prior to it all leaving.

[LeftyMom]

30. Don't stress it, it's really not a big deal.

Just take care of the rest of you and nobody will even pay attention to your hairline.

PS A friend of mine dated a guy who was well on his way to balding at 16. He was still hot, he just looked older.

[LaraMN]

32. A bald head can be pretty hot, though...

Recent case in point:

[BarenakedLady]

40. Oooooooohhhhhhhhhhh

AMI!!!

Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you Lara!



:loveya:

[LaraMN]

41. I knew you'd like that...

A nice head AND tatts!

:crazy: :9

[Vorta]

33. My best friend is the vainest guy on the planet

If there was a pill or a lotion or a surgery that worked he would have it. He has really good hair pieces.

Wearing a hair piece without it being a joke is a skill, an artform, and something of a hobby. It doesn't have to be disgustingly expensive though.

[Divameow77]

34. My boyfriend started going bald

in his early twenties. His mom said she remembers him in the bathroom trying to do his hair and the obsenities that were coming out of his mouth :o

I know you said you wouldn't look good bald, but look again you just might surprise yourself.

[billyskank]

35. Shave it off, or cut it very short

Tell your head, two can play at that game. Show it who's boss. :D

[Redstone]

36. Jeez, I bet it does. Not to sound vain, but I'm 52 and still have all my hair.

And I've never cut it short, either. And it's still black (I guess being half-Indian haas some advantages.)

I won't dye my hair when / if it goes grey, but bald? I think I'd opt for vanity and try the medicines, maybe even go for plugs. No rug, though.

Hope the stuff works for you.

Redstone

[kwassa]

38. God created a few perfect heads, the rest he covered with hair.

[Bear down under]

39. The only way you can tell

how you'd look with your head shaved is to actually shave it. Try it (it's easiest if your barber does it the first time) and keep it shaved for a week or so to get over the shock. Then decide. If you don't like the look (and it always works best with some hair on the face) your hair will grow back soon enough. On the way you'll get a good idea of how a short crop will suit you; and the prospect of baldness won't be so frightening when you can say been there, done that.

I've kept my head shaved since I started losing my hair in my mid-twenties, and truly, shaved or buzzcut is the best way for a bald man to go; and a young man embracing bhis baldness doesn't look silly, he looks strong and self-confident. Do you really want to be painting your head with drugs every day for the rest of your life? Assuming that the drugs work (and they don't for everybody) their long term side effects are still uncertain. Risking your health for the sake of your looks isn't just vanity, it's lunacy.

[datasuspect]

42. i wouldn't know

i still have all mine.

[AntiWarPoster]

43. Thanks a lot for your thoughts guys!

I'll give the meds a couple of years and if I continue to lose hair, I'll just shave it off.

Hair cell cloning will probably be here in 5-10 years anyway and then all the bald guys who want full heads of hair can have it.

[mduffy31]

45. If you got the head for it

Shave it all off dude...looks badass and some chicks dig it.

[Merrick]

46. wear a football helmet wherever you go

it'll hide the balding and girls dig football players.

you're welcome.

[hunter]

47. My wife says I'm hot.

So like, who cares?

[AngryAmish]

48. I'm safely in middle age and no sign of that problem.

Just get a crew cut and suck it up until you can afford to get plugs, if you are that vain.

[AntiWarPoster]

56. don't you think it's unfair

for you to call out vain, considering that you still have your hair? if you were balding maybe you would feel differently.

[AngryAmish]

60. No

My looks do not define me.

[AntiWarPoster]

61. again,

easier for you to say when you aren't balding.

[liontamer]

49. well do what you need to do to keep your self esteem up

however, i'm pro bald. it makes your head more lickable. boys don't really have enough lickable spots.

[GumboYaYa]

52. Nahhh...it is no big deal at all...I started losing my hair at sixteen.....

I didn't take me long to realize how unfair it would have been to all the other men in the world to have put hair on a head so filled with charm and charisma.

[ghostsofgiants]

54. A friend of mine from high school basically had the horseshoe by 18.

[smalll]

55. You have my condolences -

I always had very fine (thin) hair and a Nixonesque hairline, even at the age of 22. I'm 38 now, and in fact am still not bald - thankfully, it has receded VERY SLOWLY over the years. I have managed by keeping my hair very short back and sides, and combed straight back on the top, it looks OK and I even get compliments on my hair now and then. So all in all, OK - except at 38, I'm not married, and don't even have a girlfriend or any current prospect of one, and it has really started to thin on top over the past year or two, so my window of opportunity is closing fast!

And I'm another one who does NOT want to shave his head -- I just think that look is way too gay and/or concentration camp. It's not me.

An extra little annoyance with all this is that like many thin-haired men, I am relatively hairy bodywise. There I feel worse for you to be honest (if you share the same problem) -- in the past, people felt that a hairy chest was normal and masculine. Today I get the impression that young women feel that the average "normal" man is as bodily-hairless as Michelangelo's David, and are SHOCKED by anything else!

[AntiWarPoster]

57. actually no

it's weird, but i have very little body hair and difficulty growing a beard.

[smalll]

64. Well, at least you got lucky with that! /nt

[dropkickpa]

65. Re-read your post and try to figure out

what the most offensive part of it was. Seriously.

[Dukkha]

66. the bald look seems to only work on

Basketball players, starship captains, and superhero arch-nemesises (sp?)

I'm 37 and have been receding since 17. it's looked good up until a couple years ago when I stared getting the "Chia Head" look or the cropped GI-Joe doll look cowards the front. I haven't tried any remedies like Avacor or Rogain since I doubt they will work.

[Joey Liberal]

68. The hairline is receding

Can't do a damn thing about it. No history of baldness in my family either. The last time I was bald was when I went through Army Boot Camp. If it keeps receding, I may have to go for the "High and Tight" look:)............ It does suck though. I feel your pain.