My mom is guilt tripping me about spending the holidays w/ my SO

[WindRavenX]

Ugh.

[Whoa_Nelly]

1. How long have you been with your SO?

...just wonderin'...

And just how is she guilt-trippin' you?

From about age 6 on, my son would always say:

Guilt. A mother's best weapon.

But, he also started saying about the same time:

I'll do it, Mom. But, just so you know, reverse psychology doens't work for me.



Hope things smooth out for you, WindravenX! :pals:

[WindRavenX]

2. 1,5 years

Last year, I turned down spending the holidays with him so I could spend it with my mom-- it turned out to be a disaster because my dad came out and admited he was cheating on her :(

[hedgehog]

3. Why not have her visit you both? Or invite you both?

[Rabrrrrrr]

4. Then your mother is a controlling, emotionally stunted manipulative (blank)

Sorry to be so blunt, but it's election night.

I'm right, though - there's no legitimate reason for guilt tripping like that, unless the person has issues of control, power, and also some emotional problems.

If it was my mom, I'd write her off.

[philosophie_en_rose]

5. Maybe she's lonely or misses you?

:shrug:

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

6. That's moms in a nutshell.

Better get used to it.

[madrchsod]

7. are`t the holidays wonderful?

having your dad come out with that bit of news kind`s makes my wifes family`s crazy assed holidays seem tame.

[WindRavenX]

8. did i mention she threw all his stuff out in the rain?

It was amazing. And stressful.

My SO's family may be Mormon, but at least the holidays with them are nice. I need something like that this time--stressfree holidays.

[Skittles]

9. WR, just cut her off

DO NOT TOLERATE GUILT TRIPPING. I had a gal at work in tears on the phone, her mom was doing that - I hung up the phone for her - I told her DO NOT TOLERATE THIS BEHAVIOR. When mom called back she was much more apologetic and toned it down a bit.